I am a mother of daughters in a world that worships' sons and I am happy to inform the world that my daughters are enough.
Tobi and Divine, my dear daughters are my golden sun that welcomes a beautiful day. They are the sun that shines to brighten a beautiful day. In my life, these girls are the sun that gives the day its name. They are the fiery sunset that bade farewell to every beautiful day. My pride in the girl child was instilled in me by my mother. According to my late mother, it was her father that instilled the pride in her, definitely it is from generation to generation.
My grandfather told my mother that daughters are to be called Bamitale.....abide with me till night....instead of Bamikunle which literarily means....add to the number... My mother's voice rings in my ear always. That is why I find it very comfortable to accept the gifts of daughters in my life and embrace them wholeheartedly.
Two yeas ago, an elderly woman who has a strong stake in my husband's life called me into her too and said " Tosin, when are you going to give birth to our CHILDREN????" She is blessed with lots of sons. So a woman with teo daughters must be joking.
I was at first taken aback because, already I have two intelligent daughters. My mother's words came to my mind and quickly, I regained my senses and I responded, what about Tobi and Divine are they not children? She said....those are your children, sons are our children" I smiled and said, my daughters are enough!
My daughters are enough because they are ENOUGH. Believe me, they are the dream of every good person, intellectually, they are good, when it comes to empathy and kindness, oh these girls are embodiment of what the world needs now. Why will someone think that they are not enough children? It is because they are girls.
In AfricaAsia and some developing countries, the girl child is not accord the same respect as their male counterparts because of Name......the girl child drops off her maiden name after marriage and moves into some one else's family. Like a snake and lizard, she removes her layers and wears a strangers layer. Her name is erased forever.
It is a tradition that has been with us for hundred of years. Note, not from the beginning of the world. In our home, we have come to believe that what keeps a name forever is the legacy left behind not the sons left behind.
A good name is better than a thousand sons. There are many people without issues whose names and legacy will never be erased. How many biological children has Jesus Christ.?
I have watched marriages collapsed, relationships destroyed, women loose their lives just because of the quest for sons or a son as the case may be. It is a free world, every human being is free to pursue her source of happiness.
Your source of joy may not be another person's source of joy. But, never compare your journey with another person's journey. What life is to, may not be what it is to your neighbor.
Preference of a child over another is not healthyin the home or even in the world at large. Each child has its uniqueness and should be celebrated.
I celebrate the girl child, especially strong girls who knew that they were not loved or wanted in the family. Girl child, I love you with the whole of my heart, I feel you and I stand with and by you always. I promise you that your name shall reign in my lips forever. Your thought shall lead in my heart until I breathe my last breath.
Girl child, You are enough!!! You are my favorite.