It took me about fifty years to realize that a Girlchild got to spell out A VISION for her future.
As a young growing girl, I used to think that the future was NATURAL, like, it would come and it would form. Little did I know that, for a Girlchild to have a good Future, she needs to work is out as early as from her teens.
Nobody ever told me about my future, the closest I had towards it was, my mother would always warn me to face my studies, keep my body clean, keep my virginity, "don't come home with the pregnancy that would disturb your academic because the moment you get pregnant, you stop being my responsibility". All that are quite good. They worked. They instilled in me the kind and amount of fear I really needed to work hard and concentrate on my studies. Her warmings had really assisted me to achieve the academic excellence she and I desired. There was even one she harmmered, that "Per adventure any man is seriously interested in you, let me meet him first before you say yes to his deceit, and he must not wear a single tribal mark on his cheeks";as if it is a mattered fallacy, (as if good husbands were determined by clean cheeks).
Nobody had ever sat me down or asked me what I wanted for my future or if I had a dream for the future I would live later, without my parents. I had no plan, I had vision, too bad, no dream. May be that was borne out of the other matters that shouldn't concern me that I was directly involved in; Assisting my mother to think and work out how to put food on our table, and to get bothered on how her health would improve, (she was a bit ill, they called it some invisible attacks). All that too is good. But,
Must I forget about my Future? Even if I wasn't sure the Future would come, but at least I living and growing into the Future, but I failed to plan for my future. As an average student, I have always believed that when I grow up or as I grow up, things would fall in place. That things were bound to be and happen ACCORDINGLY.
True, I found people around me, successful people, ambitious mates who knew what they wanted to be; Doctors, Pharmacists, Engineers, Nurses, Accountants, name them, and that's exactly what they all became. Except me. I had no Vision for my Future. No Dream. No plan. I remembered I was going to buy a Jeep like a lady who I admired so much then, which I actually achieved later, but what I was going to engage me in to be able to achieve that, I had no idea. I wasn't even thinking about it. If I could achieved the Jeep, I strongly believe that I would have lived or be living my Dream, if I had any.
All I was doing was just studying and passing exams, it was good but that was just not ENOUGH for A Girlchild Purposeful Future.
As part of the the strategies to achieve my Mission for the Vision NGMD, I am now a wild Corner to Corner, planned and incidental Talk and Campaign in the midst of Girls that, Studying hard is good but would be made better if that could really be combined with SPELLING OUT A VISION FOR THEIR FUTURE.
A Girlchild must choose a purpose for her living and stir her efforts towards the achievement if this Vision and Purpose for a purposeful living.
Jack of all Purposes is good, but being A Master of One Purpose is always better. It makes one to be A Great Achiever in a line of A Chosen Purpose in the FUTURE.
I will always end my stories with this Heralds that: