Pain Ties

RoseConcrete
Posted December 1, 2020 from United States

Why is it that I'm so familiar with pain?. & If I don't feel it then I'm looking for the next dose?. I said I'd never be like my roots because pain runs deep in my roots. I tried to run away but Everytime I tried, I ran into pain enhancements( people) that reflects my roots. They say that a victim carries a certain scent & has certain body language. Is that why I attract pain?. Because I never washed off the scent? I never changed my body language. They say you are a product of your environment...can a flower grow with bad roots?. I said I'm tired & I wanted change. Now I cut off my roots & still feel this pain. It's familiar it's all I know, will I choose to heal? Or go back to where I can't grow?. 

 

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jomarieb.earth
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

Dear Rose,
You are a beautiful flower and strong as concrete. Rose is a flower that is always treasured. You are a treasure as well. No, we are not our roots. We are not the lives that have lived prior to our lives. When you were born, by default, you became the future and the hope for all of lives that lived prior to yours. No pressure. Rose, please know that you are worthy and deserving to feel joy. Simple, uncomplicated, unattached, unadulterated, uncommitted, God given, self manifested joy. Start simple. Like the joy of a sweet something to eat, lipstick, music, and bask in the simple joy of it. Smile at yourself while you enjoy it. Put on some music and dance in the mirror, and laugh at yourself, a real belly laugh. And let it grow, one simple measure, and one simple pleasure at a time. Let that joy take the space of undeserved, unwelcomed pain. Give joy all of your power. The key is not to trade that benefit and birthright for anything in the world. Grow it like a garden. Make it flourish. Protect it because it's your lifeline.
Big Hugs Girl! My USA sister, and please stay safe!!!
JoMarie

RoseConcrete
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

So Beautifully written . I appreciate your kind hearted words along with the spirit that comes with it . More people need your wording your wording can really alter someone's life Queen. I hope all is well with you & that you are staying strong . I know most times people with a humbling spirit as yours seen/been thru things as well !!. I needed this. God Bless you & may many Blessings shower you abundantly . I sure will & you stay safe as well Sister

Nini Mappo
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

Hello Rose,
Your name is a mixture of beauty and strength, fragrance and resilience, bringer of joy and protection. It is hard to associate it with pain. I'm sorry to hear that pain keeps pretending you are best friends. I hope that you can strike through its fa├žade of companionship and redefine your terms of its engagement with you....make it uncomfortable or impossible for it to pursue you, because the only choice is to heal, and that is possible.

Only today I was talking to a black girl being treated like the help at a white work environment, where her collogues even steal any recognition she gets from outstanding tasks of her own skill/innovation. She's stressed about standing up for herself because they may not like her. She's lived in an abusive, highly controlling home, and doing favors is like a drug to buy others approval.
As in your story, I see the roots, I smell the scent. But those things are placed on us by others and the environment. They are not her. They are not you. You are not them. And you can shake them off, embrace wholeness and beauty, and return to your roots to rescue others who might think that pain defines them. When most of what we've know is pain, any thing but that makes us uncomfortable. We must be willing to live in discomfort for a time, until we throw off the pain. We must redefine what it is to be alive, truly alive and pursue that relentlessly, in discomfort and regardless of doubts.
You can know joy. Peace. Beauty. Swagger. Healing.....and so much more, if you make room for it. Because if the heart were a garden, and it was full of corn, how can one plant let's say squash, unless she pulls out some corn plants to make space? So you can start by making room. Believing that you are worthy of better, and that pain does not define you. Then little by little, you'll start to fill this space redeemed from pain with beauty and joy. You'll start to notice the lone star fighting to shine against the city lights in the night sky, and borrow from its tenacity. The routine walk will infuse you with life, you'll greet strangers with confidence and readiness to listen should that be needed....You'll begin to connect with all the beauty that you have to offer, beauty that is suffocating under the pain and waiting to gush forth. You'll find yourself extending more grace to yourself and to others and the load of others' negativity will begin to lighten.

Back to my friend, today she stood up for herself at work, with a bit of coaching. It was so difficult that she broke down, because she felt as if standing up for herself is wrong. But she kept going. And her manager listened and implemented some changes right away. She's dealing with the discomfort of colleagues probably sidelining her because she's no longer 'the help', but she's prepared for the 'birth pains', is going to emerge out out of the next few weeks empowered and more certain of herself and her skills, and for that she's optimistic. She's come a long way to be able to have uprooted some 'roots' today, and you too can begin the process.

Make space, create new roots, and go give your old roots a transplant. You can do it!!!
If you need to talk, we're always listening here at World Pulse.

Much love and hugs and sparkles to get you started :-)
Love in sisterhood,
Nini

RoseConcrete
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

WHOA ! Thank you so much for your words Queen. Beautifully written may these words sink into my head & soul as I read it aloud. Thank you for taking the time out with such a heart felt message. I resonate SOOO MUCH WITH YOUR FRIEND I feel you were led to share that story with me because I can relate Soo much to her & her emotions. My roots hurts me purposely because I'm a different plant from them. I will need healing & literally a word from God telling me to return. It hurts too bad. You are Soo right about making room in the Garden too many dead things still linger as I thought I was getting rid of them !!. This message was very much needed. I'm always trying to be strong & time to release thank you for being a safe place for me to release. All while using a deep wording that helps expand the mind & image that's in my mind. Stay strong sister & continue to use those uplifting, Beautiful & encouraging words because you can truly alter someone's life using those words along with the kind spirit. God Bless you abundantly & sending Love back to you .
RoseConcrete

Nini Mappo
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

I'm glad to hear it, Rose :). Thanks be to God who knows our hearts and how to lift them up. If you like I can share my all time pick-me -up message that I put on when I need new blood and a fighting spirit. It has a way of shushing all the lies and pity-party and getting me back on purpose again.
Thank you for the blessings, back at you girl :-)

Rose Marie Johnson
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

Pain it is said to be your bodies message to turn your focus inside. To the inner child in your heart, the seat of the soul. Sensitive to our own approval, love and positive encouragement. All the things we may not have receive as a young child. It took me a long time to realize the only feelings I felt were painful heart break and tears. When this was brought to my awareness I started to understand it was also my hindrance to a happier life. I knew when I was doing it again without mindfulness, when my heart was hurting. I blamed others for this and lamented why me. I discovered over time to stop what I was doing when my inner child turned sad or there was hurt in my heart. I would talk to my heart that I was learning and I was sorry to think or say things to hurt her. This was the beginning and years later I share this wisdom we all carry within. It may seem strange or silly, yet we all have a higher purpose then this mundane life. Spirit waits until we are ready and then sets in our path a different way. I hope you find you path through all that you are going through. Look for another way there are many paths some are more challenging to get out of yet not impossible.

Beth Lacey
Dec 21, 2020
Dec 21, 2020

The fact that you are asking these questions means you are growing. You will flourish.