In honor of my daughter

Liana C
Posted October 11, 2020 from United States

Today, as I have seen all sorts of beautiful posts about the International Day of the Girl, I have also watched my teenage daughter head off to her job and I have heard her make plans to go hiking with a friend tomorrow.

I am proud that the girl I have had the privilege to raise, has the freedom and abilities to take these steps. And I wish for all girls these freedoms, while also wishing that in every setting in our lives, all women and girls had these freedoms, but I know that it is not so.

All women continue to be governed by laws that were established predominantly by men. All women work and live in communities that have laws that disadvantage them in some way, either through the financial benefits that are limited when it comes to women or by laws that exclude women's experiences entirely.

I have been spending a lot of time during COVID thinking about the one commodity that is in short supply, and that is care work. Not because we do not, or cannot do it, but because in so many of our societies, it has not been valued - I mean that it has not been given financial value and falls to those with no other choices. Therefore, it is work that is often taken for granted, or not prioritized. In some cases, it is even devalued or dismissed. But COVID has shown that the only way to healing is through care - for ourselves and others, for those who have experienced loss and for those who are sick. Care is the most important human work. And traditionally, since it has been done by women, it has been undervalued.

The care-giving work is not inherently gendered work. If we advocate for care work to be honored and valued, it would inherently lead to women who do that work being honored and valued. This will matter for my daughter, my son and all of our children. It is up to all of us to continue to work to change the landscape and laws, and to value care work.

May everyone celebrate this Internation Day of the Girl and may all daughters have the freedom to go off to a job of their choosing and to go out hiking with a friend!

This story was submitted in response to My Voice, Our Equal Future.

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Nini Mappo
Oct 12
Oct 12

Hello Liana,
Congratulations on your first post. I like how you have interwoven work and leisure as aspects of women's freedom, because we work hard for the freedom to work but we relegate leisure and self care to the background. Your post speaks of wholistic freedom, for the whole woman, in the important and the seemingly mundane, but also very important. Oh dear, I'm about to start going round in circles :)
Your take on care work begs the question: Why is everything done by women so undervalued?? I wonder whether there's an anthropological angle to it, but yes, caring is healing, and it ought to be recognised and remunerated justly.
Good on you for your work as a mum as you empower your daughter, and in your community as you value women and help them see their input is needed.
In sisterhood, Nini

Liana C
Oct 13
Oct 13

Thank you! If there is a better answer your your question, I don't know, but the reason I think is patriarchy and the lack of respect and recognition for women and female attributes and strengths. We know that this is not based on facts, but culture and customs, and this is why we are working for change!!

Andrace
Oct 16
Oct 16

Hi Liana,
A warm welcome to World Pulse and congratulations on sharing your first post. This is where you belong and the place to be indeed. Thank you for celebrating your sweet daughter. The freedom to make our own choices is really key. It is sadly true that "all women continue to be governed by laws that were established predominantly by men. All women work and live in communities that have laws that disadvantage them in some way, either through the financial benefits that are limited when it comes to women or by laws that exclude women's experiences entirely."

Care work is grossly undervalued and taken for granted. As a matter of fact, cooking, caring, and cleaning are overlooked because they are stereotyped roles. I echoed a little in this piece I wrote recently on: https://emirebooted.wordpress.com/2020/10/09/i-am-not-your-atm/

Thank you for bringing this to the fore again. We would love to know more about you and your work. Keep writing and shining as we connect together. :)

Love and hugs,
E. J.

Liana C
Oct 13
Oct 13

Thank you!!

Karinvk
Oct 15
Oct 15

Love your story and your "wish" for all girls, everywhere. You must be an amazing Mom. Hugs!

Charity Birla
Oct 20
Oct 20

Thanks for sharing . Its always so pleasing when a girl has her freedom to make her choices without being subdued. Thanks for celebrating her freedom and to the freedom of every other girl.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
12:46am
12:46am

Hello, Liana,

Congratulations on your first post! Thank you for the bravery to speak out about care work, an important aspect in our life as a society and yet devalued. This resonates with me, "COVID has shown that the only way to healing is through care ".It's true. In fact, it was just only during the pandemic that Facebook added the "care" reaction.

We certainly cannot neglect care work, and we all need to think of ways on how care work shouldn't be unpaid work. Thank you for speaking up and for honoring your daughter in this post. You did a great job in raising her! Kudos!