My story, struggles and celebration

Rosegold
Posted December 7, 2020 from United Kingdom
Launch of my women's art therapy pack
Set your inner artist free!

Hi, 

My name is charlotte from the Uk, i am a single mum of 3 children 2 boys and a girl, I am a children's author i have 4 books under my name which are for children and women, one about teaching children about the importance of nature, one about mystical creatures , dragons, mermaids ect.. 

I have also created art therapy packs around these books which brings me to the other two books, which are an art therapy book for girls, teenagers, and women and one for children both gender. The packs were created they have positivity cards for women, emotion cards for children, arts and crafts emotion sheets. Most of all teaching children the love of art and being able to be themselves and encouraging creativity.

But before this.. life has not been easy it has been a pure struggle and only to this point at 29 has it just got better.. as a child i didn't have the nurturing support of my mother, at the age of 9 i was sexually abused up to the age of 14, suffered with self harm, at 15 i went in to the care system for 5 years.. 19 I feel pregnant with my daughter I was in a relationship ... married him at 20, 8 years together then become physically abusive.. only once had my second child at 21.. he then left us walked out and never returned. 

Then a family find took me and my children in, then was pregnant again by the time i was 22 i had 3 children all under the age of 3. 3 years into the relationship things started to change.. I become more isolated from my friends..had to do everything i was told 2 years on I then realised i was in a mental abusive relationship.

I wasn't allowed to do anything i wanted, being asked all the time where i was going.. finally once my kids were all at school I decided i want to study at university and I did but the mental abuse become worse,. unbearable is the world I had sunk to rock bottom .. it was hell a big black whole that i felt I couldn't get out of, it took every last piece of strength to walkout and leave it behind with only the clothes i had packed, i took my children to a new home.

But of course the abuse didn't stop .. he was still controlling me it has take almost 19 months to finally get a non-molestation order against him and trust me it has been a battle of strength and being a mum..

in my short life I have experienced sexual, mental abuse, abandonment from my mother and father .. self harm i have had eating disorders and counselling and therapy most of my life. How i am still sitting here i am not sure and to write this is hard but after this time i feel its time to tell my story. 

The work i have created, done and want to do in a way is to show that things can be tough but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.. and being a mum helps as you have to care for little people. To date I am a ambassador for women, I am a Author, artist, illustrator, I now work for a foster agency as a panel member helping children and carers come together. 

I am studying a business degree, so that i can run my own business, which is in the making, i would also love to do lots more therapeutic work with children and women,, art creativity based of course.. being ourselves and staying true to what you believe in is the best strength of all. Here i am proof... life has been so hard but i am stronger, confident and braver than ever this is my time to shine... and i wouldn't give it up for anything or anyone I want to inspire other women and show its ok! 

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Jill Langhus
Dec 07, 2020
Dec 07, 2020

Hi Charlotte,

You're in a safe space, Love! You've come to the right place. You will be surrounded by loving, global sisters who will love and support you, and listen to you without judgment. Let us know how we can help:-) You are so strong, and, yes, it's amazing that you're still here. You must have a very strong purpose to fulfill spreading love and light to many. I can't wait to hear more about it!

You're amazing, and so is your positivity, and optimism, in light of what you're gone through. You will indeed, and probably have already, inspired many. Keep sharing your story, and your light, dear. Your work is needed!

XX

Rosegold
Dec 07, 2020
Dec 07, 2020

Thank you I am so happy to finally find a place like this... I was meant for something on this planet ... and it was to help others through the magic of art.
I am here to support anyone and everyone

Jill Langhus
Dec 07, 2020
Dec 07, 2020

You're welcome, dear! We're glad you found it, too:-)

Oh, yes! It's great that you found it so early on, too. Too bad you had such a rough journey to get there, though.

Aw, how lovely. Namaste, dear. XX

maeann
Dec 07, 2020
Dec 07, 2020

Welcome to World Pulse Charlotte :) Your story is your power.

Thank you for sharing your story, it must have been difficult for you. The adversity you experienced made you strong and it became the woman you are now. I agree with Jill, you must have a strong purpose to fulfill. I also look forward to hearing more about you.

Thank you for sharing your work as an author of a Children's book. Are these available online?

Have a great day.

Rosegold
Dec 07, 2020
Dec 07, 2020

Thank you what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...
I am so happy to a part of this group.. yes they are available if you go to my website, www.rosegoldgallery.com
There are my 4 books but also they can come as children and women art therapy packs.. which were made through the journey have been through art was a saviour for me from a very young age.

maeann
Dec 18, 2020
Dec 18, 2020

Thank you Rosegold for sharing the website of your book.

Nini Mappo
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Hello Rosegold,
Welcome to World Pulse. I am sorry to hear of all the abuse you have suffered, the lack of care, the fear and aloneness in your struggles. Good on you for rising above the abuse to pursue safety, find your won spark, and create beauty that can put a smile on children's faces, inviting them into beauty and healing. That is phenomenal!
Stay strong and sparkly :-)

Rosegold
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Thank you so much for your comment.. life has been tough but the work i have created for women and children, i feel will help so many as well as inspire them that never to give up on your passion. i certainly haven't and hopefully will be a rewarding career to come.

MaryannR
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Thank you for sharing your story. You've shown such strength and overcome so much. I imagine your children when they get older looking at your life and realizing how strong you are and the role model you've become for others.
Keep it up. This is only the beginning of your story!

