Deep from within

Nayiga Faridah
Posted September 12, 2019 from Uganda

Today I had nothing to say, so I thought of sharing my personal self from within. Growing up I was taught to be the mature one, the bravest and understanding one since I was the oldest. I have always kept everything to my self never having to share my feelings. This has affected me greatly, often afraid of expression, rejection and explaining myself to others why I have done so. Often I can't say what o I want, ignore what I don't need. I realised that things don't work out if you don't say a word, you never achieve anything without a word. I would love to help many people but often I can't say a word. I want to change many things. I want to express myself better. I want to change my community. I want to be part of conversations. I want my voice to be heard!!!  Help me change myself to the best version I can be!!! How do I get rid of shyness?!!! How do I become a public person?!!! 

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Hello, Sister Nayiga,

You are brave for sharing your desire to be the best version of yourself to us. Your post resonates with me. I am the eldest, too, with four younger siblings. Growing up, I always admire those who can easily speak out their mind and engage in conversations because I used to be very shy and silent to the point that when I speak, my voice cracked. There were times that my tears would fall when I attempt to speak up.

You have a great heart, and your intention to help people is admirable. What do you think are the things that hold you back why you can't say what you want?

World Pulse is a safe space to process your thoughts and our sisters will be there to encourage you along the way. You can be exactly what you want to be. You have the power to make it so. :)

Thank you for sharing.

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

Am afraid to speak in public
Fear of embarrassment and at times afraid of judgement from others.
My voice cracks when I try to speak.

Hello, dear sister,

Ohhh. I can totally relate to you. It takes a lot of practice to do that. Even great speakers feel nervous in public speaking. It's very natural. The good news is it's a skill that we can learn and develop.

Yes, I hear you on fear. I found it helpful to focus on improving my communication skills, and receive feedback on how to improve. As for people's judgment, we couldn't control that, but we can teach ourselves to avoid listening to those people. It takes practice. You can start small.

You can also read about topics that interest you so you can be confident on what you say. Let's take baby steps.

Just keep writing on World Pulse, that's one way to develop a communication skill, too.

Lisbeth
Sep 12
Sep 12

Dear Nayiga,
Sorry you have to go through these during your childhood. I can't agree with you less with the steps you are talking to revamp yourself.
It shall be well. I will read through some of our sisters profiles and a matching profile will be of help to you. You can also do the searching.
Take care !

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

Thank you dear

Lisbeth
Sep 13
Sep 13

Welcome :-)

ANJ ANA
Sep 12
Sep 12

Dear Nayiga,
The sharing of willingness is the first step of your initiation. Congratulations, you know well what you want to be, so you just need to determine some steps to be carried out.
From my personal experience, what I can say is to practice before you share any opinion in public. To strengthen your points, listen to others and think a bit and organize your points in writing. it will help you to make your points better. Don't afraid to put your feelings or sharing your thoughts and don't scare of rejection. No one is perfect and it's completely fine to be rejected sometime, it will help you to think more about that or work on that point to make things better or make it more valid. Even in rejection, you will still get space to learn from your own practice. I was also like you and still not so good at putting my ideas in table till now. Believe me, no one is going to remember your points forever and judge you for your thoughts only, it will only remain for a while, so don't afraid of speaking. My voice and tone used to be shakey and very different when I to talk in public, I worked hard and still working hard on this, with lots of practice gradually I am improving. So I hope my experience and learning mentioned here might be helpful to you, my sister.
All the best and keep updating us.
Warm regards,
anjana .

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

Thank you dear, I will try my best

Anita Shrestha
Sep 13
Sep 13

Dear Sister,
You could speak. Try, Try, Try and never thought you are bad. You always thought you are good speaker.

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

Thank you

Jill Langhus
Sep 13
Sep 13

Hello Dear Nayiga,

How are you doing? It looks like you have received some lovely sisterhood support here. I'm very impressed.

You have a very strong intention so you are on the right trajectory as far as change goes, and receptivity to it, too. If you could do one thing now, what would it be, as far as either change within yourself, or change in the community? It really helps to get super clear about what we want in order for it to become a reality easier.

Also, I would say, too, to embrace who you are rather than force who you may not be. What I mean is, if you're naturally an introvert, you may not want to force yourself to be an extrovert, but if you are an extrovert that has just found it hard to speak up in the past, there will be no holding you back, once you have started speaking up. Either way, please always be true to you, dear!

XX

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

I think I have always been an introvert, I am always scared of speaking and don't go out in public. I like my space and don't associate much. I get ao uncomfortable around people. How do I go from there?

Jill Langhus
Sep 14
Sep 14

I hear you, and that's great. You're probably a deep thinker. Most introverts are; like me:-) But our fears don't define us. It's always important to remember that real change, growth and transformation happen when we move out of our comfort zones. No one expects you to be perfect, dear. Just keep trying and moving toward your goal. When you have found your passion and purpose, your drive will trump any insecurities that you may have, real or perceived. Baby steps are always a good way to start. Are there any baby steps that you can think of to do that would move you toward your goal? Meeting up with a friend to chat? Joining a community group, even if you don't say a thing for the first, second, or even third times?

It's okay to be uncomfortable around people, too. I do as well. I feel a lot of energy around me and don't do well in crowds, but that's okay. Not everyone is the same. That's what makes our world so beautiful; diversity. When I need to be strong or go in a crowd, I give myself a little pep talk, tell myself it will be okay, center myself and ask for guidance from my guides and angels (or whoever you are most aligned with) for extra confidence and courage. Then, we you are in that situation you are ready and you just breathe through it. When you're done, you'll realize it wasn't that bad and the next time will get easier. That's what I have found. I hope this helps. I know you can do it, dear!!! I'm proud of you, as I'm sure all of our sisters within the community are. You are destined for great things... even if it's a community from your home. Don't set hard expectations/goals on yourself. Start small, and then build up. If it doesn't feel right, honor that. If it's just fear, push yourself to move past it so it's easier the next time. You've got this!!

XX

DrSpirit
Sep 13
Sep 13

Hello Nayiga,

You have made a very big successful step at being heard by creating your post to World Post. Take the time to be still in meditation. Journal your thoughts. Use these thought to create meaningful writings from your heart. Share your writings. Trust that your words will touch the heart of others.

Abundant Blessings.

Nayiga Faridah
Sep 13
Sep 13

Amen

Juliet Acom
Sep 14
Sep 14

Hello Faridah,

Thank you for sharing your inner most fears with us, to me it is a bold first step into opening up and expressing yourself.
The one thing you need to know is that you are not alone because world pulse is full of siatrs who would love to walk this journey with you - one step at a time, one day at a time; you will get there!
Your story has made me realise how big the emotional and physical demands i have put on my older siblings are. I am making it a point to check on them more often.

I do hope we shall hear from you more often on this personal journey.

Have a pleasant weekend

Tarke Edith
Sep 15
Sep 15

Hello Nayiga
Thanks for sharing your story from within, you are in the right place , your syhnee is going to desapere ,as long as you are here.