grown up too early

Namadi
Posted September 23, 2019 from Kenya
I am a Girl
I am a Girl: Today as I am (1/1)

A first born of four siblings, I had to grow up very quickly.

My mother, a teacher, never entertained children or childishness and as a first born, I had no excuse for any of my sisters not doing anything they were supposed to do or doing it. I had to accept the mistakes of others as my own or be beaten for not accepting or accepting, whichever took her fancy. Mark you, my mother is an amazing woman, raised us with an iron fist and we turned out well. But as a child that iron fist was like a rock that knocked me every day and left me breathless. Being a teachers daughter I was expected to be on my best behavior at all times, to tow the line and never ever be found on the wrong.

This deprived me of the much needed childhood that i needed then. I had to grow up very fast and suppress any longings I had out of what my mother required for me. As a result I became the darling of the estate and a reference point of mothers with errant children or example to those who are younger than me. This made my mother proud, but inside me.......?This went on even in my school. Teachers gave and left me with responsibilities which I felt were beyond my years and made to work hard to perform to the satisfaction of my mother and teachers.

This was all good, but it deprived me of my childhood. I grew up too quickly and I didn't play as much as i wanted, I didn't socialize as much as I should have, I didn't have friends, most of them were afraid of me. I was called a book worm, gloomy and stuffy. I did not riot, never went into a disco or even a movie. My path was lined out for me by my mother, And I HATED IT.

I lived a pretend life because it was expected of me!

As an adult, I would have had a difficult time, had I not met Jesus and He transformed my life. I was able to accept some things and found a new meaning to life. If it wasn't my knowing Jesus I would have become a rebel and ended up badly for it had started to happen

On this day of the girl, let's all remember that this girl is also a child and needs to be given opportunities to be so. To enjoy their childhood.

Everybody born has a childhood, but non of us are guaranteed adulthood or even old age, lets create childhood memories for our girls, let's make it enjoyable and fun and not a case of endurance.

 

 

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Anita Shrestha
Sep 23
Sep 23

Dear Namdi
Photo and your topic is so attractive. Therefore it is nice piece for every body. I hope to study more in coming future.

Regards

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 23
Sep 23

Dear Namadi,
That is a lot of pressure and expectation put on you as a young girl. You have a strong spirit to have made it through, able to imagine so well through your message to girls, what every child deserves. Your loving spirit shines through your photo. "...lets create childhood memories for our girls..." Yes!

Lisbeth
Sep 24
Sep 24

Dear Namdi,
I hope you are doing well and enjoying life. I agree with Anita on the picture. It's a nice shot.
Thanks very much for sharing your childhood story with us. How amazing!
Have a great day.
Regards

Hello, beautiful Namadi,

I understand. I was the eldest to four of my siblings, too. I had to grow up quickly, and much of the responsibilities at home were given to me. I, too, was expected to model good behaviour. If my siblings acted badly, it was my fault. I'm glad you found refuge in Jesus, and it has transformed you. :)
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, let's create great childhood memories for girls. Let's be who we needed when we were young girls. :)

Sep 24
Sep 24
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Tarke Edith
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Mandi
Thank God you were up to the task , that is why you are a strong woman today.

Tarke Edith
Sep 24
Sep 24

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Juliet Acom
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hi Namadi,

Thank you for sharing your story. It is after growing up that I realised that most first born children become assistant parents and are expected to be exceptional over achievers to set the right path for their siblings.
This could be tough on a child. We thank God for salvation and this super turn around. You are a true phenomenal woman

Be blessed!

Beth Lacey
Sep 27
Sep 27

Happy childhood memories last a lifetime

Nabila Abbas
Oct 06
Oct 06

Hello, i loved reading your powerful piece :)