Break Gender based tabboos

Okay so I understand woman is the most sensitive part of my culture for some reasons, but what is unfathomable for me is the level of hypocrisy our poetries carry. No poetry is ever complete without objectifying a woman. For example " Ta shun tumbuki meaning juicy lips, " Ey barik theni meaning o delicate beloved ", "dusto sharab o ghech your drunken eyes" , " Phatuk khanjar meaning thick thick eye lashes" bla bla. So someone please make me understand why do we woman even allow those man to discuss us so openly and dance in our appraisal in gatherings while we are not even allowed to clap when we are being praised during happy occasions such as "ishtoks" . Ishtok is a cultural gathering often during marriageceremoniesand other happy celebrations. Seriously isn't it the peak of atrocity on woman trying to make us fell less of human beings? If culturally she is sensitive switch your topics to something we can give our generation a thought provoking philosophical poems, and when something is bound at one corner and openly discussed in only male gatherings as a source of pleasure and happiness its kinda teaching hypocrisy and discrimination. When culture is discriminatory and very biased sure as hell there is something very wrong with it.