Provide Security for Women, the entire Nation, Community & Home will be peaceful

obioma nwachukwu
Posted October 10, 2018 from Nigeria

Security is creating enabling environment where by women like their male counterparts can freely contribute their own resources towards community or nations development. Security for women is very essential in the growth and development of the society. A society where security is assured for the female folk is definitely a peaceful society and where there is peace, there will be progress as both women and men can freely put their resources together to address any challenges facing their environment. Why are we having conflicts and violence all over the world today? because men have refused to acknowledge the role and usefulness of women in the society. If only the men will listen to the women and allow them to participate in the leadership of the nation, the community or the home, then security and peace will be achieved in all spheres of life.

Are the women really secured? Is there any aspect of security shown them? Can women stand tall and beat their chests and say "yes, we are secured" What can be done to remedy these situations? 

As I am writing now, from my community a widow is languishing in a police cell for more than eleven months now while the husband is still in the mortuary for a crime she did not commit just because she is a woman. Story had it that a man threatened to kill her husband within two days and eventually executed his treat and the community was furious against him and chased him out of the community and his brothers-in-law had this woman arrested and detained and till date no bail was allowed for her.

An elderly widow from that family is late now, one of those I helped to give shelter while she was alive and helpless because of lack of male child and she cannot be buried because the police will not want to see anybody come to the aid of those women in fact, even in her old age of close to 90 years, she had to run to her daughter who is married outside their community. As a matter of fact, she died in her daughter's house yet she cannot be brought home for burial, she is still there in the mortuary. Then I ask, are the women really secured?

Back home in my community, women have no inheritance no matter how wealthy their parents might be. No matter the efforts a woman made while in her father's house before marriage, she has nothing to inherit as property in her father's house. By the grace of God, I happen to come from a well to do family, my parents had property here and there, and we are females first before male. Indeed, the females helped tremendously in the upbringing of the males I have one of my senior sisters who was very wealthy and in fact, every member of the family benefited greatly from her generosity, but I was moved to tears and still marveled at how she was treated after the death of my parents. That no property was allocated to her. Even when she was widowed there was nothing for her from her father's house. She struggled and survived on her own just because she is a woman. Even those boys, who are now men whom she  pampered and lavished all her money and love have now turned to be the lords and masters of the house with no regard to her.

The torture, insults and humiliations, women face in the hands of their brothers-in-law in their marital homes with no body not even their husbands coming to their rescue are also such great insecurity that women pass through. Sometimes one may ask, 'is it because I am a women?'

In my nation, over the years, men have failed in their leadership, yet they want to continue just because they don't want women leadership, not because they cannot perform  but simply because they are women. They are no aspect of security shown to women.

For any nation, community or home to have lasting peace and harmony, they should recognize the importance and dignity of the women and give them their due. They should allow them free hands to use their potentials to its fullest. They should see them as equal especially in areas of decision making. The male should not take decisions at their back and impose on them as if they don't belong to the society. The women should be part of decision making in the home, community and nation and the implementation of the decision should be made by both. 

As a matter of fact, the future of security is women because for security to be attained in the world, women must be regarded first and given the protection and attention so needed for peace and harmony to reign.

Thanks.

Obioma

Submitted for Security is in Women

This story was submitted in response to The Future of Security is Women .

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Jill Langhus
Oct 11, 2018
Oct 11, 2018

Hi Obioma,

Thanks for sharing your sad accounts of how women are wronged in your country. I agree that women and girls should be treated equally from their counterparts. It really goes without saying but here we are fighting for equality. Good luck with your submission!

obioma nwachukwu
Oct 15, 2018
Oct 15, 2018

Hi Jlangs,

Thanks, happy to read your affirmative comments on how women should be treated. Happier to see that you read my story. Actually women need to be given their space. One day we shall achieve our dreams.
With love
Obioma

Jill Langhus
Oct 15, 2018
Oct 15, 2018

Hi Obioma,

You're welcome:-) Yes, let's hope so. There isn't any reason why this shouldn't be so.

Hope you're having a good, safe day, dear!

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 02, 2018
Nov 02, 2018

Hello Obiama,

It is because of stories like yours here, that we are becoming so much more aware of the control of women through societal rules that prevent any money or inheritance. It is such a horrible form of servitude that is hidden under accepted rules that men have the right to all money. By writing about it we can raise our voices globally for every woman forced into this position. This "right" of men to own everything is what we need to change - everywhere.

In sisterhood,
Tam

Paulina Nayra
Mar 25
Mar 25

Dear Obioma sister... your story made me sad and angry. I feel sad for the widows languishing in jails and those cannot be buried their hometowns just because they are women. I am angered by the way the police treat women and those who support them. I am much angered by the insensitivity and the lack of compassion and fairness of the parents who do not give the women a share of their inheritance. Sister, there's so much to do in changing the mindsets of men and women in your country especially the leaders and elders who have the authority to pass and enforce laws that are compliant with human rights standards. Sister, what does the law on inheritance say? This might be a good read to help the women understand the law and work on measures that will give equal treatment to both women and men. https://www.academia.edu/35665674/SUCCESSION_AND_INHERITANCE_LAW_IN_NIGE...

Thank you sister Obioma for sharing your story.
Huggs from the Philippines.
Paulina

obioma nwachukwu
Mar 29
Mar 29

Dear Paulina, thank you very much for your concern towards these women in my community who are greatly maltreated. Since that last year, up till today those dead once have not yet been buried. The ones in jail were released sometimes early this year after spending so much money for their release. As it is now, there isn't enough money for the burial, the families are still struggling to gather money to arrange for the burial. These are some of the frustrating challenges women are facing in this part of my community. I believe by the grace of God that soon they will allow us to commit them to mother earth. Thanks for your concern, thanks for your care.
Thanks also for releasing this article' Customary succession and inheritance law of the Igbo'.
I appreciate.
Obioma

Raquel Daniel
May 28
May 28

Thanks for sharing!

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