Women at the Edge

Nailantei
Posted July 23, 2020

I come from a rural indegenious community in Kenya, Africa. I was raised in a tiny remote village in the outsckirts of the greate Rift Valley. I was born to a rude shock of angry father and aggroup because my mother gave birth to a girl instead of a boy. The celebration was just but a few ululations by the women and a ram was slaughtered instead of a bull. I was given away to my grandmother to raise me to enable my mom bring forth another child hopefully a boy to appease my fathers. My life is characterized by a daily routine of waking up at 5am in the monirning to help mom milk the cows and do the house chores over the day including fetching water, fetching firewood, washing clothes and utensils among other chores. I managed to join school with the effort of my mother who faught the traditional odds that girls are not to go to school and managed to complete Primary school. During this time my uncles reported that i have learned enough and now i am ready for marriage after undergoing circumcision. I had no choice but to undergo the cut. I refused to be married off and joined and completed high school then proceeded to the University. Today my desire is to go back and educate my community on the importance of empowering a girl, and raise funds to support the poor illiterate women that are bound in poverty because of lack of knowledge and reasource. I would like to tell my fathers that a girl is a child just like the boy and she too has rights. 

I have started in my own little way doing mentorship of girls physically and even through the media. One such girl was resetly enrolled into the university and i plan to mentor more with your kind support.

 

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Nini Mappo
Jul 23
Jul 23

Dear Nailantei,
It is so sad to hear your story. And to know that your story would have been different had you been born in a community where a girl is just as much a child as a boy.

But to have come from being denied and education to graduating university is such a story of courage and resilience and determination. Well done! and to your mum who fought for you against traditionally minded men and won!
It is even more beautiful to read that your experience has led you along a path of mentoring girls, and that you are already beginning to see fruit. Good on you and yes to many more girls under your mentor-ship rising above traditional gender roles and becoming change makers in their world

Also, I love the little gourd in your hand:)

Nailantei
Jul 23
Jul 23

Thank you very much for your kind words. It is very encouraging to hear from you Nini.

Hello, Nailantei,

Welcome to World Pulse! I'm so happy that a new voice from Kenya is rising up!

What a tough life you have! It definitely helped you develop discipline. You're so brave to defy marriage and pursue your studies. Thank you for inspiring us with your story.

Please keep on writing. We would love to know more about you. I hope you can connect to our global sisters and access opportunities on the Resources Page.

I'm looking forward to reading more from you. Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

Nailantei
Jul 23
Jul 23

Thank you very much.

ARREY- ECHI
Jul 23
Jul 23

Dear Nailantei,
Happy to have you here on the pulse.
Thank you for sharing you sad but inspiring story. Your ability to rise above the odds and be willing to mentor other girls avoid what you went through because of social constructs is a testament to the strength of a woman.
I pray your desires come through.
With love

Nailantei
Jul 23
Jul 23

Thank you very much Arrey for your kind encouraging words.

Chi8629
Jul 23
Jul 23

Thank you for sharing ,
Iam so sorry for what you
Have been through ,iam so
Happy that you were able to achieve your goals by going to school . You are so amazing and sweet for trying to give back to your society. Thank you .

Nailantei
Jul 23
Jul 23

I am really encouraged by your kind words. thank you

Nab
Jul 23
Jul 23

You're amazing. I'm happy that you overcame the odds and fought for your rights. And your taking another person under your wings. Like I said before, you're amazing

Nailantei
Jul 23
Jul 23

Thank you very much Nab, i am encouraged by your kind words

Stacie Dickson
Jul 25
Jul 25

Hello Dear One,
Your life is so special and is as equally valuable as a boy. I’m so sorry you had to endure feeling unwanted but I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself . You will have a great life and you will empower many!!!