Our sons, brothers, husbands were once boys before being men. At what point of their living do they rationalize being heard by using their weapon of choice towards a woman? Brought into this world by a woman,nurturedand raised by awoman, how did that boynormalizeviolence towardsa woman when he became a man? We are agenerationof labels and have excusedevery type ofbehaviorknown to man and increating these labels we have in our own rightnormalizedviolenceand is now a condition. The journey of victim and aggressor though different is one path.