No child chooses the family to be born into because if one has to choose many will choose to be born in a better family especially if the present family is poor because being born in a poor home, one has to strive daily in order to survive and all your actions has consequences which might be positive or negative.
I knew I took the wrong direction in life especially as a teenager ( I call this phase of life Danger Time). As a teenager I had to do so many good and bad things in order to survive which ranged from house help, babysitter (in some homes I was molested and sexually abuse), Hawking of food stuffs to selling of my self to get enough money for my education. And luck was on my side because I made it great in school.
I got my GCE Ordinary level exams and had to live my hometown to further studies in another town in the Northwest region of my country (Santa). As life has it ,that everything has consequences it was my turn to get it. I got pregnant while preparing to write my final year exams in high school. Yes I got pregnant at 18. I was the first to get pregnant out of wedlock in my family and clan especially at that age. Since I was a hustler, I decided to stay away from my family. I told no one I was pregnant ,I didn't want to be a burden to anyone so I stayed in Santa and did gardening in order to get money and take care of myself. The father of my baby was visiting and leaving since we were not in the same town. It was not easy doing it alone but I had to take the consequences of my actions. I was 6 months gone when the results of my high school exams came out and I succeeded. The father of my baby always advised me to go home to my parents and I decided to go home because atleast I succeeded in my exams. I was 8 months gone when I decided to home.
When I arrive ,they were all amazed ,my mum wept and wept. I felt I had disappointed them but my parents said I had paid for my sins especially living alone in my condition. They all accepted me and treated me with so much love.
On the 09/11/2014, I gave birth to my daughter barely one month after my arrival and I called her Momo. My family loved her so much. The first grand daughter of a child( as they called me). When friends and family came for visit they said "a child has given birth to a child". I am so proud of her ,though I am not proud of my past , I accept that my past was part of Transformation.
After that I decided to go back to school but this time many opted to help me especially the father of my baby. I got enrolled in the University. After a while I decided to get married ,my daughter Two years of age . I wanted her to have a home , I didn't want my daughter and I to be a burden to them ,and my daughter's dad proved that he was going to take care of us.
Our traditional marriage was done and I got pregnant to my second baby and on the 22/11/2016 BiBi was born.
Every November my husband tells me "you gave me the world", to him the statement is to show gratitude because its our children's birth month but to me it means more , to me it means we have a lot to do as far as raising them is concerned. Because we have to raise a daughter, wife mother and a son,husband and a father. My daughter says she wants to become a musician while my son wants to be a doctor( what a difference) but there is this one thing they have in common. Its a moment I don't want to miss and that moment is cooking time.
When I am cooking my children wants to help ,Momo loves slicing tomatoes more Bibi peeling seasoning cubes. They all want to do one thing or the other. When this is going on, the smile ,laugh and collaborate. I look at them and this is where I derive hope for a better future. When they are working, I see a world void of marginalization, gender violence and hatred. All I see is collaboration, understanding and patience so that food should be ready . if they can do it for food then they will do it for other things.
In my kids I see hope for a better tomorrow. Though I am not a perfect mother especially as young as I am 22 ,I strive daily to bring them up in a way that when they grow up they should not depart from good ways. I believe the future is for the young people so let's endeavor to build up their mindset in a good way so that they won't repeat they mistakes of the past.