SEXUAL HARASSMENT STARTED AT 5

Peju Adekunle
Posted February 27, 2020 from Nigeria

Mother was excited she got a job after years of hunting. She wanted to get away from in-law troubles. She wanted to be in the company of new people different from the ones she saw on a regular. She had developed high blood pressure and so, the job was her escape from unnecessary issues with her tormentors. Maybe not totally, because weekends existed.

 Myself and my brother attended the same school. Mother made plans for us to stay with the headmistress and picked us up at 6pm—7pm, max 8pm. I would roam around the school premises out of boredom 

 

Later, she changed the settings, made acquaintances with a few women around the neighborhood far and near whose children attended the school and they obliged to take us HOME. (Support Systems) 

 

I was 5 years old. One day in one particular house, one of the women's son took me to their room, laid me on the bed and wanted to sex me. Another brother entered the room and shouted his name. He got off me and there I was looking like “what were they talking about?“ 

 

Do you know that the sexual harassment continued at most of the homes mother made arrangements for us to chill until she returned from work? How I escaped was by divine intervention. I don't know how but I recall the scenery. 

 

I couldn't tell mother because that relationship wasn't there. She didn't tell me that I shouldn't allow anyone touch my body or scream when it was about to be violated. She was more concerned with/and complained about me being a "Daddy's spoilt little girl."

 

I grew up learning to be my own personal coach. I talked with myself a lot. I solved boys and area uncles problems by myself. 

 

I hope one day, I will be courageous enough to tell you what went down for a particular period of time between my cousin and I at age 6 plus the after—effects on me.

 

MOTHERS... don't close your eyes focusing on your job alone. Don't trust everyone around your children. Be vigilant and give them Sex Education 

 

Thank you for reading and sharing

My name is Peju Adekunle 

 

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jessg411
Feb 27
Feb 27

Dear Peju-
Thank you so much for sharing your powerful story. I am so sorry to hear about the sexual abuse that happened to you. No one should ever have to go through this. I also read through some of your other posts and am inspired to hear how you were able to manage these difficult situations. Did you write a book? Thanks for also sharing this wonderful picture of you. You have a beautiful smile!! Stay strong, Jess

Marie Abanga
Feb 28
Feb 28

Dear Peju,

Standing strong through it all, and now sharing it all so a lot of people learn all there is to learn because we have missed out on so much trying to chase life and the dollar.
Thank you so much for sharing it all.
Light and love
Marie

Hello, Peju,

How courageous you are for speaking your truth! Please continue to break your silence. This is what World Pulse is about, among others. Thank you for reminding mothers to be vigilant on our children.

Anita Shrestha
Feb 29
Feb 29

Thank you for sharing this powerful story

Metiege Noel Eve
Feb 29
Feb 29

Thank you for sharing sis this is the plight many kids face with working class mums. Mums should learn to keep their daughters at home under suivellance of an older female nanny

lizzymark
Mar 02
Mar 02

Hi Peju,thanks for shearing your experience and thankful you were protected by God's devine mercy and grace,he will always watch over the helpless. I'll try to watch your show I hope I don't forget.
Keep it going dear,mothers truly have a grate task in their hands of watching this young once.

JANEKALU
Mar 09
Mar 09

Dear Peju, thanks for sharing your story.One thousand and one girls are victims of sexual harassment just because of carelessness of their mothers.Th e wickedness in this world today calls for early introduction of SEX EDUCATION in our homes .
Jane Kalu

Voice4Change
Mar 12
Mar 12

Dear Peju,
Thank you for sharing your story. As a working mother of young children myself, I find this very subject top of mind on a daily basis. A big reason for why we are as diligent as we are about who we allow to care for our children is because of others are sharing stories much like yours. Thank you for bringing awareness to this subject.
Wishing you the best, Connie

Shirin Dalaki
Mar 12
Mar 12

Dear Connie,
Welcome to World Pulse, I are glad you are here and sharing your thoughts with us.

Shirin

Peju Adekunle
Mar 16
Mar 16

You are welcome ma'am. Warm regards

Shirin Dalaki
Mar 12
Mar 12

Dear Peju,
I was touched by your story and so proud of you growing up being your own personal coach. Please continue to share with us your beautiful you and know that we are your cheerleaders.
Much Love,
Shirin

Kabahenda
Mar 17
Mar 17

Dear Peju,

You are a very courageous woman for sharing your story. Unfortunately, your story repeats itself so many times because as an African woman, our mothers are extremely trusting of friends, relatives, neighbours, etc. etc.
I know a young woman like you, who was not so lucky and monsters in the name of relatives really messed her up!

You are already a coach and I would encourage to make it your mission to coach other young girls in your community about this problem. Be their guide, mentor and coach. You could even form a Girls Club where you could talk to them in secrecy.

All the best to you.

Kabahenda
Mar 17
Mar 17

My dear Peju,

You are a very courageous young woman and I salute for that. Be very proud of yourself as I am of you.

I would encourage you to be a mentor, guide, and coach for other young women in your community. Perhaps you could form a Girls' Club where you can talk about your experience and encourage others never to allow strangers to touch them inappropriately.

All the best to you.