I am Enough: The biggest takeaway this International Women's Day

Pukhraj Ranjan
Posted March 8, 2019 from India

This International Women's Day, I have spent some time reflecting on what my big learnings are as a woman. 

Growing up, I was called a Tomboy a lot.

A girl who behaves like a boy. One who is fiery. Great at studies. Plays sports. Talks a lot. Wins a lot. 

I even remember using the term to describe myself all through my teenage years.

But as I entered early adulthood, I started to notice the problem with that term and with that definition. 

Why can a girl not win? not be strong? not be loud? not be crazy

It has taken nearly a decade to unpeel the layers and create the new me. A new, female, loud & proud me.

So today, even though these lessons will change with time, I want to share my top 3 life learnings with the women of the world. They might sound repetitive, but that's that because it is true. Hope you affirm these as you go on your own path of self-exploration and be downright hardcore in creating the life you want.

 

Lesson 1. I am worthy. I am enough.

For the longest time, I struggled to find my position in a crowd as well a conversation. This was not because I had nothing to say but because I didn't believe anyone cared enough to listen. Today, I have something to say and I don't care if you don't want to listen. My voice is my voice and I will use it as I please.

 

Lesson 2. No one is in charge but me.

With the confidence to say what I believe came the realization that no longer, I am the damsel-in-distress. As a young girl influenced by Bollywood, I believed I was meant to be woo-ed and taken care of by my man (father and later in life, husband). Same as a young working woman, the boss decided if I got a promotion or not. But now I know, my career is mine to make, and the same for my life. The people who don't fit my life trajectory will be replaced with ones who care and support. And, I will take charge.

 

Lesson 3. I am ready to receive.

As women, we are raised to expect less. From our loved ones, from our education, from our career, from our life. We are the ones who are meant to serve. Don't get me wrong, I will take care of my loved ones, friends and family, till my last breath. But I also won't stop caring for myself. It is now my choice to let go of situations that don't serve me. I get ready to have a life where I receive- receive love, fame, freedom, and everything in between that my heart desires.

 

To all the crazy, strong, badass women, Come To The Front.

Happy International Women's Day

 

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Jill Langhus
Mar 08
Mar 08

Hi Pukhraj,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for your strong post. I agree with you. I would have also identified myself as a tomboy growing up, but also seeing how it didn't sit well with me either. Thanks also for the reminder on these great three life lessons. I would agree that these are definitely very important ones.

I'm looking forward to seeing more posts from you and hearing about your work and mission, too!

Hope you're having a great IWD!

Pukhraj Ranjan
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thank you for you kind message. I had been waiting to post here but just couldn't bring up my thoughts! Today was the best day.. only upwards from here! Hope to share AND hear more :)

Jill Langhus
Mar 09
Mar 09

You're very welcome, dear:-) Well, you did a great job!

Great to hear! Looking forward to it, dear!!!

Hope you have a great weekend!

Marie Abanga
Mar 08
Mar 08

Hello sis
"To all the crazy, strong, badass women, Come To The Front": PRESENT with both hands raised.
I simply say it loud and clear these days that I AM MY OWN DEFINITION
In sisterhood
MAG (my new name for some months now lol)

Pukhraj Ranjan
Mar 08
Mar 08

Yes MAG! We are in this together! Today and every day!! More power to you, love!

Bettina Amendi
Mar 18
Mar 18

Wow,i have COME TO THE FRONT,my dear sister i like the flow in your post.You are a Self Confidence tutor.I would like to work with you.Check on this.
https://www.worldpulse.com/en/community/users/bettina-amendi/posts/90016

Pukhraj Ranjan
May 02
May 02

Thank you Bettina! Would love to help out in any way I can!

Beth Lacey
May 02
May 02

This is great! Every woman and girl should read this.

Pukhraj Ranjan
May 02
May 02

Thank you Beth! :D

Adanna
Jul 02
Jul 02

Dear Pukhraj,

Nice article! Indeed "I am Enough!"

Thank you for sharing :)

Love,
Adanna

Pukhraj Ranjan
Jul 02
Jul 02

Thank you Adanna! You are enough! I am enough! We all are ENOUGH! :D