Through the mirror of an early forced marriage

rosemary_ntoipo
Posted September 7, 2018 from Tanzania

When Sailepu decided on the fate of Normemiri, he didn’t seem to realize what he was doing at the time. All he wanted was to marry her off to an older man in exchange of dowry.

In the wake of yet another long journey into her young life, as a child mother she struggled and encountered many challenges. Two of her first children were epileptic and had to tend to them most of her time, not forgetting she also had old man (husband) to take care of.

Her frail husband needed more attention. She had no education and a formal job was not anywhere her dream.

Whenever I met her, I would take her for lunch and give her some money (unsustainable).   Her life was like cut off from the rest of the world. It revolved around what her father chose for her, to become another man’s property and no one could take her away from him as the tradition/culture dictated.

She left home, for the shopping Centre where she visited the grinding mill and picked what dropped on the ground (corn / maize) for the family. She later got casual work as a cleaner in a small hotel and by the end of the day she would take some food home.

My campaign is ‘stop child marriage’ #letchildrenbechildren to help support girls through education. A strategy that includes ‘peace as a value ingredient so that families can peacefully participate in creating a trans-formative positive change for ‘peace for girls’

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Tamarack Verrall
Sep 07, 2018
Sep 07, 2018

Dear Rosemary,
There are many forms of discrimination and violence against women, but this is one of the biggest and it is so encouraging to know that so many WorldPulse sisters like you are facing it close up. I am sure that Sailepu will never forget your kindness. I hope we can find ways to have #letchildrenbechildren be as supported and well known as #MeToo.

With love in Sisterhood,
Tam

Jill Langhus
Sep 08, 2018
Sep 08, 2018

Hi Rosemary,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your story about Normemiri. How is she doing now? I hope she is becoming more empowered now?!

Hope you have a great day!

Lisbeth
Dec 14, 2018
Dec 14, 2018

Hi Rosemary,
Hmmm life is hard oo. The reality of it is unbearable sometimes but we glad she got a job now doing.
Regards
Lizzy

Beth Lacey
Dec 16, 2018
Dec 16, 2018

Such a sad story. Good luck with your campaign.
Beth

Feka
Mar 10
Mar 10

Dear Rosemary's,
Thanks for sharing Normemiri's story. I hope she finds a better employment or source of income to be able to meet her needs

Nusrat Ara
Jun 12
Jun 12

Dear Rosemary, Child Marriages are such an injustice to the little ones. You are working on such a noble cause.

Rahmana Karuna
Jun 16
Jun 16

Rosemary, thank you for sharing Normemiri's story, there is legal child marriage in the usa also. men make the rules. that needs to change.

rosemary_ntoipo
Jun 17
Jun 17

Thanks a lot Rahmana and very happy to connect with you here. Yes, the rules must change. That's why am saying let #letchildrenbechildren