SAY NO TO FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION

Sabdio Roba
Posted December 5, 2019 from Kenya

As the world marks 16 days of activism against gender based violence, I would like to remember millions of girls who undergo female genital mutilation. Girls who are forced to undergo the pain of cutting, and girls who innocently go through mutilation believing that it is ‘so normal’ for them to be cut.

I remember when we were kids, my five friends and I really pressurized our mothers to ensure that we were cut over a certain holiday. I am sure somebody will wonder why we did. The reason is because, from a young age we were made to believe Female Genital Mutilation is very normal, that every girl needs to go through it, that nobody gets married before being cut and that cutting is the only way you can fully become part of your community as a woman. But years later we discovered the sad truth, that FGM is violence and it is not a must to undergo it and that girls who are not circumcised are very normal.

You will hear stories of women whose womanhood are destroyed due to female genital mutilation, stories of women whose careers were cut short and self-esteem destroyed. As a survivor of this cutting, I really hate it and I always believe that it is the worst kind of human rights violation against women. It has no benefit to anyone, not even the community members that aspire with all they have to cut every girl.

Sometimes I wonder whether we are doing the right thing as grass root fighters against this harmful practice but whatever approach we use, we must fight and we will fight to our last breath. It has hard to eradicate deeply rooted belief overnight but one thing I always believe is that even a drop in an ocean will finally bring out that change. Let us continue working on more policies, target more of younger generation/young girls so that when we look back years later in our very old ages we will feel so much pride of the impact that was brought out of our struggles. Am no longer a victim of this practice but a survivor, and as a proud survivor I say no to FGM and call upon all of you to join me in this journey, let us work as much as we can towards having a world free of the cut for every girl.  #orangetheworld#Istandwithher#notofemalegenitalmutilation#aproudsurvivor.                                                                                

This story was submitted in response to #IStandWithHer.

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Anita Shrestha
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

thank u forsharing

Lisbeth
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Dear Sabdio,
I hope you are doing well? Thanks for this post on female genital mutilation. This practice is most horrible and all must frown against it. It very good you highlighted it during this our campaign.
Have a great day and take care of yourself.
Hugs

Jill Langhus
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello Sabdio Love,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your update and short bio on FGM. Horrible that it's so normalized that you and your friends were literally begging to have this done. Is this still a prevalent practice, i.e., girls still asking to have it done?

I hope that you never question whether what you're doing is important and necessary. There is no question. Please message me if you're ever in doubt again:-) And, yes, every drop is important. I am with you.

Do you have long term health challenges due to having this done? I do hope not:-(

Hope you're doing well, dear, and that you have a great weekend!

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello, dear Sabdio,

I agree that FGM is a violation of women's rights. How horrifying that as young girls you thought this was how it should be done. I'm sorry that you experience this. Thank you for raising your voice on this issue. Keep up the fight to save more innocent girls. We stand with you! Thank you for sharing!

Hannah B
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Dear Sabdio,
I am so sorry that this is something you experienced as girls, and I am impressed with your determination to fight against it.
I hope you are finding support and inspiration from other sisters to work on this issue and uplift one another in the face of this abuse of girls human rights!
Warm regards,
Hannah

lizzymark
Dec 08, 2019
Dec 08, 2019

Cultural beliefs are truly something to deal with. But we will not stop teaching and educating them just like the culture was practiced over and over and the beliefs taught over and over. Its a great job you are doing keep on.

blanch1981
Dec 10, 2019
Dec 10, 2019

Hi Sabdio! Thank you very much for sharing this story. It is indeed an eye opener that such is a truth that needs to be corrected. I am proud for you who speak against female genital mutilation most especially from someone who was born to believe it is normal.
Stay brave and awesome!

Jane
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

My sister, I know exactly what you talking about, these culture of ours and the fact that at that time you had no voice to question what had to happen with your body, whether painful or something you didnt want to do but just obey. I am glad we now have a platform to say "NO"and to protect our next generation and our own daughters to be exposed to such. Though this didnt happen directly to me but people closer to me were lured to it and learned to regret and that mark/scar is a lifetime mark that is haunting them and trying hard to live with it and only accept that it happened. #standwithher and the whole generation to come.

Paulina Nayra
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Oh dear Sabdio... I can imagine how painful it was for a young girl to be subjected to such a useless rite of passage. This practice should be stopped within our lifetime. Let no girl, suffer the same. Not one more.
#IStandWithHer and you Sabio in saying #notofemalegenitalmutilation

Huggs.

Jap Mouki Christelle Alexandra
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Yes you are a survivor! Thank you for sharing your story . We will stop talking about this issue of FGM.

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 18
Jan 18

Dear Sabdio,
Making such a deep change is work that many have a hard time imagining, and by your writing about it we are all able to carry the information that we know women like you are standing strong that FGM must end. The argument that this and other forms of violence against women and control of women "have aways been this way" are just words that keep being repeated generation to generation to keep us down. Here in World Pulse we are breaking through the control of women in every way. That you are carrying this necessary message, and that you are in touch with so many young people through your work, is such good news.