PREGNANT OUT OF WEDLOCK

Peju Adekunle
Posted February 27, 2020 from Nigeria

I was one of those people who looked down with disdain on ladies pregnant outside wedlock. I didn't care to know how they landed in such situations. 

When I got pregnant out of wedlock in 2009, I became an epitome of mockery in my community. You know how such news fly like wide fire Few friends that I chatted with in the neighborhood stopped coming to my house. They would greet me from afar. None wanted to associate with me so, they don't catch the pregnancy virus. Everyone had their ears on ground to know when I would be bundled to my husband's house

Thank God for NYSC as Zamfara was my hiding place from my neighborhood. I was all by myself trying to survive in a strange land....

Thanking God for my best friend  who didn't deny me like Peter denied Jesus even though they wanted him to deny me

Today, I celebrate every strong lady out there who has experience birthing and nurturing unplanned pregnancy. I see you. I feel your pain. I have experienced it too. I celebrate you. You are Strong. You are Powerful. You are Beautiful. Forget about what the society says and focus on God's plan for your life.

I am the Bravest of Hearts I am the Strongest of Souls 

I am not where I used to be. My name is Peju Adekunle 

I sincerely appreciate your comments 

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Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Feb 27
Feb 27

Hmm strong Young Woman
I salute your courage and strength.
How is your child?
May God Almighty grant you the strength to take care of her.
I wish you all the best and continue to be strong and determined to achieve your dreams.
Please follow back.

Jill Langhus
Feb 28
Feb 28

Hello Peju,

Thanks for sharing your vulnerable and inspiring story. How have your views about this situation changed and how has it shaped you to who you are now? What advice would you give to women in the same situation? You are strong, and you are brave...thanks again for sharing:-)

Hello, Peju,

You are indeed a brave woman. Your experiences made you strong and empathetic. We celebrate you, too!

Beth Lacey
Feb 28
Feb 28

You are strong and this post can help so many others

Peju Adekunle
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you for the kind words. How can we share for others to be inspired?

Metiege Noel Eve
Feb 28
Feb 28

Hello PEJU you are actually a strong soul refusing to break like the society wanted you to. The fear of pregnancy before wedluck have left so many women childless today because many spent time aborting these babies and by the time they were set they had done so much damage to their wombs and could no longer get pregnant. For some before the marriage came their biological clocks has stopped ticking. My respect to any girl who could withstand all societal pressure to keep a pregnancy out of wedlock. GOD bless you single mums you are strong and deserves accolades

Anita Shrestha
Feb 29
Feb 29

Thank you for shairng

laison sylvie
Mar 01
Mar 01

Strong is what yoh are and more my dearest. Life happens and we can't just judge a book by its cover. Am happy you had to brave it.

Shirin Dalaki
Mar 01
Mar 01

Yes, indeed, focus on God's plan for your life. I admire your bravery and your beauty. I am touched by your story and thank you for sharing.

lizzymark
Mar 02
Mar 02

Wow sister, I can understand that. But whenever I read your story blessed because you are strong and you go against all odds to be a hero. No rising without a fall. Stay on dear.

Peju Adekunle
Apr 01
Apr 01

Thank you sis..

Kabahenda
Mar 02
Mar 02

Sister Peju,
I congratulate you for not attempting to kill the child you were carrying because of societal pressure.
You chose to keep the pregnancy and become a single parent and this is extremely courageous.
I assume that the pregnancy is not something you chose, but having brought a child in this world, I would encourage you to be a beacon of hope fpr young women who find themselves in your situation.

Perhaps you have advice for other girls before they get pregnant. Happy mothering.

Peju Adekunle
Apr 01
Apr 01

Thank you for the kind words ma'am.
I spend time grooming young women now

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Mar 23
Mar 23

Dear Peju
I celebrate you.You will go places. You deserve the best comments to lift you higher.You are great
Love
Veronica Ngum
Bamenda,Cameroon

Peju Adekunle
Apr 01
Apr 01

Thank you for the kind words ma'am

Fanka
Mar 28
Mar 28

Hello dear sister, thanks for sharing

Peju Adekunle
Apr 01
Apr 01

Aww!! Thank you so much

Peju Adekunle
Apr 01
Apr 01

Aww!! Thank you so much