The Main Foundation Of A Strong Family - Yasmin Mogahed

Najwa Kareem
Posted August 31, 2019 from United States

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2cfZ6bKMrM

"And I want to make another very important point because I believe a lot of our families have fallen apart because of losing this one concept and that is that I believe that a lot of our families once children come into the equation, the...the foundation of the family no longer becomes the marriage and it becomes the children and that's actually a mistake. The foundation of a family IS THE MARRIAGE and when the marriage is strong, the family is strong but when we start to shift that focus and instead we give precedence and we and we in fact do injustice to the marriage for the sake of the children - when we do that, we are actually harming the children and the marriage and the family and so what we have to do from the very beginning is understand that THE FOUNDATION OF A STRONG FAMILY is a STRONG MARRIAGE and this idea that investing in your marriage is being selfish needs to be removed; that people need to go back to investing in their relationship and they need to stop making the entire focal point the children. That becomes unhealthy not only to the children but even to the marriage and the family itself."  Yasmin Mogahed

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Jill Langhus
Sep 02
Sep 02

Hi Najwa,

I agree with this point that you have shared. Thanks for sharing.

Najwa Kareem
Sep 03
Sep 03

My pleasure.

Hello, Najwa,

I agree. Strong families are results of strong marriages. A healthy society is a product of strong families. It's very important to make marriages a priority if one decides to enter into that commitment.

Thank you for sharing!

Najwa Kareem
Sep 03
Sep 03

My pleasure.

Najwa Kareem
Sep 03
Sep 03

Establishing Godly marriages, establishing healthy marriages, establishing fulfilling marriages, establishing functional marriages, establishing loving marriages, establishing marriages that we want to and like to marvel at absolutely need to be put back on the to do list. Doing so all starts with focusing and improving oneself. Making oneself more Godly. Making oneself more healthy. Making oneself more loving. Making oneself more functional and so on. More often than not, these things are not done before a man or a woman enters into a marriage and as a result, his or her marriage is problematic from the very start.

Najwa Kareem
Sep 04
Sep 04

Another reason many of our marriages and many of our families are falling apart is because the wife or the wife and the mother is wearing too many hats. She chooses to overextend herself. By choice and however she comes to make this choice, she is doing more than she can realistically handle in a day's time, day after day after day. When this occurs, many aspects of the family unit fails. Many people within the family including the wife or the wife and the mother herself suffer on a number of levels and in a number of ways. Often "superwomen" don't eat healthy foods adequately and don't get adequate sleep on a daily or regular basis. Many go without eating breakfast or instead eat unhealthy food or shall I say a snack for breakfast which as we know breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Going without it is like starting a car in the morning and driving it during the day without sufficient gasoline. How then can it be expected that one whose nutrition and sleep are compromised will have a healthy and functional marriage and family life? One has to know and one has to accept that one can't have it all despite society saying it is possible. One can't have it all at one time. Things come and happen in stages. One can't do it all and one can't be good at it all. We as humans have to reject the notion that society pushes down our throats that women are and can be superwomen. This is a big fat lie. Capitalism and capitalistic societies benefit from a superwoman. A family including all of its immediate family members as well as its extended family members does not.

Knowing one's limits is the key to success in all areas of life, that of marriage, family, and everything else.

Najwa Kareem
Sep 03
Sep 03

Another key contributor to the breakdown of marriages and families is that all members be they husband and wife or be they husband/father, wife/mother, and child/children are not playing or fulfilling their roles to the level that is needed for the success and stability of the whole, that is, of the marriage and/or of the family. Typically, you have a few or some doing their part and the others doing less than their part. Just like in a play, it takes all who have a role in the play to equally act well in order for the play to be a success. Just like that of a building, it takes all structures to be solid, in good condition, and extending for the building to be stable and strong.