Overcoming Into Your Becoming.

Rachyrae
Posted March 7, 2019

Sisters, has there ever been a time that you put up for an application to an important fellowship, grant, award, nomination, scholarship, job, proposal, bid, failed an examination or even failed to succeed in your marital goals?

 

I bet that a lot of us will identify and recognise this first paragraph. Truly, because it exists every single day, hour and minute of our lives .

 

Dissapointment  and rejection is an inevitable experience that we must face in one or the other in our life journey. 

Recently, I confided in one of my WorldPulse ambassadors and mentor of how lately I had been getting rejection emails to important grants, global fellowships and bids. It's been so depressing that I wonder were did I go wrong? Was I not qualified enough? Did I not meet their requirements even after all the adherence. Was my application less stronger than another candidate who they felt required to get the post other than I? A lot go through my mind every single time I see a rejection email, text or call.

 

I remember vividly early this year when I received one, I was so depressed that I wanted to just let the earth swallow me. I felt I was a failure and undeserving. I felt like my life depended on it.

After all of these dark thoughts and intentions,  I said to myself, “why will I allow myself become an object of dissapoimtment,  when a lot of people look up to me for mentoring, support and advocacy every single day. WHY DO I HAVE TO GIVE UP NOW?”.

 

Of what Use will it be if I told my MAKER that I just wanted to quit?

 

Of what use will a great success story be if there was no story of challenges and hardships experienced in between. There has to be a story for a glory. And then it dawned on me of the beautiful and life changing opportunities that had come across my way before the rejection responses and in between my life journey. When I look back, I realise that I had been lucky and others will kill to be part of it too.

So my point here ladies is, “Its time for the LADIES to wake up from their regrets, fears, demotivation, indifference,  non-challantness and lastly ingratitude. Appreciate what you have now and prepare your way to your success stories with challenging situations and stories as this your journey on earth exists".

 

So some people may be wondering why I post here a lot these days as well as encourage . The truth is I do it because there is a whole lot to share.  The good part, is women deserve to be inspired and motivated to be their best. if adding value to the lives of thousands of women from various backgrounds, beliefs, culture and works at some difficult time in their lives or career is all that WorldPulse platform offers me, then it is worth every bit of effort and investment. It lifts my spirit everyday to let others know that regardless of what their circumstances suggest, "there is hope", and that there is greatness on the inside of each and everyone of us. So then do not hinge your success on others!  

 

I leave you with these few tips that has helped me admist turmoils and a great uplift for me and miraculously for others. They are :

 

1. Pray your way into success. 2. Find focused and committed mentors. 3. Build a reliable professional network . 4. Know your skills, competencies and passions and stick to them thick and thin. 5. Focus on becoming an expert within your field(s) of interest . 6. Remain incredibly positive at all times . 7. Inspire others in your journey through successes.

8. Lastly, do not allow the dissapointment and challenges disrupt your goals to impacting others.

 

Whatever Greatness you want others to remember you for before you are out of this world, it had better be a remarkable one.  

 

Well, a true legacy all the way - so, overcome and start becoming. 

 

Happy International Women's Day!   

This post was submitted in response to Change starts with a story..

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Dawn Arteaga
Mar 07
Mar 07

Yes! Love this! The more we all remember these wise words and stop looking for external validation from others, the stronger we will be! so helpful!

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so much Dawn. Your words are priceless. I appreciate this.

Wala Lut
Mar 07
Mar 07

That is very nice article

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so much dear

jlanghus
Mar 07
Mar 07

Hi Racheal,

Thanks for sharing your personal experience with disappointment. I've been there recently, too, and I agree with, and appreciate your solutions for overcoming challenges and disappointment. I think it's okay to feel sad for a bit to acknowledge the disappointment, but I also think we need to keep our eye on the prize, as you do all the time.

Hope you have a great IWD!

Good luck with your story submission!

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so much dear. If you read closely at my writeup, you will notice that I mentioned a WorldPulse mentor and ambassador. That was actually you. You have been so assistive. Always lending a hand to help in one way or another. Your soul is divine. I appreciate you. Thank you so much.

jlanghus
Mar 08
Mar 08

You're very welcome:-) Yes, I noticed but wasn't sure if you were referring to me...ha:-)

Aw. I'm glad to be of help, dear. Thanks for the awesome compliment! I appreciate you and your work, too, dear!

