One Passionate Gender less Soul

Rakhshinda Shakir
Posted February 17, 2018 from Pakistan
This picture has been captured by Aneela Jan, an Under Graduate Student of Asian University for Women, Bangladesh.

Bhatiyarii is an army occupied area in Bangladesh which has all sort of natural beauty to it. From lakes to mountains to herb covered landscapes to sky-touching zigzag hills where once you are lost you find a way to your soul. Away from the city, Bhatiyarii welcomes you with a pin drop silence where butterfly shows you directions and the rest follow you through. That might sound ideal, but I have lived through it. One the way to Bhatiyarii, we took a taxi which could only go up to the city gate. For the rest of the journey, we had to take another taxi which could directly take us to the place.  However, we changed our mind on hiring another taxi to join public transport that was very cheap compared to the taxi fare, plus it sounded more adventurous too. Under the pinching sun, we waited for a few minutes until the tempo ( public bus in Bangla language) came. There were no seats to sit so we opted to stand at the back of the vehicle, rather. That was such a choice I could never say no to. The very first experience of traveling in my life which I always have looked up to while I was in Pakistan. I have grown up seen guys hooking themselves up at the back of the vehicles when there were no seats, but for ladies that was a can't do the job kind of thing. It was a cultural taboo, a patriarchal standard of honoring women.  What I was dreaming of was a silent wish, a rebellious desire only kept within.  But, thanks to Bhatiyarii,  I did what I always wondered for. I did what was always on my "to do" list. Not just me, but two of my other friends joined. Apart from us, there was only one lady seated and the rest of the passengers on public transport were men. They kept looking at us with admiration and inspiration as if we were some aliens coming to their land and enjoying nearly an impossible task at least by women of their society.  Perhaps we were the first-ever ladies every one on the road, at signals stared at, with wonder. What might they be thinking of us? Where did they think we were from? How did they judge our friendly behavior of waving back at them and passing smiles? With the air flying my hair up and down and seeing the buzz of the city as a free bird, I deadly desired for a world free of gender-based stereotypes. The moment I was exploring a whole new way of living a life,  I did not give much attention to the intensity with which the men eyes gazed us, but when I came back and hit my bed, my eyes could not stop reflecting the flashlight of cameras and men's unpleasant stare that left me thinking "does this world only belong to men", " Would this world ever be gender-free"?

This story was submitted in response to You Are a Silence Breaker.

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Jill Langhus
Feb 18, 2018
Feb 18, 2018

Hi Rakshi. Another great story from you. I love how you always push gender norms and make people think:-)

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Feb 20, 2018
Feb 20, 2018

Hi Rakshi

Thank you for such a lovely post.  This world belongs to all of us and we have to claim our rights and be part of it.  What you are doing is enforcing women's rights and we need more of you to take over the world.  Thank you for sharing and please keep these lovely posts coming.  

Karen QuiƱones-Axalan
Feb 12, 2019
Feb 12, 2019

Hello, Raksi.

My answer is no. Women have a right to be in this world; we belong here, too. Sadly, there are countries that see women as second class citizens. I hope the inequality ends. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Adanna
Feb 13, 2019
Feb 13, 2019

Thank you for sharing Rakshi.