Darling Daughter

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo
Posted September 30, 2019 from Nigeria
Darling Daughter
Find YOU! If there's nothing you will take away from this letter daughter take away this - "FIND YOU AT ALL COST!".

Darling Daughter,

As I sit here today, knowing that in the next 18 months you will be preparing to enter the university and also live your own way, I am scared to let you out of our safety net called family cum home; yet I am grateful I still have 18 months to share moments that will count later in your life journey.

So today, I want to share few nuggets that have helped me along the way and I hope it will help you when the need arises:

1) Acknowledge the girl you are and the woman you are becoming, by taking everyday as a gift and enjoying the relationships and situations you find yourself in.

2) I am the 1st child of my family and so are you. So much is expected of you and that is okay, for this is the best place to learn leadership skills and the ability to navigate relationships during tough times. Please daughter do not forget to let your younger ones see the real YOU. It is okay to let them know that you struggle also, for they will love and support you always.

3) Forgive Dad and I, for giving you much more than you can bear. YOU are our 1st child and we have never been parents before. But one thing you can be sure of, is that we love YOU deeply and we are willing to relearn, unlearn and learn till you become the best version of yourself.

4) Find YOU! If there's nothing you will take away from this letter daughter take away this - "FIND YOU AT ALL COST!".

Many people will disagree with the YOU that you are becoming, sometimes even family might disagree. But if you stick with YOU, loving others but never compromising; things will come around. But if you compromise 'YOU' for people; your life will be filled with imitations of others and great unhappiness.

I found 'ME' a bit late (married and in my 30's) but I have never been apologetic about it, for my voice is found in the authenticity of me and that is my prayer for you darling.

5) Trust God; He's no longer popular, but He always comes through when everyone deserts YOU. Oh yes! Trust your inner gut, it usually won't lead you wrong because it is a compass set to guide you by the Creator.

Finally, learn from my mistakes;  please don't inherit them.

I love you daughter and I love your brothers too.

Fly high Kamsy, fly higher!!! Let your voice count!

Love,  

Mom - Ngee (Ngozi Okonkwo) Founder - Keeping Marriage Alive initiative. www.keepingmarriagealive.com

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Jill Langhus
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hi Ngozi,

Welcome to World Pulse! Wow! What a powerful, inspirational and beautiful post and guidelines for your daughter. She must be very proud to have you as her mother. It sounds like you've done an amazing job! I love that you're encouraging her, and have no doubt been encouraging her to be herself. So powerful. I wish I would've been taught this wonderful gift and lesson. Oh well. We all have different paths and lessons.

I'm liking and following your organization's FB and Twitter pages now. Thanks for sharing. I'm looking forward to hearing more about it.

Hope you have a great week!

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Thank you so much.
Just followed you on Facebook!

Great work you are doing?
Do have a great week too!

Jill Langhus
Sep 30
Sep 30

You're welcome:-)

Thank you! Getting there.

You, too, dear!

XX

Anita Shrestha
Sep 30
Sep 30

Dear Ngozi
Welcome !!! Wonderful and new style writing. Plz keep continue.

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Thank you so much.

Anita Shrestha
Oct 01
Oct 01

Welcome

Lisbeth
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hello Ngozi,
Ngozi is a very popular name in Nigeria. Was wondering what is the meaning? You very welcome to our platform and congrats on your first post or story.
Honestly I loved it, especially the approach where you came from. Very thought provoking questions and statements.
I look forward to reading more of your stories.
Kind regards

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Thank you Lisbeth,
Ngozi is a common name in the eastern part of Nigeria(Ibo tribe); it actually means blessing.

Lisbeth
Oct 01
Oct 01

Oh wow, Blessings!
It's a nice name. :-)

Tarke Edith
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hi Ngozi
You are highly welcome to this platform of women who shares their stories so freely . and in return encourage by others.
Your lovely words to you daughter have thought me a lesson that I will copy.
You know dear we have to cherish the time we spent with our daughters because one day there will go and become mother too one like us .
You story was so inspiring to me and l am thanking you very much for bringing such story to our platform.for l know that this story of yours is going to inspired other women.
Thanks for sharing dear
Have a great day

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Thank you Tarke,
You just made my day with this encouraging words.

maeann
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hi Ngozi,

Welcome to World Pulse where women support and encourage one another.

Thank you for sharing your encouragement to your daughter.

She is loved and blessed having a parent like you.

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Thank you so much Maeann,
Indeed it has been and still is a journey for both of us -#Parenting.

Corine Milano
Oct 01
Oct 01

This is so touching! I have a letter my late mother wrote me on the eve of my high school graduation and I treasure it. I hope you have shared this with your daughter so that she can treasure it too!

Ngozi Nzeribe Okonkwo

Hi Corine Milano,

Thank you so much.

Wow, you must have been very close to your Mom.

Yes, i did show her and then asked for her permission to share it with the world and she said -'okay'.