Mga Pananaw ni Eba Tungkol sa Pag-ibig

Rojin
Posted February 5, 2021 from Philippines

Ang umibig at ibigin ay parte ng ating buhay. Lahat ay nakakaranas nito. Masarap magmahal ngunit ihanda ang sarili na masaktan at masugatan. Sapagkat ito ay parang isang sugal. Minsan masaya, minsan malungkot at minsan din ay nakakaloka.

Narito ang aking opinyon na sa tingin ko ay makakatulong sa mga kababaihan na mga single.

Long Relationship:

Sa mga naghahanap ng right partner nila, mas mainam na magsimula kayo sa pagiging magkaibigan. Mas lumilitaw ang tunay na pagkatao ni guy sa ganitong pagkakataon. Mas nakikita ninyo ang kaniyang mga kahinaan at kalakasan. Tanggap niyo ba ang mga bagay na ito sa kaniya?Compatible ba kayo? Parehas ba kayo ng paniniwala sa buhay?

Wala kasing perpektong lalake sa mundo. At wala rin knight and shining armor na magbibigay sa atin lahat ng mga pangangailangan natin. Pero may Mr. Right na susuportahan tayo sa mga desisiyon at mga pangarap natin sa buhay.

Huwag Umasa:

Kadalasan, ang mga babae ang nakakaranas nito. Sila yung madalas umaasa kapag may mga paramdam si guy,pero wala naman sinasabi. Ang mas masakit ay may gusto si girl kay guy, at patuloy na umaasa si girl na baka sakali dumating ang panahon na mapansin din siya. Kaya ladies, don't assume unless stated. Hayaan niyo si guy ang magsabi nang kanyang nararamdaman. At huwag na huwag niyo siyang pangungunahan.

Gawaing-Bahay:

Bago lumaga'y sa tahimik, dapat marunong kayo sa gawaing-bahay. Maganda sa pakiramdam ang bahay na tinutuluyan na malinis at maayos. Kapag kayo ay nagsama, dapat lamang na nakabukod kayo. Malayo kayo dapat sa inyong mga magulang, para maiwasan ang umasa. Ang paglalaba, pagluluto, paglilinis, pamamalengke ay mga bagay na dapat itinuturo sa atin ng mga magulang natin nung tayo ay mga bata pa lamang. Ito ang huhubog ng ating pagkatao at magiging sandata natin kapag tayo ay nagsipag-asawa na.

Walang perpektong pagsasama sa isang relasyon. Normal ang magkaroon nang alitan. Ngunit ang mahalaga ay naranasan natin ang magmahal at masaktan. Sapagkat ang mga bagay na ito ang siyang bubuo at magpapakatatag ng ating pagkatao.

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Jill Langhus
Feb 05
Feb 05

Hi Rojin,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your relationship tips. I totally agree on looking for friendship in our relationships to sustain a long-lasting one. I think women should be able to approach, and start a conversation with men/boys that they're interested in. I could never figure this out growing up why all the pressure, and privilege, was given to the men or boys to "pursue" a woman/girl that they're interested in. I always thought, "what about what I want?" I'm not waiting for someone to approach me and then be grateful that they've shown interest in me. What are your thoughts on this? I think everyone should have the right to be the "pursuer," personally.

Hope you're safe and well, and that you have a good weekend.

Rojin
Feb 07
Feb 07

Thank you for reading my thoughts Ms. Jill. I'm well and good. In my own opinion everyone should have the right to be the 'pursuer'.

Cheers.

Jill Langhus
Feb 08
Feb 08

You're welcome, dear.

Great to hear! Yay! I'm glad we're on the same page.

Hope you have a great week.

Nini Mappo
Feb 05
Feb 05

Hello Rojin,
'to love is to hurt'. How true that something so beautiful and wonderful as love, is wrapped up in hurt. Be it the bittersweet hurt of longing for the ones we love, or the hurt born of the selfishness that violates love, hurt truly follows closely where love goes. But O, how much these help us grow if we enter into both love and hurt openly and without being defensive.
Those are good tips for those seeking long-term romantic relationships. I have heard of successful relationships where the girl initiated the relationship. Especially with shy guys who lack confidence. Even with confident ones who don't know their own minds. But I think it still depends on the cultural context, perceived gender roles, and how strong they are. Some men are frightened away by girls who ask them out. It's a delicate, culturally sensitive matter if the girl asks the boy or not.