Rosegold
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Thank you , you are kind!
Just very passionate.. and showing even though life can be hard there is always a light! And now I am reaching my time to shine x I hope x

RefreshPeace
Dec 11, 2020
Dec 11, 2020

You are an amazing young women. Thank you for sharing your story. Your kids are so blessed to have you, I know you have broken the chain of abandonment and abuse for them. And to help heal the rest of the world is wonderful. I do much of the same work as you do as an artist helping women and children find their self-worth and self love. It's rewarding and I keep working on me the whole time. I look forward to your books and please continue to love on yourself. You are amazing.

Rosegold
Dec 11, 2020
Dec 11, 2020

Thank you so much for you note!
It is such lovely work to do maybe we can come together on something with the art would love to connect with you..be lovely to see what others art work is and things to help others. I am learning to love myself and taking care of yourself is so important .

Sister Zeph
Dec 12, 2020
Dec 12, 2020

My dear Charlotte, I am so sorry you had to face all this at such a young age. I am sending you a big hug, a lot of love and prayers. I am so proud of you. World have to face mental and sexual torture and they are being controlled by someone most of the time but your story of strength and self motivation gives courage to the women to stay strong and keep moving to have a better life. Thank you for being you

Rosegold
Dec 12, 2020
Dec 12, 2020

Thank you for your message.
And sending love back to you for the work you do.. and the strength you have not to give up what you truely believe in.
Your work is amazing and keep doing it... you have to keep going and being that inspirational person for all those girls.
My work is just starting out and I am hoping what I have created can help to... art is always a great way for us to express ourselves and that was always my freedom!
Which I now pass on to my children and those around me .
I do hope maybe I could help you I might not be able to donate money but I would love to in a creative way if I can.
Lottie x

KABAHENDA KIGGUNDU
Dec 12, 2020
Dec 12, 2020

My dear Charlotte,
First and foremost, I applaud you for your candour, your courage, your determination, your resilience and your success in the face of such "insurmountable" difficulties.

What you have gone through, what you have achieved to date, and where you are headed teaches me that with determination and hard work, nothing is impossible!
When I first met you through a breakout period during the last Aspire conference, I had idea about your background!

You are a source of great inspiration to all of us here at World Pulse. More power to you.

Rosegold
Dec 13, 2020
Dec 13, 2020

Thank you for your kind words,
It was lovey to meet you and what an amazing support I am getting for all of you.
This place for me seems like finally I can embrace who I really am and I don’t have to hide anymore thank you for having me and I feel safe here!
If there is anything I can do to help you please ask x

KABAHENDA KIGGUNDU
Dec 14, 2020
Dec 14, 2020

Hello,

You are in a safe and secure place at World Pulse. Remember I asked you about your cards? Is it possible for me to send you a private message or you can email me at [email protected] Have a good week.

Rosegold
Dec 14, 2020
Dec 14, 2020

Hi,

yes i will send you a message over now no worries.
thankyou x

Rosegold
Dec 14, 2020
Dec 14, 2020

Have messaged you x

Hawwah
Dec 12, 2020
Dec 12, 2020

Dear Charlotte,
Welcome home.
World PUlse is the right place for strong women like you honey.
You are an amazing survivor and you are loved by your sisters all over the world.
I would love to read your books soon.
In love and sisterhood,
Hawwah.

Rosegold
Dec 13, 2020
Dec 13, 2020

And thank you to you...
I would love to share my books especially my art therapy ones with so many of you... I feel it’s helped me in so many ways and I want to show that to. All it takes is strong women to come together ... which I feel is such magic the support we can give one another can give great strength... and knowing that this place is safe and supportive x thank you

Ashael
Dec 15, 2020
Dec 15, 2020

Thank you for sharing your story....you are a strong woman and can make a big impact on the world !!

Sending love and the very best to you.

Sincerely,
Aisha Shael

Rosegold
Dec 15, 2020
Dec 15, 2020

Thank you for you message ..
Let’s hope so there is always a beginning and this is mine I feel.
And the same back to you x
Charlotte x

Anum Shakeel
Dec 16, 2020
Dec 16, 2020

Hi Sister Charlotte, You are love. Thank you for sharing your super amazing story. Love and Hugs from Pakistan!

Rosegold
Dec 17, 2020
Dec 17, 2020

Hi to you to...
Thank you for your kind words
Love and hugs from the uk x

Rahmana Karuna
Dec 17, 2020
Dec 17, 2020

Charlotte, thank you so much for sharing your life story, difficult as it is. What comes to my mind from shamanic training is "wounded healer". Those who have healed their wounds and transition to healers.
Rumi says, “The wounds are the places where light enters.”
i will be passing this story to a friend in england single mum with 2 children, and others whom i feel would buy and benefit from your works. hopefully in your other posts you have provided info or links on how to obtain your work.
blessings to you, know you are loved!!!

Rosegold
Dec 17, 2020
Dec 17, 2020

Thank you I have put my story here so others can see that even life can be hard.. you can come out of it and become who you really want to be!
The resources are there to help also... my website should be there if not its www.rosegoldgallery.com.. or find me on facebook.com/lottie.ralph/
Or can email me personally at [email protected] I would be happy to show how my packs work.. and what art can do as it has helped me so much.
sending love back to you
Charlotte x

Dec 20, 2020
Dec 20, 2020

And you have truly inspired me .
You are an amazingly strong woman .
Welcome to World Pulse Dear Charlotte and thanks for sharing your personal story with us .
I am sending you a big hug from here. I absolutely love your courage and determination at changing your pain to purpose.
Please keep writing.

Lots of love
JoOak

Rosegold
Dec 20, 2020
Dec 20, 2020

That is so kind of you thank you..
I am so happy I have inspired you we are all in this together sand to support each other in this world!
Love to you too x
Charlotte

Wala Lut
Dec 21, 2020
Dec 21, 2020

Hi Charlotte,
U are the greatest warrior.

Good luck..
Much Love.