A different form of street harassment

Rakhshinda Shakir
Posted August 20, 2018 from Pakistan

Continuosly a month now and walking in the streets get me comments like " tabdili aayi hai" (change has begun) to which my answer goes "rok sako to rok lo". (Stop if you can). The irony is when you respond back to the comments faces go hidden. The ones commenting have no guts to look eye to eye and admit their statement. Why tabdeli only for ladies when after all men are in desparate need of it. I take these comments as fun so that I get to communicate with people around otherwise everything is almost very quiet despite having crowded streets here but for some other ladies it could be a psycological issue. It is another form of harrasment, a form of ignorance, a matter to cry over for having a suffocated environment. It needs solutions and definately not sending girls out is not going to help sheer ignorance of our men. I am more than sure such mentality is the outcome of having few girls seen in the market. Those men who mock change dont comprehend the fact that they are the most needy one for the change to come.

PS: When people stare at me when i walk through the streets it makes me feel like I am a thunderstorm wearing human flesh and when my feet hit the land, through the lightening random eyes that surrounds me light up for they haven't seen confidence roaming accross the streets in the form of a girl like myself

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Olutosin
Aug 20, 2018
Aug 20, 2018

GO go go, I am screaming. I love your confidence. This is exciting. Yes, change has began, they should either embrace it or lock themselves indoor.

Change is paramount. Whether people like it or not, nothing can stop change.
Thank you for sharing.

Rakhshinda Shakir
Aug 24, 2018
Aug 24, 2018

I am unstoppable and so is the change dear!

Jill Langhus
Aug 20, 2018
Aug 20, 2018

Hey warrior woman,

Haven't seen you round these parts lately:-) Ha. Thanks for sharing your awesome story. LOVE it! That's great that you respond back because they aren't expecting it. And, yes, they most likely probably are the most needy of change. Bring it!

Rakhshinda Shakir
Aug 24, 2018
Aug 24, 2018

Hey Jill! Life here is very very very challenging that I thought it would. It has almost pulled me down to earth but I am not giving up! Completely lost what to do but at least with writing I am not going to give up because at least I am making a history of fighting the jerks so that when women here when one day get liberated they look up to people who fought for this change for them and make them their inspiration. <3
Lots of Love!

Jill Langhus
Aug 24, 2018
Aug 24, 2018

Hey there:) Oh. I'm sorry to hear that.

I would be very surprised if I heard that you had given up:) I bet you're not lost. You probably know in your heart what is right and you will follow it, as always. Change will come. We just need to be a little more patient and tolerant.

Message me if you ever need more support and want to brainstorm:)

Hope you have a good day!

Hellen Kimanzi
Aug 20, 2018
Aug 20, 2018

Dear Thunderstorm woman

I mean i read this story with so much laughter, imagining your courage. They can't handle it that's why they hide their faces girl. Walk louder and they will be shaken by the "thunderstorm. I love this post 100 times girl.

Rakhshinda Shakir
Aug 24, 2018
Aug 24, 2018

This encouragement means a lot. I keep in mind my audience while exploring thing here in Pakistan so that when I write about them people like you get to hear how life at some part of the world life is challenging and when I get encouragement from my audience I feel happy because it makes me feel connected that the problem us women face here is shared and understood globally and that we can bring the positive change some day! <3

Lisbeth
Mar 21
Mar 21

Haha madam thunderstorms, I like your courage. May you continue to be courageous. Thanks

leila Kigha
Jul 11
Jul 11

keep on keeping on my dear!
we are the change we seek.