I'm a girl child, I'm strong to go.

NNANE NTUBE
Posted March 30, 2019 from Cameroon
Alone, she can go fast. With your help, she can go far.
Give a girl child a chance, encourage her to reach her goals.

How many times do we, parents, look at our girl children and feel that they're too weak to stand alone?  How much do we trust in the strength of our girl children? If your girl child tells you she wants her privacy to live alone, will you agree?  I know many parents will disagree because they see her as being too weak to live alone,  too weak to face life. If she does not stand alone how will she learn to be strong? What I wish us to know is that a girl child is stronger than what we can imagine. Let me tell you my story;

At 16, I told my parents I needed my own space alone.  Though surprised, they seek to understand why. I made them understand that I wished to live alone because I really had that urge to live alone. My parents did not reject my offer as they knew I had always wanted my personal space. That was how I was rented a room beside my parents' house where they can look after me. That was how I started managing alone. I started learning to be strong, to take my own decisions and to carve out my future. I lived like that till I got to the University, graduated and started working. I have been through a lot that made me grow strong. Of course, I did all these with support from those who believed in me,  those who gave me a hand that made me reach this far.

A few months back, I was elated to hear my mother tell me that she admires the woman I have become; strong, bold, hardworking, aspiring, loving, etc. Her testimonial alone made my year. 

This is how you should see your girl child. Look at her as being strong and she shall be strong,  let her live and carve her life but, be there to guide her through so she can go far. It's all about empowering the girl child through trust, belief and helpfulness. Give her your support and she will climb the highest mountain without getting tired nor complaining. 

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Dawn Arteaga
Mar 31
Mar 31

Wow beautiful!! Good for you for standing strong for what you needed to thrive. Big hugs across the distance.

NNANE NTUBE
Mar 31
Mar 31

Thank you so much ma'am Dawn.
Big hugs to you too.

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 31
Mar 31

Hi Nnane,
I love your title, the photo of climbing a mountain and your message of the importance of parents trusting daughters and not blocking our steps into our independent lives. My parents understood this for me just as well as for my brothers. This is why I am committed to every woman and girl being free to choose her own path. Your story carries such a profoundly important message.

NNANE NTUBE
Mar 31
Mar 31

Hello ma'am Tamarack,
I'm glad you lived the experience. It's worth it. Most parents need to understand this. Thanks for the appreciation. Best regards.

Jill Langhus
Mar 31
Mar 31

Hi Nnane,

Thanks for sharing your inspiring message. I agree that all parents, and non-parents for that matter, should see girls as being strong, more than capable, and smart, too.

NNANE NTUBE
Mar 31
Mar 31

Well said ma'am.

Jill Langhus
Apr 01
Apr 01

Thank you!

Hope you have a great week!

Sophie Ngassa
Apr 02
Apr 02

Hello Nnane, Glad that you are here! I am so inspired by your story. I agree that your support system is very important for your professional growth. Thanks for sharing.

NNANE NTUBE
Jun 03
Jun 03

Thank you aunty Sophie for inviting me here.

Sophie Ngassa
Jun 06
Jun 06

Welcome and please use this amazing space to shine brighter. Keep on sharing your inspiring stories. Love you.

Beth Lacey
Apr 20
Apr 20

What an inspiring story!

NNANE NTUBE
Jun 03
Jun 03

Thank you so much. I'm grateful.