The moonly visitor

Rosylyne Nabaala
Posted May 16, 2019 from Kenya
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Mother! Mother! Come and help me. What is it? My mother asked while coming towards my direction. When she came I showd her the blood on my bed and told her that  I urinated blood at night and feel abdomen pain then I requested her to take me to the doctor for treatment. She was standing beside me when she told me ...."don't warry my lovely daughter you did not urinated blood but this is normal with female when they reach their maturity the moonly visitor come to visit them for 3or4 days then disappear I was also your age when I received mine and I remember that day vividly when my mother gave me dry banana leaves and shows me how to use them, so I took the leaves and tie it on my weast beads ring in front and cover my private part then tied it at my back beads ring" I asked her if it was helpful to her and she said yes.

In my community we celebrate the menstrual day by giving our girls free sanitary napkin and having health talk about mensuration.

I am a menstrual and hygiene activist in my community. There is a good impact since I started to go to schools and talking to girls but the challenge is that most of the girls are coming from poor families and they can not afford to buy pads and they are using old mattresses which is harmful to their health and they are at risk of getting infections and that is why I am making washable sanitary napkin and pants and giving them for free. 

I will teach my daughter about machurity and menstrual as early as before her maturity. 

 

This story was submitted in response to Menstruation Matters.

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Jill Langhus
May 16
May 16

Hi Rosylyne,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your own, personal story of your first period and also your very important work. Thank goodness you are there to help so many girls. Keep up the good work!

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 16
May 16

Thank you so much for your comments and encouragement.

Jill Langhus
May 17
May 17

You're very welcome, lovely:-)

Hope you have a great day, and weekend:-)

Lisbeth
May 16
May 16

Haha, you are fortunate you got a mother who was at ease to give you more information at that time.
My mother was like, just do I asked you, kind of look. haha
Thanks for sharing your story.

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 16
May 16

My mother told me that they use to call menstrual periods the moonly visitor (direct translation from her mother tongue) before the calendars come for us to know the days, weeks, months and years and menstrual periods is now called monthly periods.

Corine Milano
May 16
May 16

Thank you for sharing, Roslyne! I love your mother's description of periods as the moonly visitor, and I am glad she spoke to you about your period. It must have been very scary for you to not know what was going on - to feel that something was wrong with you and that you needed a doctor. I love that you are a menstrual hygiene activist and that you have vowed to teach your daughter about menstruation before she starts her period herself. Thank you again for sharing and for your work! It's so great to have you here.

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 16
May 16

Thank you so much my lovely sister

ARREY- ECHI
May 17
May 17

Hello Rosylyne,
Thank you for sharing your story and for all you do.
I agree that poor girls are usually always at a disadvantage when it comes to having access to menstural hygiene tools and knowledge. Thank you for the work you do. Keep it going.

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 17
May 17

Asante sana for your good wards

maeann
May 17
May 17

Hi Rosylyne,

I remember we use a white cloth for pads and wash it before sanitary napkin introduce by companies. I think the washable pad is more healthy to use compare with the sanitary pad (maybe) depends on the user? hahaha. Anyways, thanks for sharing and advocating it.

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 18
May 18

Yes the washable are even chirp and best

Tarke Edith
May 18
May 18

Hi Rosylyne
Thanks for sharing your story to us about how you received you monthly visitor, it is an experience to tell sis

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 18
May 18

Yes! Especially when you were not told about machurity and menstrual cycle. Thank you so much for your comments lots of love my dear sister.

Hello, Rosylyne,

This is the first time I’ve heard of using dried banana leaves as a pad. How was it? Does it leak fast? I’m curious because there are a lot of bananas in our country. Is it comfortable? Would you recommend it as an alternative to disposable sanitary pads?

Thank you for sharing your period story and your advocacy. Your work is very important. I’m happy that your community celebrate when a girl menstruate the first time. Please keep us posted with your stories.

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 30
May 30

They use to squeeze the dry banana leaves to soften it abit before use but we can not use this now because we have better things nowadays.

Oh I see. Thank you for this information. I am amazed how resourceful women are when sanitary pads were not yet available. I learned something new from you. :)

Rosylyne Nabaala
May 30
May 30

Thank you my lovely dear sister, women are creative so long as they meet their needs.

You’re welcome. That’s true about women. Hope you have a great day!

Rosylyne Nabaala
Jun 02
Jun 02

Thanks dear

You're welcome. :)

Rosylyne Nabaala
Jun 03
Jun 03

Lovely sister

Mikaela Kate
Jun 27
Jun 27

Rosylyn, I love that your your mother calls you lovely daughter. Her mother tongue is the most perfect definition i have heard. Moonly Visitor. i hope you dont mind me using this term. in fact, can i share your article on my facebook page? your experience is so hopeful and invites people with more to give. May all girls have even a moment of being treated like a lovely daughter. Im with you in all ways.

Rosylyne Nabaala
Jun 30
Jun 30

Thank you so much my lovely sister