THIS IS NOT HOW IT WAS MEANT TO BE

Osadebe Hephzibah Ijeoma
Posted January 5, 2017 from Nigeria

No! It was not what I bargained for.

I did not ask to be born into a community where the men desired only budding teenagers for wives.

I heard they were told that they were the most viable to produce strong sons

so every mother with a female daughter dreaded the day her little innocent daughter will be turned into a woman.

No! It was not what we deserved.

We were like every other teenager running the streets, excited about our innocence

Till it was snatched away from us.

No! How can I let him touch me?

He is about the age of my father. I know this because I have seen them sit together and chat under the "dogonyaro" tree.

And they laughed like only friends would.

No! I do not feel the same.

My innocence is gone and with it my childhood.

I look in the mirror and the body I see looks like that of my mother

Because in my mind, this is how my mother feels when she looks in the mirror.

Yes! They said I would understand when I grow older

But how much older can I get than I already feel?

Will my daughter pass through the same thing as me?

For how long will I ask these questions?

Osadebe Ijeoma

This piece is dedicated to every child bride and those who fight for them.

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WorldCare
Jan 05, 2017
Jan 05, 2017

Dear Osadebe, I have read your comments here. I can't even imagine this kind of life. I am so sorry that you must suffer in this way, and that your entire community practices this behavior. I'm sure you wonder how you can change this. I thank you so much for telling the world about this. It truly is a way for a young girl's good life to be snatched away from her. It is cruel. I will be hoping for change.

Jill Langhus
Jan 06, 2017
Jan 06, 2017

Hi Osadebe. Welcome to World Pulse. Thanks for your honest and sad post. How do you think traditions and habits can be changed for child brides in your community? Did you suffer the same fate or about to?

Natasha L
Jan 09, 2017
Jan 09, 2017

dear Osadebe -

Your writing is very beautiful and full of deep emotions. Please share and write more, so we can learn about you and your community. Natasha

Adanna
Jan 25, 2017
Jan 25, 2017

Yeahhh! Welcome to World Pulse IJ.

So good to have you here :)

Love,

Adanna

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