After losing my baby girl on the 28 June 2016, I thought my world was ending, the pain was so deep more than when I lost my husband in 1996. Though she was 28 years, to me was still my baby girl and I felt I am losing my mind. The feeling of not remembering anyone's name, where I forgot which day it was, if bathed or eaten, I was a walking corpse, worse I felt that I failed her by allowing her to get married as she was only married for 10 days when she collapsed and died and the postmortem declared "unnatural death" up to today we have no idea what killed my daughter i raised for 28 years and about to graduate for law in November 2016. She got married on the 17 June 2019 collapsed 28 June 2019 living a 4 months old baby girl she adored so much.
When I finally came to accept that she was gone, my mind re-winded the episode of my feelings then and realised that I was nearly admitted into mental clinic. The thought made me aware that mental sickness is not a joke, it can be a stigma to others who dont understand the root cause but you as an individual who knows what made you ended in that situation can only live to tell the story hence I decided to volunteer my time to one mental home in Irene South Africa and find it easy to interact and fits in and understand what those ladies were going through and find it easy to give support, love and affection their need.
People with mental health problems say that the social stigma attached to mental ill health and the discrimination they experience can make their difficulties worse and make it harder to recover. Most people who experience mental health problems recover fully, or are able to live with and manage them, especially if they get help early on.
But even though so many people are affected, there is a strong social stigma attached to mental ill health, and people with mental health problems can experience discrimination in all aspects of their lives. Many people's problems are made worse by the stigma and discrimination they experience - from society, but also from families, friends and employers.
Nearly nine out of ten people with mental health problems say that stigma and discrimination have a negative effect on their lives.Stigma and discrimination can also worsen someone's mental health problems, and delay or impede their getting help and treatment, and their recovery. Social isolation, poor housing, unemployment and poverty are all linked to mental ill health. So stigma and discrimination can trap people in a cycle of illness. With my previous experience, I believe nothing beats the love and support of our families, friends and everyone closer to us. If accepted, understood and the simple hug is given, the healing process is 100% guaranteed than taking any medicine and saying this because I walked through that road as I was never hospitalised or diagnosed or taken any medication BUT the love and support without judgement and understanding the root cause was the best medicine received from my family and friend.
Let us learn to love, understand without judging what we have no basis of. Stop stigmatization and place ourselves in others shoes. Love conquers all. I am attaching some of the pictures of the home I adopted where we donated umbrellas as their request and need of those umbrellas. There is so much need in that home if only the world can look at such communities and support as much as they can