Women are Resilient

otahelp
Posted December 10, 2019 from Nigeria

My organisation in collaboration with Handmaid Skill Acquisition Initiative(our lead partner) conveners of Handmaid Widows are still working with widows and this Christmas we are empowering so of them with some economic equipment that will be giving them daily income. We called a meeting of all the women kindred heads to submit names of the indigent widows in their respective kindreds.

We started with the brief introduction of the United Nations 16 Days Activism against Gender Based Violence. We acquainted them with the list of what comprises Gender Based Violence  - harmful widowhood practices, female disinheritance which is still very high in Avu, Female Genital Mutilation, Psychological Violence, Political Violence, Physical Violence, sexual violence, street harassment and  Disinheritance.

Their feedback was that it is the culture and tradition which became very obvious now that urbanisation is encroaching into the community and all communal lands are being parcellated  and shared among the male children only. So anyone without male children will get one portion only and those with male children even a day old will get more portions of land. These land issues brought up a lot of confusion and controversy to the extent that boys go and impregnate their girlfriends and demand that lands should not be shared until their girlfriends deliver to ascertain whether the new baby will be a boy or not. That is how bad it got.

Well way forward, we agreed to take up the issue through advocacy to the Council of Chiefs since we do not have a king or traditional ruler right now. So hopefully we will pursue this matter to a reasonable conclusion and be able to effect a change. For sure this will not be easy especially as we do not have a king. We need to start from somewhere and see how far we can go.

Lessons learnt: women can do something about all these issues if they are well informed. They can pull down all forces if they agree and move with one mind towards one goal.

We eventually worked on the list of indigent widows according to their kindreds to be sure no one is left behind. 30 indigent widows will be empowered with different grinding machines according to their flairs to enable them have daily income to take care of themselves and family. These thirty (30) was also according the amount of fund we have been able to raise from individuals philanthropists.

The rest of them will go home with relief materials majorly food and groceries.

We really have our hand full as we are on talent hunt courtesy of a philanthropist who wants to organise a female football tournament. We have written to several government establishments for their supports and presence. The Chairman of Imo State Female footballers have promised to be present to watch out for new talents and also the Imo state football association have given their commitments to send us match commissioners. Preparations are in top gear. All these means there won’t be any holiday for me (us) this yuletide.

This story was submitted in response to #IStandWithHer.

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djamila ibrahim olame
Dec 10, 2019
Dec 10, 2019

Hello dear Otahelp!
J'espère que vous allez bien.
Je suis inspirée par votre article, merci beaucoup d'avoir partagé.

otahelp
Dec 10, 2019
Dec 10, 2019

Oleam thank you for reading my post, i am encouraged to do more

Thelma Musanhu
Dec 10, 2019
Dec 10, 2019

Keep doing a great Job

Felicitas Wung
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

That was a good job.
Continue in that spirit.

baganda
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

hello merci pour cet idees

Jill Langhus
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Hi Ota,

When will you get a response from the Council of Chiefs? I'm glad you're pursuing these rights for women. That doesn't sound right at all. Thanks for helping to empower all these widows. I hope some of them join World Pulse and we can hear their testimonials and first-hand stories of empowerment. Thanks so much for sharing this update... you're on fire:-) XX

otahelp
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

i hope so too because i know that their stories told by them will make more impact than the one i tell. thank you Jill for having our back always. We are yet to go for the visit but will surely update us all here when it happens

Jill Langhus
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Yes, I think it would be great to hear from them, too. You're very well, dear!

Okay. Looking forward to hearing more about it!

Anita Shrestha
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Lisbeth
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dear Otahelp,
So splendid! I am really looking forward to their joining of world pulse. I can't wait to hear their own stories yaay. From the horses own mouth.
Thanks for sharing dear.
Take care

otahelp
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dear Lisabeth you can only take a horse to the river you can never fore her to drink. i hope they have signed in and for those that signed in while in that meeting, i also hope they can start sharing their stories. thank you for standing with us

Lisbeth
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Haha, "you can't force it to drink the water" indeed. I got you!
Thanks for the efforts.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hello, dear Otahelp,

Wow! I love the development of your activities. Congratulations on this. This is a powerful statement, "women can do something about all these issues if they are well informed. They can pull down all forces if they agree and move with one mind towards one goal."

Thank you for inspiring us with your love in action, dear. Hoping for the best. Keep up the great work! Have a wonderful weekend.

otahelp
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

thank you once again Karen. i cannot thank you enough for your daily encouragement. it enhances actions and activities. please do not stop. Merry Christmas

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 15, 2019
Dec 15, 2019

The pleasure is mine, dear sister. This is the least that I can do to support your great work. Merry Christmas, too!