My Daughters are enough!

Olutosin
Posted December 4, 2016 from Nigeria
Tobi and Divine assisting International film makers

I am a mother of daughters in a world that worships' sons and I am happy to inform the world that my daughters are enough.

Tobi and Divine, my dear daughters are my golden sun that welcomes a beautiful day. They are the sun that shines to brighten a beautiful day. In my life, these girls are the sun that gives the day its name. They are the fiery sunset that bade farewell to every beautiful day. My pride in the girl child was instilled in me by my mother. According to my late mother, it was her father that instilled the pride in her, definitely it is from generation to generation.

My grandfather told my mother that daughters are to be called Bamitale.....abide with me till night....instead of Bamikunle which literarily means....add to the number... My mother's voice rings in my ear always. That is why I find it very comfortable to accept the gifts of daughters in my life and embrace them wholeheartedly.

Two yeas ago, an elderly woman who has a strong stake in my husband's life called me into her too and said " Tosin, when are you going to give birth to our CHILDREN????" She is blessed with lots of sons. So a woman with teo daughters must be joking.

I was at first taken aback because, already I have two intelligent daughters. My mother's words came to my mind and quickly, I regained my senses and I responded, what about Tobi and Divine are they not children? She said....those are your children, sons are our children" I smiled and said, my daughters are enough!

My daughters are enough because they are ENOUGH. Believe me, they are the dream of every good person, intellectually, they are good, when it comes to empathy and kindness, oh these girls are embodiment of what the world needs now. Why will someone think that they are not enough children? It is because they are girls.

In AfricaAsia and some developing countries, the girl child is not accord the same respect as their male counterparts because of Name......the girl child drops off her maiden name after marriage and moves into some one else's family. Like a snake and lizard, she removes her layers and wears a strangers layer. Her name is erased forever.

It is a tradition that has been with us for hundred of years. Note, not from the beginning of the world. In our home, we have come to believe that what keeps a name forever is the legacy left behind not the sons left behind.

A good name is better than a thousand sons. There are many people without issues whose names and legacy will never be erased. How many biological children has Jesus Christ.?

I have watched marriages collapsed, relationships destroyed, women loose their lives just because of the quest for sons or a son as the case may be. It is a free world, every human being is free to pursue her source of happiness.

Your source of joy may not be another person's source of joy. But, never compare your journey with another person's journey. What life is to, may not be what it is to your neighbor.

Preference of a child over another is not healthyin the home or even in the world at large. Each child has its uniqueness and should be celebrated.

I celebrate the girl child, especially strong girls who knew that they were not loved or wanted in the family. Girl child, I love you with the whole of my heart, I feel you and I stand with and by you always. I promise you that your name shall reign in my lips forever. Your thought shall lead in my heart until I breathe my last breath.

Girl child, You are enough!!! You are my favorite.

This story was submitted in response to 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.

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yvoneakoth
Dec 04, 2016
Dec 04, 2016

Hallo Olutosin,

Thank you for sharing your story. While I am reading it, I am encouraged by your courage and strength which all women with daughters only need to have. In my family, we are two sisters and my parents love was and is still unconditional. It is for this reason that I support you and will continue encouraging and supporting women with daughters who feel like they are alone.

Olutosin
Dec 04, 2016
Dec 04, 2016

Thanks for sharing your story.. I am impressed with your parents stand. Unconditional love, irrespective of gender. That's is my gospel ❤

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Feka
Dec 04, 2016
Dec 04, 2016

Great story. You just added my pride as an only daughter with all boys. 

Girls are indeed very precious and important at all levels be it in the family and society as a whole.

Olutosin
Dec 04, 2016
Dec 04, 2016

Hey darling sister ❤ thanks for reading and for commenting. Ahh an only daughter amongst boys will definitely be loved, chei you are loved....compare to daughters and no boys. Every human being deserved to be loved unconditionally. I love you ooooo

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allie shep
Dec 05, 2016
Dec 05, 2016

Good for you, Olutosin. Throughout the world, the girl child should be praised, supported, and encouraged. Daughters have to suffer in this world far more than sons, and one day that will be recognised by everyone even by men.  Allie x

danadabbous
Dec 05, 2016
Dec 05, 2016

Thank you for sharing your story. I admire your passion. I like what you said about not comparing our journey with another person's journey. That is true we all have our own paths to lead. There should be no preferences over a child and yet in some places they are. The birth of a child is fascinating and beautiful and girl or boy should be praised, loved and appreciated. Women are strong and powerful and are doing great things in this world.

Hope to read more from you. Take care, Dana

Olutosin
Dec 05, 2016
Dec 05, 2016

Oh yes dear sister, women are strong. We deserve and earn our respect. This must be appreciated and accepted by the whole whole world

Lana Holmes
Dec 07, 2016
Dec 07, 2016

Hay Olutosin!    

It's been way too long since I reached out to acknowledge your beauty, courage and good works on behalf of women and girls!   It is my hope to see you at the Board meeting in San Francisco, CA this year.   Regardless... I continue to love and support you from afar!  

Christina
Dec 10, 2016
Dec 10, 2016

Because you are a strong loving mother. Your daughters will be strong women. I have one daughter and two sons. I recognize that we need to empower our daughters in a world where men are valued. Strong girls will lead the world one day. 

Marie SHAKALILI
Dec 22, 2016
Dec 22, 2016

Merci beaucoup Mama de grand travail que vous êtes entrain de réaliser. le monde a besoin des femmes courageuses pour restaurer le bien être de tous.

toutes les bonnes choses pour vous

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