Self Empowerment for family Sustainance

obioma nwachukwu
Posted June 19, 2018 from Nigeria

She married to a civil servant in one of the federal government parastatals, that entails, the husband will from time to time be transferred to different states and leaving her alone with the children for a long period of time. This came into reality in her life shortly after giving birth to her 5th child. 

A civil servant's income is not always enough when the family is together maintaining one kitchen not to talk of when they are separated to have two kitchens since the man will be over there handling his own kitchen while the woman will be at home here with 5 boys handling a larger kitchen of the family, yet, it has to be so she bravely took up the challenge.

When the news of his transfer was broken to me, it met mix feelings within me, happy that he was counted worthy to be transferred to head a zonal office, and secondly, the feeling of what shall become of me and my children financially since the transfer has no financial backing. Then I said to myself, I must brave it. Life must go on well with me and my children. I gave my consent. On this note, I decided to empower myself.

When my husband left, I went and learnt how to make some household toiletries and laundry agents like: liquid soap, air freshener, antiseptic, disinfectant, liquid car wash, and liquid laundry soap.

After a few weeks of my training, I started production, I was carrying my products from office to office, from house to house, from one shop to the other. Some will accept me and some will reject me. This was combined with adequately taking care of the children.  In fact it wasn't easy.

With these efforts of mine, I discovered that the family was intact, the children were happy and well taken care of. My husband was not over stretched. The family was buoyant. My fears disappeared. I became very happy and marveled at what I was able to do. In fact, I give thanks to God. 

I wish I can be empowered to industrialize this knowledge of mine so that  I can employ other women .

Throughout my husband's transfer,  I never cheapened myself before any man begging for arms, as to give room for intimidation or harassment, I raised my head high and maintained the dignity of my womanhood. 

I urge every woman out there to look for something good doing around her, no matter how small, so that she can stand tall anywhere she finds herself, and be proud she is a woman.  Together we will make positive impact in our society.

This story was submitted in response to #WealthofWomen.

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Tarke Edith
Jun 19, 2018
Jun 19, 2018

Hi sister Obioma you are wonderful your husband will be proud of you now you can help him do some of his duties keep it up sister

obioma nwachukwu
Jun 20, 2018
Jun 20, 2018

Thank you sister Tarke, he is really happy with me and we are looking forward to expanding the business

Olutosin
Jun 19, 2018
Jun 19, 2018

Thank you so much. This is what I usually tell myself. I can do. Nothing is impossible.

obioma nwachukwu
Jun 20, 2018
Jun 20, 2018

You are welcome sister Tosin it is worth doing, give it a trial.

Jill Langhus
Jun 20, 2018
Jun 20, 2018

Hi Obioma. Thanks for sharing your strong story and empowering message to women. I can see the strength in your voice and message... it's very impressive and empowering. Hope you have a great day!

obioma nwachukwu
Jun 20, 2018
Jun 20, 2018

Your welcome sister I'm also highly encouraged to know that you read my story. Thank you very much. Have a wonderful day!

Jill Langhus
Jun 21, 2018
Jun 21, 2018

You're welcome. Thanks:) You, too!

Beth Lacey
Feb 16
Feb 16

Thanks for sharing your powerful story

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Feb 23
Feb 23

Dear Obioma
Your are great,you are good.I love your thoughts and recommendation to every sister out there.Self empowerment is very important to an independent life and having autonomy over your life as a woman
Love
Veronica

obioma nwachukwu
Mar 01
Mar 01

Thanks Veronica for your encouragement. Actually, self empowerment is a key to happy and independent living. Together we will impact the world positively.

Hello, Obioma,

You are really brave to raise five children and taught yourself to create household products to sell.

I can very much relate with your experience since my husband's job entails moving from place to place. We both decided that we go with him wherever he works so he can also father the children. Living together makes us spend less, too, than renting two houses and the expenses that go with living into two places. Having a son with special needs is pretty challenging in our daily lives, too.

I have been entertaining that idea of staying in one place while my husband live somewhere. But there are so many factors to consider for now. We'll see how we are going to handle our situation

I admire you for your courage, Sister. You inspire me a lot. Thank you for sharing!

obioma nwachukwu
Mar 01
Mar 01

Your welcome Karen, thanks for reading my story. Truly, women need to have strong will to survive in any situation they find themselves and work towards it, otherwise they may become victims to some of these men opportunist. God is with us.

Amen, Sis! :)

Jacqueline Namutaawe

Go on girls..Cheers to being a strong and phenomenal woman.

obioma nwachukwu
Mar 01
Mar 01

Yesoo, lets work together positively and make a difference