Hi, my name is Pam, and I’m a recovering co-dependent, people-pleasing, peace-keeper. Those were my three major roles and I played them all very well. They were my safe place to hide, my excuse for not stepping out of my comfort zone, and my rationale for later becoming a helicopter mom of the highest order. Those roles lived in some pretty “wicked” stories that I created.
There’s something else you should know…
I’ve been on a quest since the time I was about 10 years old when I read my first self-help book, “TA for Tots”. A quest to figure out how to stop all the crappy stories that played on a loop in my head. The stories that ultimately kept me (as an adult) a co-dependent, people-pleasing, peace-keeper and someone I ultimately wasn’t.
And the thing is, I didn’t have some catastrophic event that turned my life around. I’ve not led a tragic life filled with one dramatic event after another.
I have, however, experienced situations, people, circumstances, words, and actions that helped me to craft those pretty “wicked” stories that kept me feeling less than and settling. But rather than blame anyone or anything, I’d like to take this opportunity to say one thing...
Yes, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you to every experience. Thank you to every significant person in my life who unknowingly said something or did something that helped me to craft every single story that I’ve ever told; the crappy ones, and the good ones. If it weren’t for each of you, I wouldn’t be here and I most certainly wouldn’t be the woman I am today.
A woman who is proud of who she is, who is comfortable in her own skin. A woman who recognizes and celebrates that she has come a long way from that co-dependent, people-pleasing, peace-keeping person trying desperately to fit in. I’m finally owning who I am and sharing who I am unapologetically. That includes my fondness for most things “woo”, my introverted ways, and my obsession with personal development books of all kinds.
What’s even cooler, I now recognize the stories that have tried to convince me that I’m “less than” or undeserving of happiness, love, success, and peace so that I can rewrite them. So, I'm grateful to be here. I'm grateful to use the fires I've walked through to help another woman walk through her own, because at the end of the day, we were meant to shine.
We were meant to do extraordinary things! We were meant to be our most authentic, beautiful selves and rewrite those crappy stories that try to convince us otherwise. It's from that place of empowerment that we'll continue to change the world and pave the way for other women to go from powerless to powerful.