Introducing myself and my journal: Maisha save a mother's life

Odion Anavhe
Posted August 18, 2014 from Nigeria

About Me:Dr Obande came down the stairs of the intensive care unit this time without a smile. He has been our family friend and doctor for over 10 years and he’d come every night to the hospital to check on us. As he walked towards me, I sensed something had gone wrong, he wasn’t wearing his usual assuring smile. He held my hands and for the first time since he came visiting said Odion, Ochi is in a very bad condition. I stared into his eyes that were always filled with hope to draw strength but this time I saw fear and uncertainty as he continued to speak; she just had a heart attack and has been resuscitated. If you can, pray! O boy! Did I pray that night? I don’t think I even slept. I was born into a nuclear family and the second of seven children. Growing up in the northern part of Nigeria was a good experience for me even though my mum was very over protective which meant less of friends and parties. She had a way of making up and pampering everyone of her child. As a result, the only close friends I had was my siblings. Ochi was my elder sister but also my best friend. We had lived all our lives together including high school and college live. I was her wedding planner and of course her maid of honour. I still remember the excitement in her voice as she woke me up at 6:00 am on the 5th/05/12 to tell me she was expecting a baby. The thought that I was going to be an aunt was so overwhelming. I spent every spare time I had preparing and helping her plan for her baby’s arrival. So here I was in a fix as I watched my sister battle between life and death. The most terrifying part was that as the day went by, she grew from bad to worst. As I sat by her bedside, I remember the few occasions she spoke; she said where is my baby? I hope he isn’t crying? Too bad she never saw him or held him in her hands as he was in the incubator. The baby I had waited so long to come was in the incubator and Ochi was lying helpless with a life support. Her kidneys had shut down, her blood wasn’t clotting, her livers where infected and her lungs were becoming weak. On the 17th/12/12 the doctor called me to a room and said she didn’t make it. Like Doctor Obande had said, she suffered three more heart attacks early morning of the next day and didn’t get through the last episode. Indeed, life paused for me and I was filled with anger. I was angry at the fact that her death would have been averted if when she complained of headache, and was taken by her husband to the nearest hospital to their house there were qualified doctors to attend to her. She had feats in the hospital and still, there was no qualified doctor to attend to her. She had to be transferred to another hospital. By the time she got to the hospital she was transferred to, she had full blown eclaimpsia and there was already a total renal short down. Eclaimpsia is a hypertensive disorder often triggered by pregnancy. It’s one of the leading causes of maternal deaths in the world especially in Nigeria. After wallowing for almost a year in depression, I drew strength from the pain I suffered to help other women especially women from marginalized communities who might never have the opportunities my sister had. I see a community where women of reproductive age 14-40 years give birth and are in health to nurse their babies. I see a community where in every hospital, clinic or primary health centre there is qualified health personnel with well-equipped equipment to serve the communities health needs. This is my dream.

My Passions:photo journalism

My Challenges:picking up languages fast

My Vision for the Future:I see a Nigeria, where in every community, women are healthy during and after pregnancy, give birth and remain healthy to nurse their babies.

My Areas of Expertise:maternal health

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Yvette Warren
Aug 26, 2014
Aug 26, 2014

Welcome to World Pulse, Odionanavhe. I am so sorry for your loss, and am grateful that you have found a way to turn tragedy into empowerment. It is wonderful that you wish to share your empowerment with other women, worldwide.

Your visions are one step closer to achievement when you network in such a strong group of empowered people. You are only one person, but you are smart enough to know that our power is exponential when combined with other powerful people.

You are now a part of a thriving grassroots network of women leaders and supporters from more than 190 countries. See the Getting Started Guide to learn more about networking in our community: http://worldpulse.com/pulsewire/about/guide

I look forward to hearing more of your voice in WorldPulse.

Continue to be a blessing. Yvette Warren

Odion Anavhe
Aug 26, 2014
Aug 26, 2014

Dear Yvette, Thank you for the warm welcome. I see this community as a platform where I not only will share ideas but will cause a steering in like minded hearts like mine to help women in Nigeria move from despair to hope. Regards, Odion

Yvette Warren
Aug 27, 2014
Aug 27, 2014

Dear Odion, World Pulse and Nigeria are blessed with your presence. Continue being a blessing. Yvette

Sherna Alexander Benjamin
Sep 18, 2014
Sep 18, 2014

Welcome to the Worldpulse community, may your voice rise in unification and in solidarity with tue women of the world.

Odion Anavhe
Sep 19, 2014
Sep 19, 2014

Thank you Elie