I hope that all is well with you, and that if you are single, you will continue in hope and patience and living your life joyfully and gratefully in the meantime.

Cheers and stay sparkly : )

Rojin
Feb 07
Feb 07

Thank you for having the time to read my thoughts this Valentine's Season. I really appreciated the time and effort the way you read my article..

I hope all is well with you.

Cheers.

maeann
Feb 07
Feb 07

Hi Rojin,

What I know and believe that, if you like to find a right partner in your life, you need to search, mingle, date. Because if you will just wait hahaha you will end like a mermaid (waiting for ever). Aside ofcourse that you will pray. How can you find a right person if you are hiding and don't start a conversation. Once you start dating, don't assume (baka mamaya feeling feeling ka lang pala, hindi ka pala gusto ng guy, magpapalibre lang pala sayo ng Jolibee hahaha) Saka ask thousands of questions (maging imbestigador ka). Uso pa ba ang Valentines? Safe Covidlentines

Rojin
Feb 12
Feb 12

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Ate Maeann. I'm glad for your suggestions

Yan ang problema sa ating mga babae... ang pagiging assuming. Kaya the best solution for that is always guard your heart. Advance Happy Heart's Day

Hello, Rojin,

I am a hopeful romantic, and I love listening to love stories, real ones, not the Hollywood-type romantic comedies (although I used to watch those when I was younger.haha).

I agree with Nini that it's cultural on what gender is allowed to pursue a romantic partner. But in terms of love, courtship, and marriage, I still love the Filipino way of "dating", and I mean the old school kind when men would ask the woman's parents for permission to pursue their daughter. It gives him the sense of accountability to take the woman seriously and not to hurt her. I share that because that was the standard I was looking for in a man to marry: a man brave enough to face my parents. And we see the same standard the Gonzaga sisters have, right? They end up with respectable and wise men. We can't settle for less.

Knowing the facts on how many marriages in the West ends up in divorce makes me appreciate our culture in courtship and marriage. I agree that a foundation in friendship is a huge factor. There are no perfect relationships, but there are definitely healthy ones. By God's grace, I can say that my marriage is a healthy one ( three years in a relationship before being married for eight years now). It gets better as years go by.

I love topics about love, courtship, and marriage. This is something we should talk about more often. Who we decide to marry affects our destiny. It either improves us or destroys us (domestic violence is at an alarmingly increasing rate in the pandemic). So this thing about "love" is an important topic. If we spend time in school to prepare us for future work, we need to educate ourselves about marriage, too (if that is something we want), because it's a commitment for a lifetime.

I always say if we want to build healthy and strong societies, then we need to build strong and healthy families. In doing so, we need strong and healthy marriages. All of it boils down to who we decide to marry. The opposite is true, if we marry the wrong guy, we might be in a toxic marriage (if not, an abusive one), and we might build a traumatic environment for future children, and these children grow up to be adults with many unhealed past issues, and the cycle continues.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about love, hurt, and the dynamics in between. I am uploading a YouTube video this week on 5 Signs You Are Ready for A Romantic Relationship ( because love is in the air in February).haha. I hope you can watch it and would love to know your thoughts, too. Please keep on writing!

Rojin
Feb 12
Feb 12

Hello Ms. Karen,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about the Filipino way of "dating". Well I think we do have the same belief about love and courtship. I really love your idea that a man should be brave enough to face the parents of his girl. The courtship should not happen somewhere else. Not in the restaurant nor somewhere in the street but it should be in the house of his girl.

I'm a fan of Gonzaga sisters. And also witnessed how they ended up with respectable and wise men.

I'm happy to know that your happy in your marriage :)

Advance Happy Heart's Day

Cheers.