Blossom

payal_4
Posted March 10, 2018 from United States

The other day I was told that I have blossomed in the last few years and have grown into myself. At first, I felt offended. I thought I had blossomed a long time ago lol. But after continuously having this statement running through my mind, I agreed. At the age of 29, I have blossomed. I have grown. But this has little to do with myself and more to do with the experiences I’ve faced. It’s safe to say that my experiences are experiences many girls face. 

The pain of having a partner who I was dating and living with for 8 years totally change after marriage. His family pressuring him to expect me to be a “woman” that’s “acceptable”. Everyone throwing slurs at me because I wasn’t what they wanted me to be. Things have changed in the last year, as we decided the best thing for us was to create boundaries from toxicity. But the idea of my kindness and love never being enough because I am not a culturally acceptable female makes me sick.

I think I blossomed the day I decided I am amazing, beautiful, and don’t have to limit myself because of my gender, the day I decided that I am accepting of all people and not going to judge someone because they don’t fit into my idea of woman or man. I have become fierce, strong, forgiving, and more loving than I ever was. And it is so beautiful to see that so many women have come to this point as well. I don’t feel alone anymore, no matter where I go or what happens. We are all so lucky for this movement and I hope that I can become as strong as all of you.

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Tamarack Verrall
Mar 10, 2018
Mar 10, 2018

Hello dear Sister,
You have been through a lot, and I was so happy to read how your standing firm in who you are and recognizing your own beauty opened the path to where you are now. I am so glad you found WorldPulse. I agree, we are all so lucky to be here together.

payal_4
Mar 10, 2018
Mar 10, 2018

Thank you for your kind words, Tam. Your words mean so much to me!

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Mar 10, 2018
Mar 10, 2018

Hello, Sister,

You are your own unique kind of flower just as each of us is. I am glad that you learn to love and accept yourself just as you are. To blossom into a better version of you is a result of your self-love and acceptance.

Thank you for sharing!

Jill Langhus
Mar 11, 2018
Mar 11, 2018

Hi Payal:) Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your story. You are already strong. You are a silence breaker. You may want to consider submitting your story for the current story awards under "You Are a Silence Breaker" currently running: https://www.worldpulse.com/en/voices-rising/story-awards/83055. Have a great day!

payal_4
Mar 11, 2018
Mar 11, 2018

Thank you so much! I just submitted it this morning!

Jill Langhus
Mar 12, 2018
Mar 12, 2018

Hi Payal:) You're welcome. Good luck! Please be aware that you will want to use the big left arrow under each comment, if you respond that is, so that the commentator will get an automated email notification alerting them of your response:-)

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Mar 12, 2018
Mar 12, 2018

Hi Paypal
It's amazing how you have overcome your challenges and been reborn. Many times we underestimate our inner potential to become the best that we can be in life. There is so much positive energy in the universe that we haven't tapped into. You are beautiful with a very beautiful soul and you are a very strong woman who has used her voice to rise up. Keep rising because the sky is just the beginning for you my dear sister.
Sisterhood forever.