Dehumanizing Violence - "It Starts with Me"

Netsai Nomhle
Posted April 24, 2015 from Canada

Faces of violence have indeed evolved and not for the betterI’d often hear“If you see the man, you’d never think his the kind of man that would abuse his wife” or if you see the woman, you’d think she’s not the type to be abused”.For so long I thought you’d have to be a certain type of man, to be labeled as abusive or you had to be a certain kind of woman to be a victim. We stereotyped violence. We gave “Violence” a face, almost humanizing it. The aggressor, had to be male, chauvinistic , controlling, the list is endless. The victim had to be a woman, who was insecure, no sense of being and had no voice. We somehow set a standard of how the victim should be. Though, there’s now an uprising to “Stop Violence” around the globe, we can’t lose sight that the face of violence has indeed changed.

"The victim or the aggressor could be you or me" .

Violence sometimes goes unchecked because we gave it a face or a type. We need a movement to dehumanize violence.Violence has no type, has no face, it just is. It can exist in the goodlooking, educated, well spoken, well placed in life man or woman and that girl or boy who comes from an affluent family could be a victim. Violence does not only breed in poverty stricken areas or in men or women with security or controlling issues. Violence cannot be labeled with a face or type, for then, it will go unchecked. "We humanized it and gave it a face, aggressor or victim"

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Netsai Nomhle
Apr 24, 2015
Apr 24, 2015

http://www.msn.com/en-ca/news/canada/tisdale-killer-sent-photos-of-the-b...

The Faces of violence evolve everyday

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Apr 24, 2015
Apr 24, 2015

Dear Sister Netsai.

Lovely to find your article  and I agree to the Point mentioned by you that It Starts with Me. You need to take a stand to be there to fight against all the odds as it starts with Me only. If we start thinking and react accordingly we will defienately achive the success.

It was lovely knowing you.

DO take out some time and give your views on my write up , which is highly appreciated.

https://www.worldpulse.com/en/community/users/bharti-singh-chauh/posts/3...

Regards

Bharti Singh CHauhan

Pushpa Achanta
May 04, 2015
May 04, 2015

Dear Netsai,

Many thanks for raising a very crucial issue in a straightforward and simple manner. Dehumanizing is perhaps a way of countering stereotypes that hurt and harm many.

Continue the great work!

Warmly,

Pushpa

amymorros
May 04, 2015
May 04, 2015

Yes, you are correct. We can never assume that there is one kind of person that is a victim of violence (or the aggressor). Thank you for joining the Stop the Violence campaign and I look forward to learning more about your work.

Adanna
May 05, 2015
May 05, 2015

Dear Netsai,

I agree that sometimes violence goes unchecked especially when a high profile person, rich or famous is involved and I like your statement that "Violence does not only breed in poverty stricken areas or in men or women with security or controlling issues".

Not everyone is 'brave' enough to stand up to an agressor or speak out.

Thank you for speaking out!

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Adanna

William
May 06, 2015
May 06, 2015

Dear Netsai,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, in this well-written article. You bring up some fresh ideas and a different viewpoint. Hopefully, your article will open some minds and doors for women's human rights.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
May 16, 2015
May 16, 2015

Dear netsai,

Well said we have indeed humanized violence something thats very wrong. Thank you for giving us the real description of violence and indeed we have to be more proactive in this uprising against violence. Stay blessed my dear