The story of my life

Nazhat shakir
Posted October 11, 2017 from Pakistan

Life is a beautiful name of struggle. Struggle to accomplish our dreams, struggle to deal with the hardships of our lives and most important, struggle to overcome the faults in our stars. The story of my life begins in the beautiful valley of chitral, which is one of the peaceful and Eco loving valley of Pakistan. Being a calm and humble person I feel as chitral has placed a deep impact on my nature which gives me immense pleasure to connect myself with the valley I adore the most. A flashback to my childhood reminds me of my odd nature among my siblings and cousins. My mom usually tells me, I used to sit in the front stairs of my home’s entrance noticing people busy with their lives giving a node of yes or no without talking to them directly. She teases me with the fact she thought of me as a dumb girl which for sure I am not. It was my introvert nature which distanced me from the people around.

The episode of my childhood which is completely different from my present is my lack of interest in studies. It is usual with children but my case was more complicated. Being a daughter of a teacher I was expected more, which always irritated me. The worst experience was studying from my dad. I used to find pretends to escape studying from him. Fortunately he has inherited a short temper, which I feared the most while studying. I used to pity myself on one side being weak in studies and on the other side monitoring by a person playing a double role of father and a teacher. I considered him the cruelest teacher of my life but to be very much honest he is the one to shape my life. He is the first person of my life whom I credit the most not only for being my father but my 1st teacher. He brought me up as a strong girl both morally and educationally. His support as a father means world to me. He is not only the best teacher and the best dad but more appropriately the best friend of my life. He is such a nice and friendly dad that we can share anything with him. We can talk about any topic which I have seen other girls being not able to do. In a nut shell my dad is the best person in general and the best father in particular.

My story would be half revealed if I don’t consider my life changing experience in Aga khan higher secondary school kuragh(AKHSS). Memories can fade with time but my days in AKHSS would be forever alive. It was a match less life which I spent in AKHSS and made me able today I can express myself. . Excitement was on its peak on the very 1st day of schooling in AKHSS, apart from attending one of the best schools of chitral to meeting different students throughout chitral. The inspirational session with Madam Sultana the principal of AKHSS was the key towards our success. She holds the position of one of the inspirational women of chitral. She always encouraged us to do our best and plays the best role of changing our lives. I feel so blessed to have her as a part of my life.

My teachers’ description would be the miracle workers in my life. It will not be an exaggeration to say I would require half of my life to be able describing them. They polished us in such a way that we started believing in ourselves. They inculcated in us the wings to fly towards our destiny. Their purpose was not more into making us a literate person but educated. We started learning in AKHSS. It proved to be a trampoline for us where you stand and can jump to a better place. Those 5 years in AKHSS would be cherished by me as long as I have this life. I am grateful to AKHSS, Madam Sultana, my every single teacher and my friend who are the greatest part of my microcosm.

With a glee in my eyes and a smile on my face I stepped into university of Peshawar which added another chapter to my life. Being surrounded by Pakhtoons was an entirely new experience for me. I found pakhtoons very respectable and caring people and I made very good friends for lifetime. I spent my one year in UOP but staying there was a bit challenging for me. Coming from a liberal environment of AKHSS to Peshawar, I felt like I was caged. I couldn’t express myself and thus I could not study. When limitations are put one cannot do her best no matter how studious one is. I was not happy and dissatisfied and in that condition what exasperated me the most was when people expected me to cover my face. Once I went out with my dad he asked me cover my face with my duppata. I did not accept that, I told him I go out without my face covered so today in front of u why should I pretend. I have to live my whole life and I can’t maintain it and specially when I don’t believe in covering face can make any difference . I am not intended to offense any body’s emotions but I was not meant to hide my identity. I know my dad wanted my safety but just because of the bad intentions of some people we cannot stop living. Women have always been the symbol of sacrifice but common man, how long we will scarify things! Instead of caging us in veils why don’t you change your bad intentions? I will not hide my identity rather I will shine as the brightest star in the sky. We need to change our society where girls are taken away their freedom. We should not wait for the change to come but be the change we want to see.

I was in a constant quest of adding colors to my life. Suddenly twist came in my life in the form of Asian University for Women (AUW) Chittagong Bangladesh. AUW is a liberal arts university having students from the different countries of Asia. AUW is best known for its diversified environment which gives more opportunity to learn more. It was hard decision for me to leave my family and friends back in Pakistan and come to a different country. We know these types of hard decisions can lead to success. Here in AUW I feel much satisfied and look forward with a great hope to become a successful women after all I have a big Pakistan to serve. I believe that a woman with dreams and determination is always powerful, thus with a determined mind I have a dream to better serve and bring credit to my valley chitral and my beloved country Pakistan.

It would be injustice with her great self if I don’t consider the contribution she made in my life. it feels strange to talk about her in very formal way because that great personality is my sister Rakhshinda Shakir . There are very few people I am inspired of and she is one of those few. The way she cares about people, no matter how much people hurt her, I have never seen harsh feelings in her regarding those people. Thanks for my being one of the greatest support of my life. One reason I am here in Auw is you. The people who are part of my life no matter how far I am u are always special to me. You are the reason of my smile. Thank you for being the beautiful episode of the story of my life.

Nazahat shakir

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Jill Langhus
Oct 14, 2017
Oct 14, 2017

Hi Nazhat:) Welcome to World Pulse! Aw, you're Rakshi's sister... special welcome to you:) So what is your vision/dream for the future? Introverts are typically very deep thinkers and I suspect you have some tricks under your sleeve? I'm very impressed that you chose not to where a veil, too. I couldn't agree more. You may want to consider submitting a story for one or those who have inspired and shaped your life. There is a call for this subject now: https://www.worldpulse.com/en/voices-rising/story-awards/80218. Looking forward to seeing more from you:-)

Nazhat shakir
Oct 14, 2017
Oct 14, 2017

Hi Jilanghus! Thank you so much for going through my write up . yes Rakhshi is my elder sister! well I am really interested in studying religion and its impact on women specially Muslim women. On the other hand I have recently been much interested in documentary making and I have to work on my documentary making skills so that i can uncover women and their issues which are really influenced by religion! In our context religion plays a vital role in our day to day life and sometimes the misinterpretations become hamper in our ways which need to be considered! I am really glad to be part of world pulse and definitely i will be writing more to play my part in women empowerment ! Thank you so much for your encouragement :)

Jill Langhus
Oct 14, 2017
Oct 14, 2017

You're welcome:) Ah, yes. That would be interesting. I took a class for my undergrad studies on "Women and Religion" but it was primarily focused on Christianity and how it influenced modern day women. That would be interesting. There are a couple of Indian film makers on here, if you would like to connect with them? Perhaps they can give you inspiration or pointers on where to start, etc. Sounds great. Have a great day!

maeann
Nov 01, 2017
Nov 01, 2017

Hello Nazhat,

I am looking forward to more of your stories :) Welcome to World Pulse.