Diary of a Pregnant Virgin (Sex Education is Key)
Aug 19, 2019
Story
I come from a home with strong values and my parents were
disciplinarians - no late night-outs, no staying out
beyond 7pm, no standing to talk with the opposite
sex even if he was asking for an address, when a
kissing or pecking scene came up in a movie, that was
the end of the movie because my parents would
instruct us to switch off the television.
We couldn’t talk about boys or potential boyfriends.
As a result, everything I knew about sex education
was from our biology teacher and few students in the
university.
So when I got the courage to tell my mother that I
was pregnant, to my greatest surprise, she asked me
“don’t you know about condoms? I thought you
went to Unilag.”
I was baffled. So my mother expected the school
system to teach me about sex. I felt uneasy hearing
my mother mention the word “condom” without
caution as the word kept ringing in my head severally and I could hear my mind saying “blood of Jesus”
each time she mentioned “condom”.
How was I to know about condoms, when the subject
of sex is an abomination in my home?
The only thing I heard was “stay away from boys or
you get pregnant” and scarier words.
How about when my mother told my father?
My father! My father!! I can still hear the shock in his
voice as he screamed “JESUS” when mom told him
that Sunday evening. He was so shocked that he
didn’t ask me if it was true or false. How? When?
Where?
I called my mum to the room afterwards.
“Mum, I want to say something; the truth is that I
have not had sex with my boyfriend, we were just
playing.”
“Hmm! So the pregnancy jumped on you abi? Tell
that to the birds,” she said. My father had a meeting
with my Boyfriend and my mom, I was to shy to face
my father so I sat at the dinning. He expressed his
disappointment to my boyfriend and later said, he
was glad we didn’t try anything stupid such as
considering an abortion. I looked at the ground
immediately my father mentioned that because, I know I already attempted an abortion which failed.