’ve recently been thinking a lot about what I don’t have and how if only “I had this much money” or “this many clients” than my life would be so much better and I would be so much happier.
This is a limiting mindset to be in. When I find myself perceiving my world in this way, it sets the stage for a chain-link affect of scarcity and fear. Whether this be in my business, relationships, hobbies, etc.
I tune into the frequency of victim-hood and think “poor me” and “if I had this in Y in my life, I could achieve X” and” because I lack Y, I can never get X”.
When we think in this way, we see our lives in this way. We believe that we do not have enough stuff, money, love, beauty whatever it may be. We look outside of ourselves and consume more and more until we are left feeling emptier than when we first began.
This only feeds the cycle of believing that we are not enough and that we don’t have what it takes to live the life of our dreams.
So we continue on the wheel that we perceive as “our life”; going round and round in circles of despair and grief.
But I am here to tell you that there is another way.
There is always another way to look at your life and yourself.
Photo: ©Laurie Bauers @lauriebauersart
Only YOU have the power and ability to change your life and your circumstances. How cool is that (though I admit it is sometimes a daunting thought, but mainly cool).
I’ve been cultivating a gratitude practice in the last few months. I do this especially when I find myself descending into old patterns of “not having enough” or “not being enough”.
Every morning I take time to either think, write, and speak aloud things in my life I am grateful for.
It could be as simple as having a roof over my head or a delicious cup of coffee to drink in the morning. Or it could be as big as finding my dream Jungalow to live in or getting a few new clients a week.
The point it, how we view our reality is what shapes our life. We create our life and our attitudes and shifting our attitude from one of frustration and anger to one of gratitude for all that we already have will change your life tremendously.
If we are constantly putting out the vibe that we don’t have enough or are lacking something, then that is how we will see ourselves and every aspect of our life. This is what will come back to us and this view will haunt us in our relationships with others and ourselves.
Why choose to live in misery when you can live in gratitude?
I am not saying that this shift is easy either.
Like anything worthwhile, it is going to take some time and awareness to consciously change your beliefs about feeling grateful for yourself and your life.
Our society has unfortunately given us the idea that we are always lacking something and if only we would buy this product, then our lives would be magically changed right there and then.
I am going to tell you right now, that gratitude is something that you cannot buy. It is not something that can be sold either.
It is already within you, waiting to burst free from it’s shackles of grief and shine through your whole being like a luminous star!
We all have this ability to shine bright, harness our power, and live the life that is aligned with our true selves.
Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can get us to this place of wholeness and inner peace.
What do you have to lose besides your debilitating mindset?
To cultivate a gratitude practice:
Pick a time of day where you can reflect on all you are grateful for (you will not need more than five minutes if you’re in a pinch! This can be done anywhere at anytime).
Reflect on a few things you are grateful for. Write them down, speak them out loud, or simply think about them. You can even tell someone you are grateful for them as well. Bonus points!
Notice how you feel before, during, and after this practice. What arises within you?
Come back to this feeling of gratitude anytime you feel yourself shifting back into old ways of being such as scarcity and fear-based mindsets.
The way that we perceive our reality is what our reality will be. Remember this. You have the power to design your life and shift your attitude whenever you desire.
I am so grateful to you for reading this and for this platform to share my ideas on:).