Mother was excited she got a job after years of hunting. She wanted to get away from in-law troubles. She wanted to be in the company of new people different from the ones she saw on a regular. She had developed high blood pressure and so, the job was her escape from unnecessary issues with her tormentors. Maybe not totally, because weekends existed.
Myself and my brother attended the same school. Mother made plans for us to stay with the headmistress and picked us up at 6pm—7pm, max 8pm. I would roam around the school premises out of boredom
Later, she changed the settings, made acquaintances with a few women around the neighborhood far and near whose children attended the school and they obliged to take us HOME. (Support Systems)
I was 5 years old. One day in one particular house, one of the women's son took me to their room, laid me on the bed and wanted to sex me. Another brother entered the room and shouted his name. He got off me and there I was looking like “what were they talking about?“
Do you know that the sexual harassment continued at most of the homes mother made arrangements for us to chill until she returned from work? How I escaped was by divine intervention. I don't know how but I recall the scenery.
I couldn't tell mother because that relationship wasn't there. She didn't tell me that I shouldn't allow anyone touch my body or scream when it was about to be violated. She was more concerned with/and complained about me being a "Daddy's spoilt little girl."
I grew up learning to be my own personal coach. I talked with myself a lot. I solved boys and area uncles problems by myself.
I hope one day, I will be courageous enough to tell you what went down for a particular period of time between my cousin and I at age 6 plus the after—effects on me.
MOTHERS... don't close your eyes focusing on your job alone. Don't trust everyone around your children. Be vigilant and give them Sex Education
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My name is Peju Adekunle
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