Breaking rules

Naheda Shaikh
Posted November 12, 2019 from India

In my last post I have shared a simple poetry dedicated to my baby. I have baby girl will turn to one next month. 

I want to share my experience during pregnancy. I was qualified  well settled person, I have concerned about other women who are not able to understand and not able to ask questions. 

So many myths about the pregnancy is there in our society in India, where I am staying in town place. 

I have started reading weekly development of baby and I was having food as per requirement. I was very clear with my balanced mind and body. 

However, I struggle with lots of questions and advise given by others, even who has not single child. 

I advise to not eat some specific food which I understand was it's a personal matter as per body requirement. But  women most of the time advise me, do and don't s. 

Whenever I go to market with my made, I purchased fruits and veggies what I eat regular but every time she asked me to not eat at least one fruit or vegetable. No papayas, no pineapple. No more milk otherwise baby will get creamy body which is difficult her to come out. 

My neighbor anty told not to eat blue berries (jamun), and the dangerous advise given by her was, when labor pain start I have to eat egg shell powder with water, baby will come out easily. Oh god! I was not eating eggs as I was not feeling better with that and that advise was really horrible for me. 

The funniest thing happened when someone also advise what make your baby's skin fair. I thought I am also not so fair , I am accepted by people and society  So what if my baby will not fair? 

It's not end with only food, even some community members also suggest not to wear specific dress and saree. 

It's a end less in nine months, I am so much worried about other women who can not ignore this kind of advise because of their knowledge. 

At last, I will sum up with my own experience, I had all kind of food but healthy food. Did so much reading. And, I was doing yoga and meditation every day. 

And ,I have blessed with wonderful angel, with smily face. 

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Lisbeth
Nov 12
Nov 12

Hi Naheda,
You made me laughed with this your post. You are interesting woman. A big congrats on your smiling baby. I like this your statement, it made me laugh seriously. "It's not end with only food, even some community members also suggest not to wear specific dress and saree. "

How can affect your baby s coming. I think it's just the culture and not physically effect.
Thanks for sharing and have a great week.
Hugs

Naheda Shaikh
Nov 13
Nov 13

Hi,

Thank you so much for reading. Yes it's a culture and myths in rural areas, even also come to know first time because I got pregnant first time :) but i am worried about other women they are not eating some healthy food because of others and getting sick and affect on baby also.
It's a serious issue as well.
Thanks dear

Love
Naheda

Lisbeth
Nov 13
Nov 13

OMG! That would be risky!
Now you got a project namely " Healthy Living for Pregnant women's" haha
Regards

Naheda Shaikh
Nov 13
Nov 13

I think I should start this project soon

Jill Langhus
Nov 13
Nov 13

Hello Dear Naheda,

Welcome back and a big welcome to our newest, and youngest World Pulse member. What is your angel's name, dear? I'm so glad that you didn't follow any of that abominable advice. People need to follow their own intuition and what works for them. And making the baby fairer.... eeek. I dread to think what advice you were going to get on that one. Love the baby photos on FB, btw... too cute:-)

Hope you and your lovely angel are doing very well, and having a great week! You're so blessed:-)

XX

Naheda Shaikh
Nov 13
Nov 13

Hi Jill,

Thanks a lot for reading my words, my angel's name is Prapti means achievement. And she is wonderful gift by God.
Thank you so much.
Love
Naheda

Jill Langhus
Nov 15
Nov 15

Hello dear:-)

You're very welcome! She's such a sweetie:-) Yes, she sure is.

Hope you have a great weekend, love:-)

XX

Beth Lacey
Nov 13
Nov 13

What an experience for you! I am glad you were able to read, do yoga, etc. Congratulations on your daughter

Naheda Shaikh
Nov 13
Nov 13

Thank you so much dear

Love
Naheda

Hello, Naheda,

Thank you for sharing the struggles you face as a pregnant woman. Oh, we in the Philippines can relate to you. We have a lot of those myths and superstitions, too. It's a long list, too! Haha.

This goes to show how women care so much for the unborn child that they only want the best for the baby.

Please enjoy your last moments in this pregnancy. I hope you will have a smooth delivery and a healthy baby.

I hope you can share a photo of your newborn here in the future.

Anita Shrestha
Nov 14
Nov 14

Dear SIs
thank you for posting amazing

River
Dec 01
Dec 01

Congratulations on your baby daughter! I think everywhere in the world people want to tell pregnant women what to do! I’m glad you were able to trust yourself and your body, but I understand your concern for mother’s who don’t have access to information or are influenced and confused by everyone’s opinions!