VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN!

Olanike Adesanya
Posted December 7, 2020 from Nigeria

Violence Against Women, Whenever this phrase is used, people always think it's only about inflicting physical injuries on Women or Girlchild. By my assessment, Violence Against Women also covers the areas of preferential treatment given to the male child over female. This may sound so strange, though, but the it's true that in most part of Africa (Nigeria) female children are still treated as less than human. Most parents still believe they have not gotten a child, even if they have a dozen of girls.

#The feelings is a Violence Against Women.

The terms, "Olori-Ebi, Daodu, Arole" et al, are used to place a boy on top of a girl in the house, even if it is obvious that the girl in the house is performing better than the boy of the house.

#I say this also is violence against women.

Where I come from, it is considered a waste of resources to send a girl to school with the little family limited resource, it would rather be expanded on the boy who is believed to carry on with the family Names. Isn't it funny?

#I call this too an act of "Violence Against Women".

You may not even know that among a Major tribe in Nigeria, there are some chieftaincy Tittles that are not conferred on any man whose wife is unable to bear a BOY.

#I call it Violence Against Women.

In this same community, a special type of cap is not meant to be worn by any man who has his children ALL GIRLS or doesn't have a Boy. #That too I term as Violence Against Women.

I am still trying to phantom the reason Boys Names are written first in school registers, in blue ink and Girls Names are written after the Boys, and are written under the Boys, and are written in Red ink. Instead of just arranging all Pupils name alphabetically.

#I would refer to that that too as Violence Against Women,

Though it doesn't stop the girls from ranking 1st to 10th positions after the exams, that is the only time you would see Girls Names written before or in-between the Boys. When you hear names like Kolawole, Olakunle etc (Wealth in the house) in my community such name is only given to the Boy, because the general belief is nothing so good can come into the house through the Girls, though that same Girl may become the family bread winner, no lesson is learnt. #It's Violence Against Women.

In most cases, the lady of the house goes to work, brings home the money to feed the house, pays the children's school fees, pays the house rent and pick more bills and the hubby still sees her as the cook, and washwoman in the same house he does nothing but a community loof around, and the only reward she gets is her inlaw's insult.

#This is another violence against women.

This is exactly the reason I am always concerned about these future Women and their empowerment. A well equipped Girl of today grows up to a egalitarian of tomorrow. She is likely to be more stable, more independent, and more equipped and more informed about her rights, exercise them and get less abused.

Most of the Girls (minor) so abused in my community are "Omo-odo" (housemaids). The ages of those "Omo-odo" range from 6 to 16years. They are sent to the field of life to make money for the family while their male counterparts remain at home enjoying the money. If the parents of such children appreciate gender equality, they will not just set them on such edge.

#This attitude is Violence Against Women.

I still believe if More Girls are assisted and if they receive help adequately and are prevented from dropping out of track, be it School or a Trade, when they eventually become women, they are not likely to become just wife of circumstances, but Mothers capable of RULING THEIR WORLD.

I maintain, Please let's assist All Girl-children, let's us all ensure that they don't drop off the track. 

No Girlchild Must Dropout (NGMD) Olanike. 

Thank you.

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MaryannR
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

#NGMD I agree 100%. You say this so eloquently and with such accuracy. It is a Violence Against Women. It is our job as women to help nurture other young women to show them the importance they bring to society and themselves.

Olanike Adesanya
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Exactly so, Ma.
Much love

Keturah Shammah
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Dear Olanike,
You have really hit the point. I strongly believe that denial of a girl child to go to school is also violence. Yes! Education is a human right and denial of it is violation of human right. Unfortunately, many don't see it that way.

Olanike Adesanya
Dec 09, 2020
Dec 09, 2020

Exactly so, Dear Keturah.
This is just why I taking the campaign everywhere I go, to whosoever care to listen that
No Girlchild Must Dropout (NGMD).
Dropping out of Girlchild must be totally eradicated.
I try to herald it to Everyone I come across everywhere I go.
Information and awareness is what many people need to perform.
Educating s Girlchild is educating a whole Nation.

SADRAG
Dec 09, 2020
Dec 09, 2020

Hi Olanike,

Yes discrimination and deprivation are the kind of violence that are so ingrained within us that we dont consider it violence at all. The culprit is our Socialization process. lets begin with gender equality at home.

Olanike Adesanya
Dec 09, 2020
Dec 09, 2020

Thanks Sadrag.
This has started,
Every parent must imbibe the spirit of equality and exercise same in the training of ALL CHILDREN, BOY OR GIRL. .
And the society too must be sensitised towards the Sustainability of Gender equality and women empowerment. In this wise, we shall be able to curb all sorts of violence and gender inequality.
❤️U.

SADRAG
Dec 09, 2020
Dec 09, 2020

love

Beth Lacey
Dec 15, 2020
Dec 15, 2020

You are so right.Violence against women is so pervasive. It will take educating both girls and boys to make any significant change

Olanike Adesanya
Dec 15, 2020
Dec 15, 2020

Yes Beth
Exactly So.
Much ❤️.
Thank you.

leila Kigha
Dec 27, 2020
Dec 27, 2020

Violence against women run deeper than we think. thank you for enlightening us.

Olanike Adesanya
Dec 27, 2020
Dec 27, 2020

Exactly so Leila.
Uwc Dear Sister.
Compliments of yuletide and New Year, 2021.
Much ❤️

Kika Katchunga
Jan 26
Jan 26

Thanks for sharing my sister;
Our parents; especially the parent from Africa they made a serious mistake of discriminating against the girl; You have all my support; the girl deserves better than the boys. good luck in your projects

Olanike Adesanya
Jan 28
Jan 28

Thanks Sis.
Much Love.
As I believe you're staying Safe.