"He, could be the key"

Nagwa Nasr
Posted February 7, 2018 from Egypt

As a professional journalist, I've encountered many cases and stories show the bias and the oppression that women in middle East including my self are dealing with, "women are nothing they are blunt and retarded" those words were included from latest report was released by "The National Center for Social and Criminalogical research (Ncscr) after making a referendum among group of men from different levels of education and social classes.

This disaster report can be connected to many crimes still committ against females in society , like sexual harassment, verbal and physical assult, oppression , if we analysis the reasons behind this behavior will Discover many elements

First, the wrong interpretation to many religious beliefs such as women and the how they are treated , due to the dominant control of the fanatics And the salafis clerics who constantly dwelling females with sin with an assurance that the majority of women will be burst in hell at judgment day!!

Second, the momentum of the villagers and the famine who imposed many traditional costumes and behaviors like Al bourque means the black thick vail the covers women from head to toe, and not allowed to take it off outside her house,also the culture of marriage of minor girls nevertheless it has been banned and became illegal .

As a result ,majority of women surrendered to this elements brain washed, forming a league against any female stands or took the lead to break through this behaviors or try to change it.

For instance I myself for going against the tide for not wearing the veil been boycott from fellow workers even one of them came towards me once with angery face shouting ,God will punish you by cancer so your hair will fall then you'll were veil.

"Even so I will wore a beautiful Weg, or a gorgeous extensions" I replied with a smile.

All this made me came out with some solutions maybe one day, hopefully soon things will change

First, chosing the right partner to raise your children with in a loving, respectable, creative environment.

Second, don't buy toys to your son define genders, let him choose what he wants.

Third, schools must manifeste an equall rolls fullfil by both genders, and cultivate the roots of sincere friendship between the two genders.

Fourth, Media and journalism outlets must have a unity in plan to create a respectable materials to encourage young men and boy to respect women by making a spotlight to all women leaders, and the successful ones

Finally, bann all the fanatics from taking the lead , and prevent them from manipulating both genders.

Written by,

Nagwa Nasr

This story was submitted in response to Bringing Up Boys .

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Jill Langhus
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

Hi Nagwa. Thanks for sharing your compelling story on all the biases and some of the challenges that Middle Eastern women face. I'm happy to hear that you chosen not to wear the veil, but it's sad that you are experiencing so much negativity/hatred around it. I will never understand what people are so afraid of. It's not their life or their choice, bottom line. I really like your suggestions on solutions for change. These suggestions would definitely help move your country, and others toward more respect and equality. 

Nagwa Nasr
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

Thank you for the lovely words

Jill Langhus
Feb 08, 2018
Feb 08, 2018

You're very welcome:) Hope you have a good day!

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

You are so brave for taking a stand, Nagwa. I share your frustration on how unequal some religion treat women. The oppression you face resulted into strong practical steps in raising men.

I truly agree that it begins with choosing a man who values gender equality. 

Nagwa Nasr
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

Thank you

Olutosin
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

You are a warrior. You will conquer. I write to commend you for your bravery. May Almighty God protect you Amen.

What will men hai with all these bad behaviors? I don't know the gain.

Secondly, I write to inform you that your solutions will not only work but it will be adopted. It's just a matter of time. You will win in the end. Yesterday, I read that its 100 years anniversary of Women's Right to VOTE in America. Once upon a time, women were denied their right to vote, but today, it has become history.

One day, sooner than expected, Women will win this war again and all this agitation will become history.

Let us continue in this struggle and in this might, we shall overcome.

There is a proverb in my tribe in Nigeria that says, if heavenly beings are running after you, keep on running because just as you are getting tired, so also are the heavenly beings are getting tired.

We shall keep on fighting, patriarchy is getting tired of all its stupid power.

Thanks so much for sharing your story.

Nagwa Nasr
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

Thank you so much, indeed the struggle and the fighting still on

 Surrendering is not an option