YES SHE CAN

nsangline
Posted November 27, 2021

I am Nicoline from Cameroon, and a Nurse by profession.

I ran a support group for people infected  by HIV from 2011- 2016. I was able to erase the stigma of being HIV positive from most if not all of the group members. 

Now I'm interested in creating a support group for married women whose homes are run by their husbands' families, rather than their husbands themselves, because I am a victim. I got married in 2014 when I had a job. I was loved by my husband and his family, but because I lost my job in 2019, I was rejected and detested by my husband's family, but he stood by me. Since late 2020, my husband was brainwashed by his family. Every decision he takes in our home is being influenced by his family and I am no longer of value to him. Neither does my opinion count. I just got a new job a week ago, and my husband is beginning to sound and act differently towards me. I know what I have been through lately, and I strongly believe there are other women out there in a similar situation. Please kindly help me raise my voice for these marginalised women.

 

Love you all

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rebecca.tang
Nov 28, 2021
Nov 28, 2021

Thank you for sharing. I understand the hard feeling your have and upset on the behaviour of your husband. In a family, we should love one another without any condition, same as God loving us.
Please raise the awareness here and also continue to run the HIV support group if possible. It could help many people.
May Almighty God bless you, the people you have helped and the one you will help in the future!

nsangline
Nov 28, 2021
Nov 28, 2021

Thanks for getting it crystal clear Rebecca. I will ensure my voice is heard here.as world pulse is the right place to be.

As for the HIV support group, I worked on a Prevention of Mother To Child Transmission of HIV (PMTCT) Project which already ended in 2016.

Jill Langhus
Nov 29, 2021
Nov 29, 2021

Hi Nicoline,

Welcome to World Pulse. This is sad, dear. That sounds like a great idea to create a support group. Would he be treated differently by his family if he lost his job, or is it another GBV challenge? There's definitely women in the same situation.

Let us know when you start it. Looking forward to hearing more about it.

nsangline
Nov 29, 2021
Nov 29, 2021

Hi Jill. I'm honoured to be here, Glad to hear from you and your approval of the would be support group. I am working on it, and will be back with updates as soon as everything is in place.

Togethere let' s fight against GBV.

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 29, 2021
Nov 29, 2021

Dear Nicoline,
How great that you have joined World Pulse where you can connect with so many others who share your passion for empowering people who have been marginalized. What you have been through with your husband and his family must have been so painful on many levels, and so unjust. This is good news that you have found work again, and I hope that this helps you to stay strong and to make decisions that work for you from now on. Above all you deserve respect and love no matter what financial situation you are in. The support groups that you have created for others are so important, and show whaat a leader you are, a leader with true heart. A big welcome to World Pulse!
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nsangline
Nov 29, 2021
Nov 29, 2021

Thanks very much Tamarack for introducing me to world pulse. I feel a sense of belonging and true love here.

We are stronger together.