Violence against women by women

Ms Wunmi is one of the women who work in our organization. Her tears were like a broken tap whenever she turns them on. That was what brought me closer to her. Wunmi can weep for Africa and receive an award for that singular talent; weeping. My mother had similar problem, I suffered from it for seven years too. Therefore, I knew that it must have been either ongoing needs, unmet needs or ongoing violence. We became close friends and within a short period of time, I won her heart. I became her confidant and she could easily confide in me. I soon realized that she was constantly bullied, battered and openly violated with painful remarks, rebuke and castigation by her Younger sister. Yes, Four years younger than her, they are siblings. Wunmi is a widow. She lived with her younger sister. She is a woman above fifty but with only her children, left by her darling husband, as her life's positive achievement apart from hawking wares for her younger sister. With zero salary, her wages was food and shelter in her younger sister's apartment. Wunmi's younger sister capitalized on her poverty to ill treat her like a rag in the presence of all and sundry. It is appalling that nobody could physically raise eye brow or come to Wunmi's defence. I heard about Wunmi's situation and stood up for her. The constant violation arose eternal anger within me and I decided to do something. We brought her into my home, my company and my life. She became my right Hand person, we celebrate her birthday, according to Wunmi, it was her first birthday in her more than fifty years on earth, and we made her the women leader in our organization. Wunmi got her groove back. We placed her on a small monthly salary, raised her status and we showed her sisterly warmth. One day, In tears again, she looked at me and she said "I lost a sister and gained sisterhood for life" I responded, your tears may make you loose our sisterhood if it flows one more time. She quickly wiped her tears. Her only tears now is tears of joy. We are still together! We were able to raise her rent, Change a life, our partner, gave her grants twice, the first one was to start her business and second time was a grant called step up grant, the following year. For the first time in twenty years, she was able to rent her apartment and pay for it. She moved into her personal apartment in 2014, she became free from sisterly oppression at last. Today, she is our sister. Living independently of her oppressive younger sister. Why do women violate other women? The main reasons may not be far from prosperity, power over, position, privileges and control. I have seen a lady boss who turned her staff to a jelly fish. The boss' mood controls every staff's mood. I know of a boss whose words are sword that pierce deeper into the souls, Herat and mind of her staff members. What of the lady boss who thinks anyone working under her must be forever under and below her. There was a day, in January 2015, I was in Ogoja, in Nigeria to do a documentary on women abuse in Nigeria. I was referred to a village where only pregnant women were mutilated. If the pregnant woman dies, during mutilation, she is termed a witch and buried unsong and unmourned. These women were kept in a room for seven days after the mutilation. No medical attention or personnel. I was dumbfounded to find out that women are behind the practice. It is still upheld till now. Sustained by women. Woman! Woman!! Woman!!! Our major duty is to smash patriarchy! We are here to demolish every oppressive culture and tradition of man that keep women as second class citizens every where in the world. What do you do to other sisters that you cannot imagine be done to you???? Think deeply. Make a list of it if they are many. Write it down and strike it off your life. Work towards ending it because it is violence again women. Every woman deserves happiness. Do not make a woman unhappy. It is unwomanly.