Life moves differently

Naheda Shaikh
Posted April 18, 2018 from India
My skill
I do embroidery on my dresses till today this is one of them
Photography
Photography : My first coursr of photography one of my passion (1/1)

A story of dream...

Life is so different than what we think, two stage of my life given me a lesson about he life, that do not try just fly with the flow of life's wish. When I completed my graduation, it was not possible for me to go out and do further study it was far from my home, my dad did not wanted me to go out and do study. I compromise, as it was my skill that I was able to do nice embroidery and dress design, thank god...!!! at least my dad support me to do fashion designing short term course, one day he came to me and show the admissions in university where travelling was easy for me. I join short term course of fashion designing, it was also one of my favorite work to start. 

I was about to finish my short term course, my exam was there and communal riots happen in my area, my teacher told me to not come to the class, because as a Muslim girl it was dangerous for me, Hindu community was attaching to the Muslim community. However, for me the fees paid by my dad was so important, that, if I drop my exam I have to pay the total fees again and give exam, I told to my teacher that, its ok I will manage but let me be here, my last one month only left I do not want to spend money again. I continue travelling in riots. I completed my all assignments and exam. When I was doing that course I also started designing and embroidery work for extra earning. It was settle now, around ten women was working with me, but because of riots they drop to coming for work at my workshop. It was quite difficult time for me, as I was mentally prepare to become, Fashion Designer, as also was trying to do Fashion Management study in best collage. But this was the time when I was not able to go out. Now what...???

I was doing some work at home, because outside atmosphere was not good, in terms of safety. One day, three girls come to meet me asked me to teach tailoring and embroidery work to riots affected women who was staying in the camps ( a place occupied temporary to them to stay) I thought ok it is good chance to be active, I went there and met them, I started teaching them, after three months almost, 25 women got training and started working, the NGO who has offered me this, has offered me to join with them full time, and asked me to become employee of them, I did not have any idea about the NGO work and I hear that about the NGO first time. It was the time when social worker and support was required by nice people. I join that NGO without knowing anything, this was the organization who are working with women empowerment and supporting women so they were there to support women who was affected in riots. I also join and started working. The thought to become a fashion designer was out of my mind, as I saw so many women in difficulty, some was harassed and raped by other community, it was the difficult time for them, I decide to be with them. 

I worked with the NGO for three years, after doing counseling, case opening, and health related work I was mentally disturb as my age was only 22 at that time, but I worked with fully dedication, after three years, I decided for my further study, and left the organization. But, what to study, as I was in NGO people suggested me to join social work course, but I was also working in radio station simultaneously and I was writing, so journalism was also in my mind, now the struggle start again, I saw murder in front of my house which was not properly reported by the news channel and newspaper so I thought to become a honest journalist, and one who can give authentic data and reporting to the people. So, thought to join journalism course, but still people was forcing me to join social work I was so confuse, It took two years to decide what to do, but I did what was in my mind strongly, because to provide information to the people and real and authentic information is must, I can do social work after become journalist and I am doing, then finally I clear journalism exam and become journalist, and I am trying to give real authentic information to the people. 

I do never trust on people who say, it is not doubt but sometime we see differently, so I do that, I visit the place confirm the situation then speak, I love my job and it is also give satisfaction...how the life is moving, my dream was to become Fashion Designer, but my destiny was to become journalist, so that, I am saying, that do not try anything, everything is happening own their own, life is giving us the best, and what is best for us... 

 

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Olutosin
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Beautiful, I love your boldness. Have you tried working in the NOG as a volunteer in your spare time? You will also work full time as a journalist. Keep on doing us proud my sister.

Naheda Shaikh
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Hi,

Thank you very for reading, yes I do work volunteer, whenever get free time, or community need my support. Recently I visited Kashmir, shared my story that project also I am doing as a volunteer.

Thanking,
Love & Regards,

Naheda

Jill Langhus
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Hi Naheda. Thanks for sharing your story on ambition, honesty and following your intuition. I love that you follow your intuition and what's right for you. You will never be steered wrong as long as you follow your intuition and love what you do:-)

Naheda Shaikh
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Hi Jill,

You got the point, I have very strong and right intuitions, and always follow it. I am happy I am getting what is best for me.

And thank you so much for reading.

Love & regards,

Naheda

Jill Langhus
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Hey there:) Sounds great! You should be happy. Not everyone does. You are blessed:-)

You're very welcome. Have a great day!

Tamarack Verrall
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Dear Naheda,

What a strong and talented young woman you are! So much is wrapped up in this story, how you were able to persevere through initial reluctance by your father to support your education, how you have been able through all of the considerations and choices you have had to make to hold on to what your passions are, embroidery, fashion designing, both beautiful arts, photography, journalism, support for other women, and all through staying safe through terrible and dangerous times in your community. I love that with everything offered and through public pressures, you have this clear inner vision that you are holding onto firmly. Yes, in life there is this way that everything happens on its own, but it takes a profound spirit to embrace it while being true to that inner voice. Design, photograph, write and explore on, dear sister.

Tam

Naheda Shaikh
Apr 18, 2018
Apr 18, 2018

Dear Tam,

Thank you so much for reading and excellent analysis of my writing, I am what I have at present I also do paintings. which I was not able to do after dad passed away but slowly started again. Hope will share that also with you.

Love & regards,

Naheda

SIMON MUREU
Apr 02, 2019
Apr 02, 2019

And never will it be straight moving