Women in action

Rosylyne Nabaala
Posted March 7, 2019 from Kenya

I was married to a man who doesn't come from my tribe and we were happy and loving each other as husband and wife also both his parents and mine were fine with our marriage expecially his parents loved me as their daughter in law. After staying together for 18 months I got pregnant and after 9months I had labor pain and when I told my husband to take me to the hospital he refused to take me to the hospital but he called his mother to come to our house.  The mother in law  came to my house and she confirmed that I was really in labor pain and then she went out of my house and left me with my husband , after 20 min she came back with other 4women . My mother in law called my husband outside the house and after few minutes he came back to the house and he told me "you must co-parete with this women and obey each and every oder from them" I ask him why but he told that he doesn't want any question from me . 

I was still in labor pain and suffering then I request my mother in law to take me to the hospital but I was shocked to hear that there is no going to the hospital and she and the other women are my guest and she explained to me that we are here to do FGM to  you today and now before you deliver! My heart skip a bit and I thought of a solution faster then I decided to escape through the back door. On my way I was calling my friends and Anna to come and help me. Anna is my neighbor and a friend and also my tribe, I was lucky Anna picked my call and came running to me. I told her everything and she informed other ladies who also came to join us but by bad luck my mother in law and the other women arived before the car, my mother in law tried to return me back home but my friends being led by Anna were very helpful and powerful by shouting and attracting the community to come and assist. My husband was not there, the 4women brought by my mother in law were defeated by the other women who came to help me. Anna and friends call the police and the police came and  I was taken to the hospital but when we reached the hospital  doctor said the labor pain was no more because of the shock . I staid in the hospital for two days then the labor pain  started again also with the help of the drip and I gave birth to a baby boy  after seven hours in labor . I thank God the women took a good and a quick action to come and rescue me and my an born child, I didn't go back to that family again and after the long FGM case between me and my mother in law I came out the winner I'm happy my neighbors and Anna's the strong women were my witnesses in the court. Women are very  poweful and can save life when took action . 

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Jill Langhus
Mar 07
Mar 07

Hi Rosylyne,

Wow! Now that's a story. OMG. I'm so glad your friends came to your rescue. That was scary. So, you left your husband? Did he come after you and your son?

I hope you have a good IWD, dear.

Good luck with your story submission!

Rosylyne Nabaala
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so much for your encouraging words.

Jill Langhus
Mar 08
Mar 08

You're welcome!

Happy IWD!

Obisakin Busayo
Mar 07
Mar 07

Oh my God! Thank God for your friends and for them to be women of action. I appreciate you for being so strong to take the decision not to go back there again! Happy Women's Day my Sister!
warmest Love
Busayo

Corine Milano
Mar 07
Mar 07

Rosylyne, I am so proud of you for speaking out and sharing this harrowing account. I am so glad that you have a network of friends who were able to help you escape this terrifying situation. How are you and your son now? I am very very sorry that this happened, and very glad that you are speaking about it now! It is such a testament to the strength and power of sisterhood!

Rosylyne Nabaala
Mar 07
Mar 07

My son and I are doing well and healthy, I'm a single mother straggling to cater for my family. The man married eighth wifes since I left and the other seven let one remain.

Corine Milano
Mar 07
Mar 07

I am SO glad that you are both well and healthy—and of course, it must be so hard to be a single mother. I am glad that you are safe from his family, however. Am I to understand that you were able to take his mother to court for her attempt at FGM? How does that work in Kenya?

Rosylyne Nabaala
Mar 07
Mar 07

FGM is illegal and people are being convicted but with my case I could have to stay in the same village for me to go on with the case and to hire a lawyer and I don't have money also it was to put my life in danger so I dropped the case .

Leina
Mar 07
Mar 07

Waow sister,there is so much power when women are united.Thank God you escaped that ordeal.Sending hugs of solidarity your way.

Emily Miki
Mar 07
Mar 07

Dear Rosylyne,

Now this is a story! How are you and the baby boy doing? I am particularly happy you were strong enough despite the pain and shock to take action; taking action is what a lot of our sisters lack courage to do and the women neighbours deserve an accolade. They are strong women. I am really happy there was no delivery related health challenge and happy you were brave enough to go to court and had victory.

Congratulations for being a success story for the fight against FGM and I hope you take up a task to be a FGM Advocate and fight for the rights for women and girls who come from your baby's father's tribe and your nation as a whole.

Happy IWD!

Enjoy!!!

Emily

Rosylyne Nabaala
Mar 08
Mar 08

Thank you for your encouraging words, now I'm planning to build a rescue home for the women and girls in need .

Emily Miki
Mar 09
Mar 09

Ok great that sounds good. Wishing you Godspeed as you embark on the journey!

Deborah Munyekenye
Mar 08
Mar 08

A very touching story.