I am kind to myself as would be to others.

Sophie Ngassa
Posted November 16, 2018 from Cameroon
At SanFrancisco Bay Area after WLW program
Feeling relaxed at Seme Beach Limbe cameroon.
Feeling relaxed at Seme Beach Limbe cameroon. (1/3)

As I follow my passion daily, I have attracted many females working in male dominated fields to collaborate with me compassionately.

It has been inspiring. I had the feeling of “Together we can break ALL those barriers that prevent our girls from pursuing STEM at school. Let’s have it done right NOW!”.

I was surprised by the increasing number of women in Tech who contacted me, wanting us to work on many different projects aimed at getting more girls to join STEM fields. Despite the concern and solidarity I was equally sad to discover the many inequalities that thousands of young women face at all levels if life. A situation that burdens my heart.

Being a committed person focused on goals, keeps me on my toes, always wanting to make the best happen in our community. I find it hard to turn down any demand for collaboration, even when I have a tight schedule and or limited resources.

Of course, I want to see every women thrive in using technology to solve social issues that affect them because I strongly believe that nothing is impossible.

I always find myself struggling to identify the activities and relationships that truly add value to my life and work, and intentionally make space for those meaningful things. When I feel exhausted, I start by accepting the fact that I am tired and need a break; next I put myself deliberately under control.

To keep going, I have made it a habit to give myself a treat after every conference. I love to enjoy the beauty of nature; the sun, sea, sky, vegetation especially flowers. So, I go for what makes me happy.

I find a quite natural environment, where I want to go for walk. I stay calm and quite, think about nothing and just look around at the things that God created. I do this with much admiration and pleasure and thankfulness to our almighty creature. It all ends with a healthy meal, after long warm bath and sound sleep.

The next morning as I get up totally refreshed and sharp, my mind and brain starts generating new ideas to keep my vision alive. I keep a free and open mind so that I can develop a more positive attitude and gentle spirit.

Doing this had helped me restore myself. I have realized that you need to practice to choose to do it. You need to you intentionally make space for it. But the result is worth the effort. It’s partly about knowing when your resources are running low, and stepping back to replenish them rather than letting them all drain away. I make self care a conscious vital habit to benefit my mind and body for greater output.


This story was submitted in response to Caring for Ourselves.

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Jill Langhus
Nov 17, 2018
Nov 17, 2018

Hi Dear Sophie,

Thanks for sharing your post about how you care for yourself. I'm glad to hear that you are doing all these things to nurture and take care of yourself. I thought you may just keep pushing yourself, so it's really good to hear that you acknowledge when you need a break. Your strategy sounds very good and effective for you, too:-) Are you teaching other girls and women to practice self-care, too? I'm thinking you probably are:-)

I hope you're having a great day. Good luck with your story submission.

Ngala Nadege
Dec 19, 2018
Dec 19, 2018

Hello sister
Thanks for sharing your post on self care. Waow its beautiful .

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Jan 09, 2019
Jan 09, 2019

Hello, Sis Sophie,

Walking while observing nature is refreshing for me, too. It's nice to know you enjoy this activity and you found what self-care works for you.

Robin Parisse
Jan 11, 2019
Jan 11, 2019

Sophie, it is very true that to take care of others we must take care of ourselves. As a working single mother, I find it to be very true. Like you sometimes I do burn the candle at both ends and have to reset. It is so crucial that we model this to our children. By living and leading by example, I think we can positively make our world a better place.

Keep up your work in STEM! Take a look at Unboxd, the new Vogue for STEM to get inspired: https://www.beunboxd.com/

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Aug 11, 2019
Aug 11, 2019

Hi Sophie,
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful post. It is very true that we need to care for ourselves so that we can be there for others in this life. Thank you for this reminder and all the best with your story.
Have a great day.

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Aug 25, 2019
Aug 25, 2019

Keep up your fabulous work.You look good Girl.

Anita Shrestha
Oct 01, 2019
Oct 01, 2019

NIce motivation story, keep it continue

Dewy Ink
Nov 09, 2019
Nov 09, 2019

This is a very nice initiative. Keep it up!

Nov 10, 2019
Nov 10, 2019

This is called self care,amidst all the hustle and that we do for others we must learn to take off time and care for us so we don't break down and leave the work half way. Hope you teach others also. Great Sophie