GIRLS ARE A BOON OR A BURDEN???

Poulami Ghosh
Posted September 10, 2020 from India
A proud mother and A proud daughter
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If someone brought up the topic of gender preference, do you react by saying, ‘Gender preference? Really? Isn’t it a thing of the past?’ Your reaction is probably due to the fact that you see around you more girls among top-ranking students; more women having jobs, access to education, money and resources; more women holding positions of authority and making strides in all fields. But, what about all those girls and women who didn’t even get a chance to live?

Although the twenty-first century India is highly educated and developing at a fast pace, there is still a higher preference for a male child as because sons are considered as assets whether for political, economic or ritual reasons while daughters are considered burdensome liabilities.

As of 2015, according to statisticstimes.com, among all countries, India ranked 192nd with a dismal sex ratio of 106.98, which means there were only 93.47 females for every 100 males. Again, according to an article in the Lancet (2011), research data implies that ‘in India about 400,000 sex-selective abortions have taken place annually in recent years’!

Here are a few reasons for gender preference in India - socio-cultural factors like dowry, wedding expenses, custom of gift-giving, inability of girls to take care of parents after marriage, domestic violence, ill treatment by husbands and in-laws, ill treatment on account of giving birth to a girl, and so on. This gender preference goes hand-in-hand with gender discrimination.

Amartya Sen spoke about the ‘missing women’, bringing to light the practice of female infanticide and female foeticide, which doesn’t give the girl a chance to even be born.

So, how can we change this scenario, which doesn’t favour the female child?

Since change begins at home, parents are the best agents of change. We can begin by looking at the positives of having a girl in the family and her contribution to the society.

Women are - Pillars of the future: Just as we say that the youth of today are the citizens of tomorrow, so is the same with our girls. They are the women of tomorrow. If we want to empower them, we must reduce inequality and gender gaps, and create strong women leaders. We have to let them live today and raise them to be those leaders of equality and development.

Change-makers:There is a saying “You educate a man, you educate a man. You educate a woman, you educate a generation.” Women are naturally more social and thus more inclined to help those around them. By bringing up their daughter with the right values and education, parents can kick-start the change and create a change-maker.

Multi-taskers: Women are much better at multi-tasking. They are taking up roles, which were previously the preserve of men, like CEOs, entrepreneurs, while handling the home and hearth with equal flair. In some cases, they are also the providers in the family.

With such strengths that women possess, why should they continue to be sidelined? The girls of today are proving themselves equal to boys in every respect. They are distinguishing themselves as achievers in every field, from academics to sport to profession. They are successfully playing multiple roles in every sphere of life. Their will to develop and help others develop alongside is what can take our society forward. They are meant to be 50% of the population, their voices matter in creating a more equitable community. Moreover, they make a ‘house’ feel like ‘home’. So, go ahead and welcome the girl child with a warm embrace!

So dear friends, I m proud to be a GIRL,a WIFE, and most of all a MOTHER OF A GIRL CHILD....

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Chidimma
Sep 11
Sep 11

Wow, Dear Poulami. Your story about raising the girl child is wonderful. I can't agree less in all you wrote. Thanks for sharing and a big welcome to Worldpulse.
We are not only strong, we are powerful.
Keep sharing.
Love
Chidimma

Poulami Ghosh
Sep 12
Sep 12

Thanks ❤️will surely do.. Love

Nini Mappo
Sep 11
Sep 11

Hello Poulami,
I am glad that you are changing the tide and fate of girl children in India, starting with your girl. I watched a documentary about girl infanticide in India that leads to shortage of brides on some remote places, leading to polyandry where the woman does not have a choice as to whether she marries all the related husbands or not.
It is sad that even when faced with that reality, some communities still can't see the value of letting their girls live.

But with creating awareness as you are doing now, the tide can change. Good on you, congratulations on being a mum, and welcome to World Pulse.

Poulami Ghosh
Sep 12
Sep 12

Thanks a lot for the wonderful words.. Really aprreciate❤️

Andrace
Sep 14
Sep 14

Hi Poulami,
Welcome to World Pulse and congratulations on your first post! Wow! What a great piece. I' m proud to be a woman too. Thank you for joining this great sisterhood. Keep raising your voice against gender discrimination. Women must continue to make impact, get respect and recognition for it. The statistics and insights you gave were great! Together, we can Sis.

We would love to read more from you.

Love and hugs,
E. J.

Poulami Ghosh
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks for all the love. Keep supporting. Will really appreciate ❤️

Chi8629
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thank you for sharing.

Poulami Ghosh
Sep 26
Sep 26

Most welcome. Looking forward to share more❤️keep supporting

Hello, Poulami,

Welcome to World Pulse! I'm glad that a new voice from India is rising up!

Wow! I love that photo of you and your daughter! Your smiles say it all: you're proud to be women! Thank you for this insightful post with context from India, dear. Continue to raise your voice so the world will see that women are gifts to this world. Definitely not a burden, but a blessing!

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Hope to see you!

Poulami Ghosh
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks for all the love and support ❤️