My Dad Made Sure I Was Prepared

Raquel Daniel
Posted May 23, 2019 from Nigeria

I was 10 years old when I had the conversation with my Dad. It was a Sunday evening just before dusk. My Dad brought out a pack of sanitary pad and asked if I knew what it was, I had no clue. He opened it and then I realized I had seen it on TV. For 30 minutes I listened to his explanation about period, pads, how to use them and how to keep clean during menstruation. He told me I needed to keep that pack in my school bag at all times until I needed it.

At age 11, I went to boarding school and without hesitation, continued my practice of putting pads in my bag. Many people saw it and dissed me. I had no idea why carrying a pad was an issue. Why it was a thing to be ridiculed for. I told my Dad and he encourage me to carry one at all time regardless of the circumstance, he said “when the visitor comes, you could get embarrassed if you’re not ready”.

It wasn’t long until someone walked up to me in school and asked for my sanitary pad. I refused and was told another girl needed it urgently. It was in that moment I realized, this could happen to me at any time.

At 12, my mum called me aside during the holiday to tell me about period. I told her I knew everything I needed to know because my Dad has taught me. She didn’t believe me. I answered all her questions about sanitary pads and period and showed her the sanitary pad in my bag. She was so pleased at what my Dad did. Before I was 13, I woke up with a sharp pain. It was so painful I screamed. My school mother asked if it was period and I said I didn’t know. She asked a lot of questions and afterwards, looked at me and said “it is menstrual pain, makes sure you wear a pad to class”.

Right there, I understood what my Dad had done for me; I was prepared because he did what is considered the mother’s job. I was prepared because he ensured I was. My Dad didn’t want me to be ridiculed in public or in class with a stained uniform. He knew the boys would laugh and he shielded me. He knew people would talk about it for a long time and made sure I was ready so I don't get laughed at. That morning, I wore my pad like a pro, changed it when I needed to like a pro, disposed it off very nicely and washed my hands with soap, just like my Dad taught me.

Fathers shouldn’t wait for the mother to teach the daughter about menstruation, it is a very important issue and our girls need to be enlightened on menstrual issues from an early age.

This story was submitted in response to Menstruation Matters.

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Dawn Arteaga
May 23
May 23

This story made me smile so big! What a loving dad you have! Thank you for sharing this story and this very important message.

Raquel Daniel
May 24
May 24

Thank you.

Maya Iwata
May 23
May 23

Raquel,
Thank you for sharing your story and many kudos to your father! On a personal level it shows so much love and how part of love is taking action. Scientific, fact-based, information from a trusted adult is so key and about menstruation before it happens makes it something that happens in life instead of something traumatic. I hope many fathers and other loved ones are reading your post and bring your lessons forward. Warmest wishes and thank you again for sharing your story.

Raquel Daniel
May 24
May 24

I really hope so too. May our fathers rise to the occasion.

Lisbeth
May 23
May 23

My dear you are bless with such a wonderful and attentive Dada. The visitor indeed. This visitor is very demanding haha. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Hope you are doing very great?

Raquel Daniel
May 24
May 24

He was so attentive to our needs. God bless our Dads that are parenting the right way.

Jill Langhus
May 24
May 24

Wow Raquel,

This story made my day! What a phenomenal story and experience. This is how it could be. I'm always saying that parenting is a shared responsibility. Your dad really stepped up to the plate. I wish there were so, so many more fathers who helped out like your father did. You must be very proud to have him as your father. Thanks so much for sharing:-) I have to share this on FB because I'm so inspired by it!

Raquel Daniel
May 24
May 24

Please do share. Thank you so much!

Jill Langhus
May 24
May 24

You got it! I posted it on my FB and Twitter accounts:-) You're very welcome!

ARREY- ECHI
May 28
May 28

Your dad is a champ! Took up his parental responsibilities seriously.

We need more fathers like yours. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.

Raquel Daniel
May 28
May 28

He sure is. Thank you

Hello, Raquel,

Wow! You have a responsible, loving father. Amazing! Thank you for sharinf your period story and your father’s love.

Seka
Jun 17
Jun 17

Hi Raquel,
Very big congrat to your father, they are not two. I'm sure he warned you not to go near the men once you had your period (lol).
Good week start