Hope you're having a great IWD!!!

Rachyrae
Mar 08
Mar 08

Oh yes I am my dear. In fact I am going to share another post on my experience. It's been so refreshing spending my time with my Down Syndrome brothers and sisters

jlanghus
Mar 08
Mar 08

Great:-) You rock!!

Ndongmanji Eunice
Mar 07
Mar 07

Hello Rachyrae
Write up well articulated. I have experienced a lot of rejection from fellowships, scholarships, trainings, conferences, etc and almost gave up. But then due to my focus on my goals and supportive friends I didn't give up. Thanks for sharing.

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Awww Eunice, I am so happy knowing that women like us is exist. Not allowing circumstances or defeats weigh us down. I would not deny that several times it has hurt me but the joy of knowing that someone else out there admires our works and is inspired by our efforts is what makes me energized to do even more. Thank you for identifying with me and acknowledging that admist all odds , we shall overcome into becoming.

bukkystars
Mar 07
Mar 07

My Sister, I so identify with these... Most times, it seems the world is about to collapse... Disappointments and rejections..... I pray to overcome and start becoming... soon...

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

It can be so frustrating and discouraging. Its that bad that you feel like it may be an omen. But the beauty is looking back and thanking God for the great achievements you have had before.. Thank you so much for identifying with me.

Obisakin Busayo
Mar 07
Mar 07

So true my Sister! I can identify with you on this. It got to a stage, I did not want to try again but we can't give up! The struggle continues, Victory is certain!!! happy Women's day!

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Yes o. Why it feels that way most times is because if God could open our eyes to see the number of blessings we have ahead of us, we would feel grateful. All this can be a learning curve for greater stories in the future.

tspencer25
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Yes, disappointments can be quite difficult when you are going through them which is the unfortunate side. The benefit is you should, pause, reflect and learn from the challenge, so you will not repeat them.
One approach is when you have a disappointment determine how long you will experience it, (put a timer on it), and then map out your path to move on. Challenges make you stronger and give you a plethora of stories and lessons learned to pass on to others. The Ying and Yang of it all!

Rachyrae
Mar 07
Mar 07

Yes dear. Your words of wisdom are so powerful. Very encouraging. I really appreciate this. A great driver for me and every other woman experiencing one challenge or the other..

Kirthi
Mar 07
Mar 07

What a powerful post, Rachyrae! How beautifully you convey the thought that we are MORE than enough! <3

Rachyrae
Mar 08
Mar 08

Yes Kirthi,
I am so happy knowing that my post inspired a lot of women out there. A lot of us are dying in silence and it's best we learn to inspire each other so we keep moving despite all odds.

Leina
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so much for these powerful words sis Rachel, you are one wise woman and l agree with you. Our dreams and aspirations are hidden in the beds of time,they come to us as easily as the night gives way to the morning when it's dawn.
Hugs sis

Rachyrae
Mar 08
Mar 08

Awww Leina. I am sending you a Big Hug from where I am. We will pull through together. We will not allow defeat hold us down. We will keep standing tall no matter what.

Reny
Mar 07
Mar 07

Great story there Rachy. Thanks for sharing. I can identify with your story.
This happened to me on several occasions. I applied for job, fellowships and my qualifications were so good, matching the requirements of the employers but I've never receive a positive feedback All I got was rejection. I got worried that something might be wrong with me. But again, there is a bright side to it. No story without challenges.

Rachyrae
Mar 08
Mar 08

Exactly my dear Reny. There can be no victory without challenges and stories of defeats. In fact it makes us stronger and makes us wiser so we make it through at the end, I appreciate you. We are Overcoming!

Hello, Racheal,

Rejections do make us feel terrible. I’m glad you rose above the feeling of defeat and shared the reflections with us. Thank you for your words of wisdom, all worth remembering.

Rachyrae
Apr 05
Apr 05

Thank you so much Karen. This means a lot to me.