The Frontlines of My Life

rosemary_ntoipo
Posted February 13, 2017 from Tanzania
 A strong, educated and couragious young woman
The Privilege and importance of Self Worth in a girl or woman

Martha grew up just like all other children in her community. She was a beautiful happy girl. Her father a polygamist had five wives. Unlike many girls from her community she had a chance of attending school and completed both primary and secondary education successfully.

When the exam results were released to the public, she had managed a good score that saw her join high school for her A ‘level. I was very excited for her because I had a chance of visiting her in secondary school and encouraged her to work hard which she did. To me that was exemplary for I knew her background quite well.

The two years of her study were not easy, she had personal challenges. During this time she conceived. This angered her father very much. From then his anger was so much directed to her mother. It became uncomfortable ‘home was not home’ again.

Time went by and Martha safely delivered her beautiful girl baby. Several months passed by she decided to go back to school and with the help of her sponsor eventually completed successfully. She joined college, completed and got a job. She took her child to school and made sure she got the best.

All this time her mother’s life had changed completely, the husband had turned wild on her and she later became ill. Martha took her for treatment which saw her in and out of hospital in many occasions. They loved each other so much, they were best of friends and I witnessed this anytime I was with them.

A few years later her mother died. We lost a good friend. The thought of Martha, her baby and the wish that the mother lived to see her granddaughter grow, was not to become for life in itself is full of unseen obstacles beyond the scope of our words. The best thing was that Martha was such a brave girl who focused on the positive side of her life and let the past be it. I saw a courageous, strong woman in her who paved way to pick a fruit from a large tree –education

She became independent she did what she wanted for herself. Chose to dress what she felt was best for her and along the way she continued to make progress and gained courage. Many times we met she told me of the good times with the mother and how she rose above challenges. I knew this wasn’t easy for her. It was very difficult for me to play her mother’s role, a thing I tried to do many times. Their bound had been very strong.

One day she poured out her heart, on the need to forgive her father whom she had not spoken to for a long time. She asked, me what I thought of it. “That is very good”, I encouraged her. This was one of her turning points in life. She bought gifts for her father, among them a blanket which in my community symbolizes respect, love and appreciation of a parent/guardian and also gave him money. They forgave each other. All was well again.

Many women in my community and country are yet to discover their self worth. FGM, early unwanted pregnancies and early forced marriages continue to hamper the advancement of girls and women in Tanzania.

My drive is to impact a positive attitude in girls and women, to discover and develop their potential. I, intend to build the capacity of my community on the importance of taking their children to school especially the girl child and to understand the new law on child marriage.

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BarbaraP
Feb 13, 2017
Feb 13, 2017

What a lovely and uplifting story!  You must be so proud of what Martha has done with her life, and your love and assistance.  You have played a significant role in her life, especially after she lost her mother.  And I was so happy to read that she was able to reconcile with her father; forgiveness is such an important part of being human.

Thank you for sharing this story and thanks for being there for Martha and others that you are helping.  Keep up the very important work you are doing.

Blessings,

Barbara

rosemary_ntoipo
Feb 13, 2017
Feb 13, 2017

Thanks a lot Barbara. Absolutely, I am  proud of her and if all girls could rise above their challenges like she did, then many of them will make good choices and progress in their own lives. I appreciate so much Barbara. Yes,forgiveness is such an important part of being human.

Again, thanks a lot,and blessings too,

Very warm regards,

Rosemary.

Shirley Kimmayong
Feb 13, 2017
Feb 13, 2017

Thank you for sharing this story. We need people who will be there for us, in good times or bad, and help cheer us on. 

rosemary_ntoipo
Feb 13, 2017
Feb 13, 2017

Thank you so much Lei. I appreciate very much and like you mentioned we need to be there for each other, in good times or bad ones and help cheer us on. That's very important.

Thanks again Lei,

Very warm regards,

Rosemary

CATHIE
Feb 13, 2017
Feb 13, 2017

Hi Rosemary,

Reading this story has taught me to always rise up and step on my challenges then march forward. I love Martha's bold courage and determination to pave her own way. Some times we are pushed back by the words from our parents and we end up darkening our bright future. Thanks so much for being by her and encouraging her, you are a lovely great mother. May you continue to shine light in many lives that you are helping.

Bright blessings,

Cathie.

rosemary_ntoipo
Feb 14, 2017
Feb 14, 2017

Thanks a lot Cathy, Am so grateful and especially to know that this story has taught you and  like you mentioned, to always rise up and step on own challenges then march forward. It is indeed important not to ever allow anyone stop you from achieving what you want especially your bright future. We love our parents but sometimes wisdom helps us in making sound decisions that are very sustainable and they at some point in life will see and appreciate the decision you made. I appreciate a lot.

Again, thanks a lot.

Very warm regards and bright blessings too.

Rosemary.

Julie Zenterra
Mar 08, 2017
Mar 08, 2017

Thank you for this beautiful and inspiring story. It takes a lot of bravery and courage to forgive, but if you can, it is enormously freeing. Your words are such a wonderful reminder of the gifts we receive when we find it our hearts to forgive, Rosemary!

rosemary_ntoipo
Mar 17, 2017
Mar 17, 2017
rosemary_ntoipo
Mar 17, 2017
Mar 17, 2017

Thanks a lot juliezenterra, Am very happy that you find this inspiring and yes, if one can forgiveness leaves us completely free,happy with ourselves and others. Like you mentioned enormously freeing, I like that.

Again, thanks a lot and with very warm regards,

Rosemary

rosemary_ntoipo
Mar 17, 2017
Mar 17, 2017

Thanks a lot juliezenterra, Am very happy that you find this inspiring and yes, if one can forgiveness leaves us completely free,happy with ourselves and others. Like you mentioned enormously freeing, I like that.

Again, thanks a lot and with very warm regards,

Rosemary