How To Explain India's Rape Culture

Posted September 16, 2013 from India

When the majority of the nation was celebrating the sentencing of the four accused in the brutal gang rape and murder of a young physiotherapist in Delhi, one of the defense lawyers of the accused, in response to the verdict given to the four men, comes out and tells the media -" Why don't people control their daughters first ? If my daughter was having pre-marital sex and moving around at night with her boyfriend, I would have burnt her alive."

When we have such embedded misogynist attitude of shaming and victim blaming, harsher punishments and stricter laws would never be sufficient to end crimes against women.

Until there is a general consensus that recognizes women as not only equal but deserving of dignity and respect, there is little to cheer about the verdict of the Delhi gang rape case.

We are in a situation where every single woman is in danger. We live in a country where the popular notion of the general public remains that preventing a rape is somehow always the victims' duty.

I am scared. What if Nirbhaya 's ( one of the names given to the 23 year-old brave heart) story is repeated again? I am scared. What if the victim is blamed again?

I hope that the sentencing of the four accused in the Delhi gang rape do not distract people from questioning the more important part of why Indian girls and women are so vulnerable to sexual violence?

The solution lies in shaking up and challenging the old and cruel patriarchal mindset, which glorifies and even accepts violence against its women as normal. The solution lies when women's safety is priority not just for the state but for each individual of that country, who condemns and challenges the second class status of women in their society.

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Cali gal Michelle
Sep 16, 2013
Sep 16, 2013

Mukut- I very much appreciate this look into these cultural behaviors from your vantage point. It is a topic of much interest to me, however difficult with which to emotionally engage. The safety of women and children is of utmost importance. In addition, I truly believe that change begins at the heart level, and we must find ways to challenge those beliefs and attitudes so that behaviors can truly and permanently be transformed.

As always, thank you for your passion.

Yvette Warren
Sep 16, 2013
Sep 16, 2013

How brave and articulate you are, Mukut! You are a true journalist with passion to propel you and what you believe. So many journalists fulfill their assignments and then walk away, but you follow your stories like a heat-seeking missile. We need more citizen journalists who see their mission as investigative journalists and tell the stories from beginning to end.

Any woman of intelligence would be happy to call you daughter, even though any true mother would share your fear. I, for one, will understand if you decide not to continue speaking the truth to and about power. I continue to be rejected, silenced, and treated as insane for speaking out in 2013 United States of America. Several have tried to institutionalize me to silence my voice.

Men have been afraid of the reproductive and persuasive powers of women for many millenia. The feminist movement that vilifies men only makes their fears worse. Men who feel afraid attack that of which they are afraid. I don't know how to turn our societies to true equal opportunity and partnerships, but I pray daily that you young people find the path to peace that our earth so sorely needs. Blessings to you. Yvette

Julie Collura
Sep 17, 2013
Sep 17, 2013

Well stated, Mukut. Thank you for posting.

Sep 18, 2013
Sep 18, 2013

Dear Mukut, Thank you for putting on paper the truth about who is to blame for Indian girls/women being raped and then blamed for the crime. I really don't understand how this attitude by men got started, that abusing women is acceptable. Keep up the good writing--in the end it will make a difference. William

Sep 18, 2013
Sep 18, 2013

Mukut, again you provoke us to look inward and question our societies, whether India or the US, and ask ourselves how it is that the incidence of rape is increasing and in nearly all rape cases, victims are shamed, scrutinized, demonized, and blamed. Alas, I do not have ready answers.

I am however grateful that women such as yourself will not let this issue be buried and will keep it alive until all women feel safe to walk freely in their own neighborhoods. Thank you.

Amanda Houck
Sep 18, 2013
Sep 18, 2013


You are suggesting a total shift in the perception of women by men/society. This appears like a big request, but it's not. You and your friends have the power to not accept it. To speak about it. To stand tall with your intellect and not let silence instill this brutal state of India to continue.

You are incredibly brave and intelligent.

Thank you for sharing this story and I hope that we will hear of progress from you.