Motherhood

Reena Choudhary
Posted September 15, 2017 from India
Motherhood (Mother Sacrifices)
sometime who you love isn't who you need.And as much as it hurts to let go.....it would hurt you worse in the long run to hold on. Be rest assured that not every relationship ended up until God do us

I wishWriting Motherhoodhad been around when I was a new mom. Women deserve to own and record their words.Writing Motherhood—honest, practical and inspiring—helps us overcome our fears and unlock the thoughts and feelings we all have inside.

I was a writer long before I became a mother, but in 2011, with the birth of my Son, Arav, my writing self changed with the emergence of my mother self. I exploded with energy and creativity—and new material. I wrote about Arav often, and he remains a source of inspiration. By 2011, a mother of one children under the age of 28, I wrote in any spots I could find (haven’t we all tried to escape to a closet?), sometimes for only fifteen minutes at a clip. My writing became as primal to me as my desire to have children had been. My view of the world was forever changed; I looked at every situation and everything I read through my mother self.

I have personally always coslept with my son, Arav(6years old). Let me start by stating that my husband and I have never “literally slept together” in the same bed more than a handful of times. I like a more dark, quiet sleeping environment and he’s the type that needs to fall asleep with the TV on. For that reason we both have our own sleeping quarters and it works for us.

A goodmotheris obligated to care for her family and put them before al else. The ideal living environment that amothercan provide for her children is a warm caring home. … In my opinion, themotherfigure plays the most vitalrolein a child’slifebecause she is the mostimportant rolemodel for the child.

As long as I can remember, my mother has been there for me. She took care of me when I was little like all good mothers do, but the relationship that we had as I got older is actually more important to me. As a child, I took the fact that my mother is there completely for granted. Most children do. Growing up was made easier by her love and concern, however, and now that I am no longer a child, I have a relationship with my mother that many people have with their closest friends. The meaning of this is beyond words, because I know that this is somewhat rare in a society where children grow up and move on, instead of staying close to their families. While this is a generalization, it seems that it is happening more and more often today and the trend will continue. Children who grow up and are not friends with their parents do not realize how much they are missing by neglecting this relationship. I realize there are some, because of abuse or other factors, where this relationship will never be, but most of these relationships do not happen simply because there is no effort made. I would not be who I am today ifit were not for this friendship with my mother. She did all of the righ…

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Nakinti
Sep 16, 2017
Sep 16, 2017

Dear Reena,

The role mothers play in the lives of their children cannot be underestimated. I am proud of every mother, including my self, for the sacrifices we have made. Thank you for reminding us about this.

With love

Nakinti

Olutosin
Oct 05, 2017
Oct 05, 2017

You are very correct sister. My mom is late. It's three years today October 6 and I miss her so much. I discussed every thing with my mother. These days I always tell people to move closer to their mother. It's a rare opportunity.

There is a name in Nigeria called Nneka, it means mother is supreme. It is true.

Sister Zeph
Oct 18, 2017
Oct 18, 2017

Dear Reena 

Thank you very much for writing on such an important topic, we keep running for own desire and dreams and we forget about our parents who have sacrificed for us so much, your story has inspired me a lot, this morning after reading your article I took breakfast with my mother and we talked about our relatives, friends and so much and I am feeling so good in my heart, My mother is also looking happy, thank you very much again to inspire me and I would request you to write more because your writing has a potential to change lives , Much love 

joanndoreen
Oct 26, 2017
Oct 26, 2017

Thank you for sharing your story Reena. Like you, I have a good relationship with my mother. I hope to continue having a great relationship with my daughter when she gets older.

Lily Habesha
Oct 30, 2017
Oct 30, 2017

Reena, Thank you for this wonderful story.

Lily

maeann
Nov 07, 2017
Nov 07, 2017

Hi Reena, being a mother is a gift that cannot buy.  It is the fulfillment of being a woman.  Thank you for sharing your wonderful relationship with your Mother.  She is a dear to you and to your kids.  

Nicole reid
Mar 18, 2018
Mar 18, 2018

The role of a mother is a life changing experience it is a new world for you to explore you new Sence of energy and emotion. That you child will experience.