I am that idea that you cant kill!

Rakhshinda Shakir
Posted January 25, 2018

This is the price I pay to own myself but little do these sick man know my phenomenal being, my unfading self. Some pages have started popping up on face book using my pictures in the name of bringing shame to Islamic culture and spreading the hatred in the world. However, I don't follow the patriarchal version of Islam that these sick man defineand never will even if it costs me my life. As the language is in Urdu I will summarize it a bit " They see me a threat to their culture and link my actions and work and life to bringing shame to Islam" and I was surprised to see not even a single girl not even a friend of mine came up with a comment saying that Rakhshi you are doing a wonderful job you bravo! None of them did... Not a single one but that was perfectly fine because I knew I was simply beyond understanding and their understanding at certain point of life meant merely nothing. I may seem tinny but array of hope and that if the destiny of my life wasn't meant to be this that would mean I was just like the rest of them. I am different because unlike them I am not ahearing deaf .That is where I realized how blessed I am to be different and think differently and that idea of seeing things differently gave me wings to fly even higher.

I don't have problem with societies. They are chain of people living together sharing things in common. That is a good thing because an individual can't just be on its own. Good term relationships are therefore entertained to make sure every one is available for every one but on good terms. What is problematic for me is the thing called bound. I can't be bound by any laws any restrictions regardless of how old the practices have been. A blockage to my desired way to live would mean a life under restrictions and limitations and under such circumstances I have experienced myself lacking in self esteem and confidence. I can't just digest an opposite gender enjoy more freedom then I have given the right to exercise. If a society can't equalize rights I am ready to fight that inequality keeping the view a side that I have no problem with societies but I just can't follow one particular thing that is so unfair!

They say because your pictures are pubic and that is not in our culture you should make them private and limited to only friends. How many of their pictures are limited to close friends? I thought on my head. None, I then checked the profiles of those gentle men who dropped me messages on my inbox lecturing me on being a bad influence to their culture from nowhere and knowing no abc about me. I then rationalized the problem is not about public or private, rather something isvery wrong with the generation of men, instead. Don't blame girls for what they do if you don't know a thing called personal freedom and personal choice. If the privacy is really bugging you learn how to deal with it, but let me tell you something, sharing their pictures and discussing them does not make you civilized and them uncivilized. Its the opposite and you don't understand that is very unfortunate!! No woman I am sure has ever lectured a guy on being so openly open on social media so why them? Men seriously need to learn civilization from women that at least how to respect someone's freedom and choice.

As Nietzsche beautifully penned down " The individual had always to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself". As I walk through life the world stopped for a while to stare at me. That's where I felt to have always belonged beyond horizon. :)

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Jill Langhus
Jan 25, 2018
Jan 25, 2018

Hi Rakshi. I love your spirit and determination so much. I love black sheep, though; being one myself. Don't ever give up; ever:-) I don't understand what they're really so afraid of anyway, other than they like it the way that it is. They don't like change. They like women being submissive. The end:-(

Jan 25, 2018
Jan 25, 2018

You ar stronger than strong. What a warrior you are. I'm so happy that you are born. You will definitely change the work. You will become the positive influence the world needs. Keep on soaring. We are here supporting you.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 06, 2018
Feb 06, 2018

Keep that fight for you have no idea how many lives you enlighten. Cheers!

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 20, 2019
Jan 20, 2019

Dear Rakshi,
I love that you question these dictates from men. I love that you can't just digest that an opposite gender enjoys more freedom, and that they have no right to be ordering you on what to write and not write. You are breaking down barriers, and other women will follow. Who made up the rule that what we have to say as women should be kept private?!! I so agree with you that there is something very wrong with this generation of men. They have been taught by previous generations of men that male dominance is the only way. You have the answer:
"Men seriously need to learn civilization from women that at least how to respect someone's freedom and choice". We are working together for a different world, and a more true interpretation of history, because it has not always been this way, and it is not this way everywhere even today. It is so good to know that you are there, standing firm in your bravery. I hope you feel us with you.
With love in sisterhood,