How many times do we, parents, look at our girl children and feel that they're too weak to stand alone? How much do we trust in the strength of our girl children? If your girl child tells you she wants her privacy to live alone, will you agree? I know many parents will disagree because they see her as being too weak to live alone, too weak to face life. If she does not stand alone how will she learn to be strong? What I wish us to know is that a girl child is stronger than what we can imagine. Let me tell you my story;
At 16, I told my parents I needed my own space alone. Though surprised, they seek to understand why. I made them understand that I wished to live alone because I really had that urge to live alone. My parents did not reject my offer as they knew I had always wanted my personal space. That was how I was rented a room beside my parents' house where they can look after me. That was how I started managing alone. I started learning to be strong, to take my own decisions and to carve out my future. I lived like that till I got to the University, graduated and started working. I have been through a lot that made me grow strong. Of course, I did all these with support from those who believed in me, those who gave me a hand that made me reach this far.
A few months back, I was elated to hear my mother tell me that she admires the woman I have become; strong, bold, hardworking, aspiring, loving, etc. Her testimonial alone made my year.
This is how you should see your girl child. Look at her as being strong and she shall be strong, let her live and carve her life but, be there to guide her through so she can go far. It's all about empowering the girl child through trust, belief and helpfulness. Give her your support and she will climb the highest mountain without getting tired nor complaining.